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I Had An Abortion

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By: vw1978
Written on February 2nd, 2013
By: vw1978
Age: 31-35 , Female
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  • hippiechik135

    I was in the 2nd trimester and also had kids already. Its been almost a year and I still get really sad. Sometimes I think I feel the baby kick. When this happens I just remind myself that I had to make a sacrifice for my other two kids to be able to give them a better life. Hope this helps

    Feb 4
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  • Inherownwords

    Some advice, do not respond to ignorant, judgmetal comments from prolifers, especially on this site. It will do nothing but make you feel worse and it is also a waste of time going back and fourth to prolifers who don't have a clue what they are talking about. Abortions is a sensitive subject and prolifers who come on here making comments like "you should have put the baby up for adoption", want to make women who experience abortion feel worse about their decision. I learned a few months ago, to ignore the ignorance and focus on getting better. Judgment an putting down women who had abortions doesn't help the situation nor does it end abortions. Its triggering.

    You have to want to recover from this. First thing is know that you are not alone. I had an abortion 5 years ago and I know very well what you are going thru. It takes time and a lot of work. You have to learn acxeptance and forgiveness. And by doing that is taking responsibility for your part. Also realize you did what you felt was best for you and your baby. You don't owe anybody an explanation. You had an abortion, its done, now it is up to you to decide on what to do in order to keep moving forward. In order for you to start moving forward, you have to talk about it. Have a strong support team that you can trust and feel safe with.

    I've done the work and that little bit of time, it has helped me a lot. I am almost to the point that I don't care what others think. But I still ignore the ignorance because it can be triggering and my ultimate goal is recovery. Please feel free to PM me if you need to talk.

    Feb 2
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  • Keyzgerl

    Apparently not every one respects the boundaries of the site asking to "respond with support and respect". Too many people want to shove their agendas down everyone's throats.
    You did what was right for the family you already have. You are intelligent to realize that you have enough.
    Get on some dependable birth control (depo vera) and move onward and upward with your family.
    Ignore the zealots who think because they wouldn't do, eat, read or watch something that none of us should.
    Be happy!!!! :)

    Feb 2
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  • Abortioniswrong

    U should put the baby up for adoption that's better then murdering an innocent child that didn't do anything wrong, i'm extremely sorry you went through with it but just know your baby is at least in a better place :)

    Feb 2
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  • Keyzgerl

    Be glad that you had the option. You are smart enough to see that four kids is enough. What's wrong with that? Nothing wrong or depressing in making a sensible choice. JMO, but focus on how lucky and sensible you are when too many others aren't. :)

    Feb 2
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    • Abortioniswrong

      Abortion is never the good option, don't you get that abortion is just another word for murder? Taking the life of an innocent human being, a child really who has no choice but to trust their mothers, where's their right to life? The baby feels the pain when they perform the procedure and so many people think it's safe but it's not, so many women have been not only emotionally but physically injured because of it, Planned Parenthood doesn't even give them anything for the pain afterwards, they just say to take Tylenol when they got home and shove them out the door as soon as the abortion is done, so tell me, how is murder "sensible"?

      Feb 2
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    • Keyzgerl

      I personally do not feel that a few cells that cannot survive on their own constitute any form of life.
      I was being supportive and looking on the bright side of having the option to choose what to do.
      Instead of being a negative and judgemental harpy that pushes their own agenda onto others. Maybe you should lighten up and realize that there are just as many different outlooks on every situation as there are people and that is just fine.
      Not everyone has to subscribe to the same kool-aid drinking train of thought. You sound like an angry and bitter person.
      I happen to rejoice that women have the options in this country to control our personal choices without tunnel visioned drama queens like you trying to run our lives for us.
      Get over yourself. You suck.

      Feb 2
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    • hippiechik135

      That's not true you shouldn't open your mouth if you're misinformed.

      Feb 4
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