Pregnant

i found out 2 days ago that i'm pregnant. i haven't been on birth control because i tried 3 times and always messed it up...biggest regret ever! i believe i'm about 3 weeks along, and i'm having a medication abortion within the next week or 2. my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year, and i always told him that if i got pregnant i wouldn't hesitate to have an abortion...i just always hoped this would never be a decision i would have to face. although i don't want kids for a long long time, i would have decided to continue my pregnancy if my boyfriend and i were financially stable, or if our parents could help us a great deal. unfortnately, that is not the case, and a child would be very difficult to support. i know we'll be great parents some day, but not today. i'm really sad that i have to do this, but it will only make me stronger. it has taught me a valuable lesson too - i'm not invincible! right now, i'm just looking for some form of support. i'm still in complete and utter shock, but it's good to find people who have been through this predicament. 

TodayIsTomorrow TodayIsTomorrow
18-21, F
4 Responses Mar 28, 2009

i appreciate both of your comments . thank u for taking the time to fill me in on your experiences. i know this is something that i will always think about. and trust me, i could KICK myself a MILLION times for not remembering that pill!

ladyloves- I gave my opinion and if you really read what I said then you would see that in no way do i mean to make judgement on this lady because I've been thru it.- it seems here that if you dont agree or if you give your opinion and it differs that you are judging.- before I wrote my comments I thought very well what I was going to write.- <br />
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to todayistomorrow- In no way was my comment meant to judge you.- You know and only you know what you must do for yourself.-

People make mistakes, and people have made much worse ones than screwing up birth control. We forgive them, so why can't we forgive people who choose abortion? Why do we have to point out trying a little harder? I'm pretty sure this thought, among billions, has crossed her mind in the past 2 days.<br />
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Come on people. <br />
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I had gone in at around 5 weeks for a medical abortion and it was "too soon," so I came back 9 days later and the embryo was then visible on the ultrasound. You might have to reschedule for a time when they can verify it's one embryo. They said they needed to find the yolk sac before they could declare it a pregnancy. <br />
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But it's good to learn from your mistakes and I recommend the Nuva Ring for anyone who has trouble with the pill. I had trouble with it and ended up in the same boat. The Nuva Ring has served me well and I have not had any problems. It takes some getting used to with inserting it and it finding a comfortable resting spot (and sometimes I have to readjust it in unusual places, i.e. Ikea's bathroom) but it's worlds better than the pill. No breakthrough bleeding, no needing to find a drink to take it at the "same" time each day. I don't do anything at the same time each day so it was impossible. If you go on a trip, your birth control is already packed away in you so you don't have to throw your pill pack in your purse or risk losing it anywhere.<br />
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Anyway, good luck, and remember abortion is still legal for a reason - because it's a real, and really good, option. No need to listen to the person above me talk about how you need to try harder. I'm sure you already knew that and felt that and didn't need that person telling you things you already knew like a lot of people on here who think you don't have a thinking mind of your own...<br />
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Some people will say "Why didn't you consider adoption?"<br />
LOL it's like "Oh my, well if I had known about it I would have chosen it!"<br />
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Everybody knows about it, and we still decided to abort. Obviously something is flawed with adoption if most people don't choose it. <br />
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But if you ever need to talk or have any questions, I'm always here. I have been through it and won't tell you what you should have done instead. You can't go back in time now. It's going to be difficult, sad, all sorts of emotions... so you do need to make sure you have someone to talk to. <br />
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I have 4 actual people who know, plus a bunch of strangers on here, and without having that little web of support, I don't know where I'd be. <br />
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It will be a year on April 12.

I'm going to comment on this and I hope that you dont take it the wrong way because it is not meant to be that way.- If you dont want any kids for now then you have to find a way of not messing up on the pills or find another form of birth control.- the thing is that you might think about it now but later on you can regret.. I am not anti abortion I think everyone has the right to choose but I also know that it does something to you inside.- and yes by personal experience.- although I was prepared to have it the doctors told me that the baby wasnt developing how it was suppose to so I decided to abort- perhaps it was the right decision, or I was a coward the thing is that I sometimes think about it.. anyways take care of yourself -