I Got Forced To Have An Abortion By My Boyfriend.

I found out I was pregnant for the second time with my boyfriend in November. The first time I had an abortion because it seemed the right decision and it was the most traumatic experience ever because I was so young and I told myself it would never happen Again. I then became pregnant for the second time and I was really happy. I was going to surprise my boyfriend on Christmas Day with a pregnancy test and a scan in a box saying to daddy on it. The scan was booked for Christmas Eve. But he then read messages on my phone and found out that I had cheated on him with another lad in university whilst drunk. I did not know I was pregnant at the time but it turns out by how far I was that I was already pregnant. I regret the affair deeply. I then told my boyfriend everything once he found out. Even about the pregnancy and I told him I wanted to keep it. He didn't want it and he said that the only way to get him back was to abort it. Me thinking I had the chance to get him back went along with it and instead of getting my scan on Christmas Eve I went to get refered for an abortion. Although we was together again. I had the worst Christmas ever and I went through with the termination on New Year's Eve. On that day he told me he loved me and that we could move on from all of this. Although it was a sad day I was happy. But then four days after the abortion and a few days before my exams in uni he finished me and told me he was only leading me on so I would have an abortion. I am now being prescribed anti depressants and am feeling suicidal at the fact that I gave my baby up for a man that doesn't want me. What could have been a healthy baby. I find it hard to live with what I have done and am wondering if there is anything I can do? X
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5 Responses Jan 11, 2013

Listen Peter. You obviously have too much time on your hands. We are ended and you apparently don't want any contact with me and I have not spoke to you since then so why are you carrying this on by posting that yesterday. Get a life and stay out of my life. And what was the reasons you lead me on for if they was completely different? And so what if Iv organised a date with someone else. Any company is better than yours. Live your life and I will live mine.

Hey people please don't feel sorry for this girl, I'm the man she was talking about and I just wanted to let you know that this story is VERY one sided yeah I led her on but for completely different reasons, and don't worry about how she's feeling because she let me know that she's already organised a date with someone from work and, I quote, 'I'm going to act like a ****, just like I was behind your back' yeah okay, good luck with your life.

I know here in American it is illegal to force someone into having an abortion. I pray for you. I had one at my own free will, I couldn't imagine being deceived like that. God bless you!

Men do horrible things when unwanted pregnancies happen. If you had had the baby you would have been attached to that man for the rest of your life and he probably would have ignored your baby.
Things work out for the best in the end.

That is very sad and cruel. What a b@stard. I have no idea if yo can sue him. I do suggest therapy for you. You will need help getting through your feelings of anger, sadness, and guilt. I am praying for you, if you don'tmind. -Sunny

Thankyou sunny