I Want Him Back, I Want Closure, Please Help!I had an affair with a man that was 16 years older than me. It all started innocent, just friends like most affairs start. He was only married for 5 months when I met him and his wife. I've been married for 11 years. I was friends with them both but I became closer friends with him. His wife got extremely jealous of me and we ended our friendship but I still remained friends with him which she didn't know we still talked.
We were drawn to each other the minute we first met. We had this special bond that him and his wife didn't share. As time passed, we disclosed to each other that we had feelings but never acted on them until 2 years after we initially met. I would say it was an emotional affair during those 2 years before we slept together. Once we crossed that line, it went down hill from there! Not only we connected as friends but REALLY connected in the bedroom! It was amazing! Well, after we had sex the 3rd time, he told me that I have some decisions to make. That, I needed to think about leaving my husband. I told him I would for him.
I was so happy, I couldn't wait to start a new life with him. A couple days later, we had sex again (the last time), it was amazing as usual but afterwards he told me that everything has to end. That he still loved his wife, that he finally got married for the first time at 47 years old and he had to make it work. He seemed upset and told me "where were you before I got married???" I cryied, I felt confused, he led me on. I knew he was trying to do the right thing but I was positive that he loved me. I mean before, he use to tell me that he only got married because he was tired of being single and it was nice to have somebody around that could help him pay the bills. His wife has a good job! LOL
Well about a month later I found out I was pregnant, I called him and he ran from me. I kept hounding him down to try to get him to help me with money to terminate the pregancy and he would never return any of my calls. One day he called and yelled at me, said to leave him alone that what we had was only sex and nothing more. We haven't spoke since. It's been over a year now and I still can't believe he treated me this way. I still love him and want him back and/or at least want to speak to him and ask him why he ran. Recently, I found out from a mutual friend that his wife found out about us. That, he's been asking about me, driving by my house, and twice I've seen him at the store parking lot, he waived but I just ignored him. I mean why should I act like nothing happened! I keep thinking he's going to call me soon and if he does, what should I do?? Why did he run??? Did he ever truly love me??? Please help!! :(
smaddiemay72 31-35 5 Responses 0 Oct 2, 2010