Like a Lamb to Slaughter...

We worked together for 3.5 years running a business for his brother-in-law.  When he first came to work there (I had been there 6 months already) I did not like him at all.  The business was in trouble and he and I were working lots of hours, sharing lots of repsonsiblity, trying to keep things going when the owner was having some serious health issues and could not be there.  We were together A LOT!!!!  Over time we became friends and somewhere along the line he became more and more dependent on me...and that worked for me.  My children were grown and I had been divorced for 3+ years and it felt good to have someone to take care of....cuz thats what I'm good at...

One weekend when his wife was out of town he invited me to a local bar to "have a beer" and watch a football game.  I went.  That nite he shared with me that he had been interested in me from the first day he laid eyes on me and I was the best freind he ever had...yada, yada, yada....

I was shocked..I had never thought of him in a romantic way.  Even when he would talk about the problems he was having in his marraige(30 yrs) I would encourage him to talk to his wife and tell her what he was telling me...and so on and so on.....God was I STUPID... and naieve.

To make a looong story short...we became involved after he left her..he even went and filed for divorce..he lived with me for 8 weeks.  We made plans for the future...talked about how happy we were going to be. 

We got up one Sunday decided what I was going to cook for dinner...he said he was going to shoot pool w/a freind...2 hours later he walked in the door, said "I cant do this anymore...packed his ****...was gone in 15 minutes....He quit his job....went back to his wife.  No explanation other than that statement...

That was 6 months ago....I have had no contact with him of any kind.  I was devastated...had to go to counseling...But I made it....I learned some very valuable lessons...It changed who I am...

Worse thing that ever happended to me....I am still in love with him...but pray every night that I never, ever see or hear from him again. 

NotAnymore NotAnymore
46-50
3 Responses Feb 15, 2009

Thanks Mizz...I have forgiven myself...I am really a strong intelligent person...never involved in anything like that...But I never saw that one coming at all...looking back I dont even believe it...its like I had an out of body experience or something....But you can bet my eyes are wide open now...it was crazy

leaf...what do you mean???

I am very sorry for you. I would not be too hard on yourself. Think of this as actors on a movie set - you work very close together, sometimes emotions get confused, etc.