3 Yrs Ago Today

I had to terminate a pregnancy 3 yrs ago. It is getting worse the pain of going through it.. I am reliving every moment of it. Its left me insecure, low esteem. My partner is still upset and keeps throwing it back in my face. It was a shock and happened very fast. It was medical grounds, and i wasnt going to tell my boyfriend until i thought everything was going to be ok. Things dont happen the way you plan. For the last week building up to the anniversary he has obviously been upset and threw a lot of things at me. I am at  a loss, and think that i deserve all the grief he is giving me. No-one can reassure me, but does anyone else feel low with what happened

why38 why38
36-40, F
3 Responses Feb 22, 2010

I am so sorry to hear about this! I realize that he's doing this out of feeling hurt, but he has no right to treat you this way, no matter how he's feeling, especially being that you had no choice! Women deserve to be treated like gold, especially by their significant others. If he keeps abusing you, get out of the house and get to a women's shelter.<br />
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I know the pain from the abortion hurts, for both of you. Abortion has such awful consequences for so many people, even when done for a medical reason. I'll pray for you and your partner. I hope everything does get better. If you do want to save this relationship, or even if you just want healing for yourself, there are abortion recovery programs that can help you, and your partner if you choose to include him, lessen the pain. It won't ever go away, just like in losing anyone else, but these programs have helped so many people, and have helped to put their families back together.<br />
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For you:<br />
http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/<br />
http://www.abortionrecovery.org/<br />
http://www.rachelsvineyard.org/<br />
http://www.hopeafterabortion.com/<br />
http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/resources/index.html<br />
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For your partner:<br />
http://www.menandabortion.net/<br />
http://www.rachelsvineyard.org/men/<br />
http://www.lifeissues.org/men/<br />
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If you need someone to talk to, feel free to message me. :)

thats horrible not to sound cruel but that man isn't worth standing by he certainly has no trouble kicking you when your down and vulnerable. Time heals all wounds even those of the haert. I would recommend distancing yourself from him for awhile 'at the very least' just so you can take time to deal with the loss and event in a mentally healthy way. Maybe stay with a close friend or family member you shouldn't suffer twice as much just so he can deal with his issues in the situation. You experienced things far differently than him and he will never be in your shoes do what you need to do but don't let him put you down. It's not your fault and it will get better good luck take care and god bless.

Thanks for that Marji. Knowing u replied means something.