Do Not Judge Please

I have been searching the net for weeks to read UN BIOS women share their real life stories of abortion but its very rare to find a site that does not call us murderers or killers. i would just like to say that no one in this world could hate me more than i hate myself for what i have done, and its only me that has to live with my conscience, no one else. i turned 26yrs old only this wk and i UN fortunately have had 3 abortions. i have no excuses or am not going to give reasons but i know what i did was what i believe to be the best thing for all concerned. each and every decision was a hard and painful decision to make and i cried nearly everyday of each pregnancy. there is no pain like the emotional pain you feel when you know that you have to make such a painful decision. i regret what i have done to a degree but only for the simple fact that i was not women enough to become a mother at those times. i would never judge another women for making the same decision i have for i know that it takes a strong women to live with the decision for the rest of her life. i hope to one day be in a place in my life where i can be a mother and i hope to be given another chance. i just want to say to all the women reading this that what you are facing or have faced is one of the hardest things you will ever face and you will always have my full understanding and non judgmental attitude. i just wished i was not judged as harshly as i was because unless you walk in my shoes, don't tell me how to walk in my life. like i said no one can hate me more than i hate myself. i wash every women all the best with their journey and i wish you all the compassion you deserve.xxx

belo2 belo2
26-30
9 Responses Feb 28, 2009

Poor you (not), you all are victims of your desicions, but the real victim is the baby. Next time try killing someone your own size. Pour babies... R.I.P.<br />
If they had lived, they would of thanked you so much. And for the sake of humanity, don't have families, cuz then you'll pass on the baby killing blood.

Poor you (not), you all are victims of your desicions, but the real victim is the baby. Next time try killing someone your own size. Pour babies... R.I.P.<br />
If they had lived, they would of thanked you so much. And for the sake of humanity, don't have families, cuz then you'll pass on the baby killing blood.

My story is SO very similar. Dont beat yourself up over it, I don't. Danae said it just as I would have. I have 2 beautiful babies, and I know my plate wasnt big enough for any more. You should, however, feel lucky you found yourself in the company of such supportive people. The comment made on my story was highly uneducated. As long as you can live with yourself after your decision (as I can) you didnt make a mistake. Just make sure your sexual behavior is responsible, and your heart and mind is right when you make the decision. Much Love, <br />
Lacey

I don't judge you but you made a choice, you are now living with the consequences for the choices you made. Just don't do it again and please - be kind to yourself. You're very lucky you can conceive, there are a lot of women out there who doesn't have that privilege, please don't take it for granted.

i just want to say thankyou for your compassion and non judgemental attitude. i really am so greatful. there needs to be more people like you all in this world because not every girl/women who goes through something like this can stay as positive as myself. xxx

I just wanted you to know that I admire you for the strength it must have taken to make that decision three times. The only judgement I'm making about you is that you are a courageous woman.<br />
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Cm

I'm a guy, so I automatically only have a fraction of power in these kind of affairs (I wish a guy had more power, but it is a woman's body and whatnot, ya know?). <br />
But I wish you the best, and applaud for it seems you considered the possibilities and decided what's best.<br />
May no uber-xian scream at your doorstep!<br />
And I hope one day, if you have children, you will be all the mom that you couldn't be for the others.

Stop beating yourself up.....You do not deserve it...<br />
Start forgiving yourself...and you might be able to find a good man....and start that family that you want

thankyou so much for your positive honest reply. i think that every women needs to know they are not being judged. thankyou again and i wish you all the best in your future.