Having An Abortion In 2 Days

I am 26 years old, and a single mom of two amazing kids. Back in September I met the guy"coward" that I am currently pregnant by. When I got with him I knew that he was married. He was seperated however; and "getting" a divorce. Well everything went great for a few weeks, but then I started realizing that he had a severe drinking problem. I talked to him about it, and it seemed to get better. One night we were hanging out, and he started drinking. It got really bad, and we ended up splitting up, and he got back with his wife. About a week after this huge mess, I found out I was pregnant. I was terrified!! I am a single mother of two, already supporting them by myself, pregnant by a married man, who has mental issues, and an alcoholic. I am now 12 weeks. I thought about abortion from the very moment I took the test, but decided against it. As I have went this far, alone, sick, depressed, and scared. I finally decided on abortion. I talked to my family, and they support me 100%. I really wish I would have done it as soon as I found out, but I wanted to see if I could tough it out. I got severely depressed over it, and thought about it through all eyes. Mine: I have two kids that I take care of everyday alone. Support wise, and physically and emotionally. I have college experience, but no career. The fetus: will have an acholic for a father, a step mother who hates me, and only calls when he is drunk. The wife: she is trying to work through her marriage, and has to face the fact that her husband got another woman pregnant. How could she love this one? Look at it and see it looking like the woman he was with, and acting like me? I did not just make this decision out of selfishness. I tried to accept it, but I can't. I think it is best. The guy who I got pregnant by called last week. The 2nd time we have talked in 3 months(since I've been pregnant) drunk off his butt. Couldn't talk or spell his text properly. To tell me that he missed me. While his wife was at work. I do not think me or an innocent child deserves anything like that, and I will not hand over an innOcent child's life to him, when I can hand it over to God. Anyone who has had an abortion at 12 weeks, please tell me what to expect during the procedure. I was told that the procedure will only take up to 15 min. Is this true? I'm also receiving conscious sedation, and they are numbing my cervics. Does this help? I'm going Friday morning. Any experiences would help a lot. I do not mind negative post, I am 100% sure I'm doing the right thing, and I have spoken to God several times. Also I am getting my tubes tied, cutt, and burned after the procedure to make sure I can not have more children. Thanks so much in advance for any advice on what to expect during the procedure and heeling process.
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6 Responses Jan 9, 2013

Studentbluz, thank you so much. I went through with it today. I will explain more in my update story that I'm fixing to post, called my decision, the wait, and the process. I hope it helps you with you going through it tomorrow. ;) please read it and best of luck dear, but don't stress. Also the protesters there.... There was only 3 and it was not bad, they are not allowed in the parking lot there, and they were gone by 11. However I did hear it was worse on Saturdays, because they are off work ;(. Love ya hun and God bless you.

Hi, I just wanted you to know you are not alone in this. I too will have the procedure done on Saturday. I hope you will not have issues with those that do not understand your choice. It is tough, but Time heals all wounds and you will be fine. If you can, please read my story 'Overwhelmed pregnant student' and the comments and I hope you too will find strength and peace from all the kind ladies that shared their experiences like I did and of course ignore the rude comments. I have no children yet, and would like some when I can be able to provide for them. Pay no attention to pro-lifers who also had abortions and have now conveniently changed to be against it. All the best with your procedure and please be sure that tying is what you want because that is permanent...unless you are sure you don't want to have any more children EVER. I have a friend who wishes to reverse it and has had no success. Also the procedure is pretty safe, the nurse assured me...my only nightmare will be gaining access to the clinic amidst prolifers who will be camped out there on the day of. They obviously have nothing better to do. I wish you all the best dear, and please ignore the drunk. You deserve a man who loves and appreciate you.

Thank you very much livelovej. I have done research, and they say 13 weeks is still 1st trimester?

I highly reccomend the sedation route. I had an abortion but was really early on so it only took a few minutes, maybe five. I was there with lots of girls further along than me, some as far as you are now, some at 13 weeks. I was with them in recovery afterwards, and they got sedation as well, and they seemed ok. Crampy, bleeding like a a heavy period. They will give you a heating pad, ibuprofen, antibiotics, and they gave us take home Valium and ultram. Every place is different from what I understand. Just stay calm and relaxed during. Breathe deep, focus on breathing, try not to tense up. The worst part is the The injection in cervix, but doubt you will feel it, as they are sedating you. I couldn't have sedation like I asked for cuz the medicine I taking, they gave me Versed thru iv and that was it. I think you'll do fine. Just remember to relax and breathe! Best of luck.

Thank you very much for the respond. I'm going at 8am and I feel a lot more relief after reading some stories on here ;)

Despite all their talk about "choice," those at abortion clinics who counsel women on their options often act as if abortion is a woman's only realistic alternative. This simply isn't so.

Throughout the United States, there are nearly 3,000 Crisis Pregnancy Centers staffed by volunteers ready to provide real help to women facing unplanned or untimely pregnancies. [112] In addition to providing pregnancy tests and counseling, these centers often offer a full range of services, helping women obtain housing, maternity and baby clothes, baby equipment, pre- and post-natal medical care, legal assistance and financial support, information about adoption, and even advice on how a woman in school can continue her education. [113] Offering real and tangible assistance, these centers have helped thousands of women to realize that they didn't have to choose between their own lives and the lives of their unborn babies.

Unlike their counterparts at the local abortion clinic, the volunteer counselors at your Crisis Pregnancy Center do not have a vested financial interest in the ultimate decision you make. Their concern and commitment are genuine, so you can count on them to stick by you through the tense and sometimes difficult months ahead.

If you picked up this pamphlet at your local Crisis Pregnancy Center, you already have some idea of the quality of people who work there. But if not, you can look in the Yellow Pages under the heading "Abortion Alternatives," or call, toll-free, 1 (800) 848-LOVE, any time, day or night, to find the nearest Crisis Pregnancy Center in your area. You'll find someone who genuinely cares about what happens to you and your unborn baby.