Not The Ordinary
A word for "you".
"You" meaning those who judge our members for their life choices; those who spread verbal abuse like a wild-fire toxin of "word-vomit"; those who use this group as a means to feel better about themselves by feeding their own ego (a selfish action that does not have the target person in mind at all); those who do not care about anything but harming those they disagree with; those who do not care what they say just because they feel they have the "Right" to say it.
We don't share our stories in this group so "you" can tell us how we should live our lives.
We don't share our experiences and questions in this group so that "you" can come here and disrespectfully spread your opinion around like you have some kind of weight to shove around. Like you know anything about where we are coming from at all.. Only those who have actually ever considered abortion know what it feels like to have to choose. Hopefully, "you" will never have to choose.
We don't share our emotions here so that "you" can tell us what we did was wrong and how regretful we should be, or how regretful we are going to be. "You" can't possibly know what we should feel, if what we did or didn't do was wrong, or what we will feel in the future.
We don't share our emotions here so that you can feed your ego and make yourself feel better.
We share our stories for ourselves, for those who are like us and respect us for being who we are, for being brave enough to reach out when we are forever surrounded by controversy because of those like "you" who constantly feel it necessary to judge us and our actions without regard to what we believe or feel ourselves.
We don't post our stories for "you".
Freedom of speech doesn't give you the right to harass. Freedom of speech doesn't give you the right to judge us and our actions. Unless you are here to offer true support, go to one of the EP groups that you can "get by" as much as one can get by with such rude and obnoxiously disrespectful behavior can get by in other groups and leave our group alone so we can have our safe haven away from the crude world of protest signs, name-calling and dirty looks.
This is our group. "Our" meaning those of us who have open-minded questions in considering an abortion; those of us who have had or know someone we love who has had gone through with an abortion and need to know how to deal ourselves and/or how to help them; those of us who understand that it isn't our right to judge and that the intention of this group is for support, not for an everyday "sharing" time where abuse is OK. Abuse is never OK. Harassment is never OK. Disrespect will never be tolerated here as long as there are those like us to fight for our safe haven.
Let us have our group back, we don't share for you, we share for ourselves and those who belong here.
I say this with as much respect as I can muster for someone who outright disrespects the members of our group in heinously crude and obnoxious ways. I say this with as much respect as I can offer someone who only cares about themselves and their own cause against the right to choice that contains ALL CHOICES not just two!
I say this with overflowing respect that I have for the ladies and gentleman who are members of this group. Who belong here. They.. We deserve this place, and I, for one will not stand for anything less then respect when one is commenting here towards our members/potential members.
UPDATE: If you would like to debate I'll be more than happy to oblige. If you want to defend actions you have taken because you have taken offense to my words, please send me a pm or link me to a place where you have posted your own thoughts. I must say that I refuse to debate any further in this place for it should be sacred, it should be respected and if the true members don't respect this place as it should be how can we ever expect anyone else to? I have debated here and it was wrong, and I refuse to carry out any more discussions here. I am not hiding the fact that I have done this, just stating that I refuse to do it any longer. That is all for my update, recent questions can be answered in other places if they would like to debate civilly, I refuse to debate any other way so I hope those who want a discussion choose the way they voice their opinions wisely.