22 Able To Keep The Baby

Today, I found out that Iam pregnant.... Iam a 22 year old with 2 jobs and support myself fully with my own house... My last period was nov 16th.. I know financially I would be ok... But emotionally Iam not ready. Although I am extremely responsible for my age, I do not and am not ready for the responsibility of a child.
The father of
The baby would be my ex. Whom is crazy. And after dating him less than a month and truly finding out how crazy he is, I would never want him as a father to my child.. I always pictured my first child with the love of my life and with A man I just adored and would share the experience of parenting with... I always said I was against abortion until now... I want an abortion... The other side of me doesn't. I think of a baby and someone being a part of me and I just melt at the idea... My moms life was taken from me and I feel like I will be taking life away from this baby... Iam torn but I know in the end I want an abortion, Iam just nervous with already being diagnosed with depression and having to go through with this.. I should have been smarter..
Bentley2013 Bentley2013
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4 Responses Jan 5, 2013

Why are you having sex with someone like him? If you don't want to get pregnant, don't have sex. It's not the child's fault who it's father is. You picked him.

Despite all their talk about "choice," those at abortion clinics who counsel women on their options often act as if abortion is a woman's only realistic alternative. This simply isn't so.

Throughout the United States, there are nearly 3,000 Crisis Pregnancy Centers staffed by volunteers ready to provide real help to women facing unplanned or untimely pregnancies. [112] In addition to providing pregnancy tests and counseling, these centers often offer a full range of services, helping women obtain housing, maternity and baby clothes, baby equipment, pre- and post-natal medical care, legal assistance and financial support, information about adoption, and even advice on how a woman in school can continue her education. [113] Offering real and tangible assistance, these centers have helped thousands of women to realize that they didn't have to choose between their own lives and the lives of their unborn babies.

Unlike their counterparts at the local abortion clinic, the volunteer counselors at your Crisis Pregnancy Center do not have a vested financial interest in the ultimate decision you make. Their concern and commitment are genuine, so you can count on them to stick by you through the tense and sometimes difficult months ahead.

If you picked up this pamphlet at your local Crisis Pregnancy Center, you already have some idea of the quality of people who work there. But if not, you can look in the Yellow Pages under the heading "Abortion Alternatives," or call, toll-free, 1 (800) 848-LOVE, any time, day or night, to find the nearest Crisis Pregnancy Center in your area. You'll find someone who genuinely cares about what happens to you and your unborn baby.

Don't feel guilty. Abortion is a great option if you aren't ready. Being fully capable is not just financially either. You must be emotionally and mentally ready and if you feel you aren't, abort. I support you 100% and you should feel proud for being responsible. Get some sleep! Don't feel guilty, it is the right choice!

Thank you for your story. Do not punish yourself. You must make the right decision for you. Either way you still will meet the right guy and have the family you dreamed of.

Thank you. I'm just laying here in bed with remorse... I don't want to regret my choice. Iam new to the whole hey I'm pregnant thing. It's day one. Iam choosing not to let anyone know but a select few. If I do and which Iam almost 100% sure I will have an abortion, Iam going to promise myself that everything happens for a reason. And my god is a loving and forgiving god. I need to promise myself its ok before I follow through. And I am reassuring myself that when I finally am ready to have my first born child, that I will love them twice as much. Thank you for your support.

You're always gonna leave yourself open to some really harsh criticism and mean things being said. But just to let you know... Been there done that. I just had an abortion a lil over a week ago. I was seven weeks at the time of the procedure. I was four weeks when I found out. I just had a baby, she's gonna be turning six months, and my other child is almost seven years, and severely handicapped. It's hard to get by. I had to stop work while i was pregnant last time and it made itnfinancially hard. That's one reason of many why I chose not to continue the pregnancy. I don't know how i would've supported my family at that point. Plus I know I woulda had to do a third c sect, so I couldn't have gone right back to work. And yes, was on birth control. And condoms, but hey, I guess I'm that percentage that it didnt work for. Yeah I went thru the " will I go to hell, am i a bad person" etc, and I'd be lying if I said i didn't lay here at night and wonder what I could've done differently. But still.... Like you, I believe that my God forgives, and knows I learned a valuable lesson. No one can say anything to make us feel anymore guilty than we already do. We beat ourselves up mentally more than anyone could. It's not easy, it never is. I'm sorry you're going through this, pray about it, talk about it, think about it, cry about it. In the end it's your choice, and do what you think is right. No one else has to live with the end result either way, just you. I wish you the best of luck.

Black Orchids how date you use the bible to promote your beliefs on abortion. It also says in the bible not to judge. I am Catholic and went to Catholic schools my whole life and am appalled by your comment.