Just wanting to give you guys an update.

I last posted in this group in 2012, which was the year I went through the most agonising year of my life. Since my abortion on the 27th March 2012 (a day that never leaves my memory) I have been through so much. After that day, I moved in with my partner and have not looked back.

I had to go to see a psychologist who diagnosed me with post traumatic stress disorder resulting from the whole ordeal and being placed under so much pressure to abort. My family has since learned their lesson and have not pushed me to do anything I am uncomfortable with.

In May 2013 I gave birth to my son, and he is the love of my life. I definitely think that I got pregnant with him as I yearned so much for what I had lost. I am still with my partner, and we are engaged. I am still finishing off my degree at law school, studying part time and externally. My relationship with my parents and family is great, I go to see them at least once a week now.

Reading my last post, I now see how silly it was for me to think that I wouldn't be able to finish university if I had a child. If anything, my son has given me more motivation, more inspiration and more drive to complete my degree. He is my main driving force, everything I do, it's for the benefit of my son. I need to finish law school and get a great job, so that I can provide all the things in life that my son deserves. Don't ever think that having a child will ruin your life. If anything, it enriches it and makes living worthwhile.

I've been down both paths - I've had a termination and I've had a child. For me, personally, I believe you never regret the children you do have, only the ones you don't. I just wish I had someone to tell me this when I was pregnant for the first time. To anyone currently sitting on the fence, I hope this has helped.

Thank you for reading my post. :)
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1 Response Aug 19, 2014

I know lots of women who had to drop our of college, no money or no one to watch the child. I also know a few who regret their children, my own mother included. I'd rather regret not having a child than regret having one. I'd rather never be born and feel no pain than be regretted and live a life full of it. I'm happy you finished school and are happy but that's often not the case. A lot of women don't get support like you did and being a single parent, in school, and working is almost impossible without some help. Even I dropped out after my first child. I was lucky enough to find a man who helped me and I went back. I two have went down both paths. I don't regret my children or my abortion .


Thanks for taking the time to reply. I understand everyone has individual circumstances and experiences and what works for one might not work for another. I was just sharing my own personal experience like everyone else on here. I know that I am incredibly lucky right now, but back when I was going through the darkest time in my life I had no one except my partner. In my own personal situation, I have regretted having an abortion and I will never regret having my son.

I understand that. I was just saying not everyone regrets it and not everyone is happy that they have children. If they were we wouldn't need foster care. But I'm happy that you found your way out of that dark place. :)