I Had An Affair

My Husband's Best Freind

By: hotandcuddly

Written on September 1st, 2011

I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split with his girlfreind, and was devastated. I reached out to him, and we started talking over the e-mail. It progressed over a few months to cybersex. I had a vacation coming up, aand was going to visit my daughter. He lived less than an hour away from her. I asked him if he would like to spend a couple of days with me, and we made plans for that weekend. I met hom at his new apartment, and we had some wine and talked. He was incredibly good looking, and so sweet and kind. We ended up having sex. It was the most amazing sex in my life. He could do things with his tongue that i have never felt in my life. Well, it was only a couple of days and one night, but he helped me to snap out of my pity party, and actually divorce my abusive husband. I kep in touch with him, and he has since gotten back together with his girlfreind. It was one of the best experiences of my life, and i do not feel guilty at all.

By: hotandcuddly

Age: 51-55 , Female

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68 responses

pullupgirl103

at 55 you to fat that why you are to hot....cuddy your the size of a big teddy bear......wow 55 ........ 15 teen more years you be 70..... nurusing home get you.....just like roach motel you check in but never check out.....now that better....

May 5
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pullupgirl103

are you 55 now ... hope you fine a young man where he can push you around in a wheel chair.........................lollllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll........ now that is funny.....

May 5
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Nicklrd58

A great story... And, good for you!!

May 4
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pullupgirl103

just being friend was enough but you cross that line ,,, you should got help for your husband counsel or a doctor,,, but you didn't ,,,,, now look at your self do you really fill good about your self now....

May 1
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- hotandcuddly
  yep. feeling just fine.
  
  May 5
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- pullupgirl103
  relly most cheated put the blame on the spouse,,,, it make them feel better about their self......
  
  May 5
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- pullupgirl103
  really...........
  
  May 5
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raedee

Good for you we just have to move on with what is good for our selves

Mar 29
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browneyelady

its hard being in a horrid relationship, is your ex husband still friends with this man, did he ever find out what happened between you. i'm glad life worked out for you in the end now maybe you can go on to find some real happiness and i hope your husband realises what he has lost. best of luck

Feb 28
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- pullupgirl103
  her husbad didn't lose much......
  
  May 5
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SNICKERS777

Well it sounded like a win, win thing you each helped the other and made a lifelong friend in the process.

Feb 28
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Hsam23

You shouldve divorced your husband before going and sleeping with his best friend.

Oct 27, 2012
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manomine

Good for you:)

Oct 21, 2012
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Tampabayallstar

This is not believable because of the glaring spelling error's

Oct 10, 2012
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- hotandcuddly
  well, don't read it. real people make mistakes. if you are big on spelling, go to a website where you can critique everyone. it is true, every word. but you are the kind of person i do not waste my time trying to impresss. Yes i did not capitalize! Take that you spelling nazi!!
  
  Oct 13, 2012
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scaredycat69

Been there, done that. And i'm not even guilty of doing it. Congrats to all the women who can stand for themselves!!! It's really not about cheating...it's just about self-fulfillment.

Oct 9, 2012
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lakesgirl

I too was in a abusive marriage. I got out before I met my MM. He knew I was suffering and just wanted me to enjoy life a little so he started inviting me to ride his Harley, go for rides in his sports car and the he invited me to sit in his hot tub and it exploded into what is now a year long affair. I was so starved for love that when he kissed me, I jumped him. Never intended to have an affair but he was so kind to me that I didn't even think about right/wrong at the time. He tells me he will never leave is wife but at this point I am ok with that becasue I just enjoy talking to him and seeing him once in a while. He is a special guy and I don't see why his wife doens't see that. She is missing out. I feel bad for her but if she didn't ***** at him and control his every move, he never would have looked outside his marriage for affection.

Aug 17, 2012
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- hotandcuddly
  I see this ALot! I wish women would stop trying to control and change thier men, and just love them. That being said, men need to stop and see what a beautiful gift it is to have a woman who truly, completely loves them. kiss and hug her everyday, several times a day. tell her you love her, tell her how beautiful and desirable you think she is.
  
  Aug 18, 2012
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- lakesgirl
  Being the other woman it's easy to see that from the outside. If these woman who are cheated on would just take a moment to compliment their spouse, thank them for providing a stable income, tell them they are handsome, they would have these men eating out of their hands. My MM tells me that his wife makes fun of his stomach not being flat, tells him he is losing hair etc etc and I think he was starved for attention and found self-esteem in being with me.
  
  Aug 18, 2012
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- pullupgirl103
  not you sleeping with his friend......
  
  May 5
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justusat

Wow sound like fun !!

Jul 20, 2012
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- pullupgirl103
  lolllllllllllllllll put you boots it getting deep in here........
  
  May 5
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sinathamby

don,t feel guilty about anything.guilt is the great spiritual disease.life will teach lessons where we can learn and move on to better ourself

Jul 20, 2012
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yourvoluptuousbaby

No reason to feel guilty - it was the push you needed to get you out of the situation you were in, and it was sexy too!

Jul 13, 2012
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dickdare

Life is just too damn short to be clouded with guilt. Good for you!

May 22, 2012
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juniorsex

i have almost same story like this.

May 20, 2012
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larrydownunder

good for you... there is nothing like what some call forbiden love or sex. I too was in a similar situation where my wife was withholding any sort of passion. after a while i began to question my self worth. It took a friend of hers that started talking to me over the email and eventually ended up cybering. We had a hot romance and her passion in the bed and out was liberating. I nolonger have any doubts and we still correspond.

Apr 1, 2012
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- hotandcuddly
  good for you. i do not know why people do not realize that it crushes self esteem to not feel desired. nothing like a little self esteem boosting sex!
  
  Apr 2, 2012
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VickieBonne

I didn't realize how miserable I was during my first marriage until after I move out. It was tough but Things turned out much better afterwards. Good for you too!

Jan 8, 2012
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joewad

We can relate to this, entirely, Thanks, Joe & Pam

Jan 7, 2012
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Petetech

It is so nice that you found you way through this friend. Please add me

Dec 27, 2011
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davemarch

that's what friends are for! .... i'm happy for you! you got out of your low, got away from an abusive relationship and had great sex! now that you are free, hopefully you will find someone who will care fof you the way you need to be cared for....with love and respect!

Nov 20, 2011
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PaladinOH

I know sexual compatibility is so important. Once you have a relationship that has problems sexually you never want that to happen again.

Nov 16, 2011
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GAPlayer

Some people are just not wired that way. I know women that have divorced their husbands for being ignored sexually for years. Hot women. So it is not just men that have high sex drives. Many women do also. There seem to be just as many men that have hangups with sex. All about who you are matched with and if the sex drives coincide.

Sep 29, 2011
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- hotandcuddly
  i will never be with someone who does not match me sexually ever again!!
  
  Sep 29, 2011
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GAPlayer

Sex is a need for many people. With sex it allows us to focus our mind and think more clearly. WIthout it, thoughts of sex dominate our mind and do not allow us to make the best decisions. Spouses that are well matched sexually are typically the happiest and last the longest regardless of economic circumstances. Those that aren't force their partner to find an outlet.

Sep 27, 2011
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- hotandcuddly
  thank you. not everyone understands that fact
  
  Sep 27, 2011
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- skepticaldemocrat
  I would like to know why some dont understand such fact, despite being so obvious. Ignorance is voluntary, they say...
  
  Sep 29, 2011
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skepticaldemocrat

I am a puritan and moralist. BUT...

I say if you have no guilt for cheating your husband for he being a abuser, then he was a REAL abuser. Cheating a husband is something he hates so you were really angry with him.

I had a verbally and emotionally abusing boss so I wont blame you for acting and talking of your husband with such (in my view) despise. He deserve it acording with what you said.

Too bad you cant tell him that affair to him because of probable consequences. It would be enjoying to see him so furious for swallowing his insults and seeing you are no dormat.

Besides the way he treated you shows lack of love and/or respect so I personally doubt he is the faithful kind. Another reason for not judging your case.

Sep 23, 2011
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- hotandcuddly
  i appreciate you not being judgemental. the only reason i did not tell him was because i did not want to hurt the other man. he was so sweet and kind, and gentle with me, that i would not hurt him for anything in the world. the only thing my ex loved was my paycheck. and he certainly did not respect me in any way, shape or form.
  
  Sep 23, 2011
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- skepticaldemocrat
  He only loved your paycheck?...
  Are you my former boss ex-wife? (lol)
  My former boss also loved money: anyone who left the job because of constant abuses and insults and mockery were told by him "Are you leaving? So I wont pay nothing to you!".
  Seems abusers are all alike.
  Another reason to support you! ;)
  Cheating is wrong but letting a moron treat you like crap is also wrong. Fighting back against a cruel person who should love you is worthy of praising. So congratulations! Not everyone has the pleasure of doing what you did. Nor capacity.
  I should be jealous of you. ;)
  Was your husband bald & four-eyed? Like ex-boss?
  I would like to know if they breed like cockroaches! :D
  
  Sep 24, 2011
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UpNorthBobbo

Your story sounds similar to mine, although I am still married (our marriage has always been fine, except for the sex part). It is liberating in that it sets your mind in a new direction. For me, it was finally getting the confirmation that I was a desirable person. It's been over 15 years since this happened, but the pleasure I was able to give and get still lifts my spirits when I'm feeling down.

Sep 21, 2011
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- hotandcuddly
  maybe you need another refresher. i like to feel desirable, and it is so important to everyone to feel wanted
  
  Sep 21, 2011
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hammerhead1949

Good for you. Good thing you got away from an abusive husband

Sep 20, 2011
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kraut12

FROM WHAT YOU SAY YOU DESERVED THAT TIME WITH HIM . IT GOT YOU STARTED AGAIN TO WHERE YOU CAN HAVE FUN AND BE FREE OF ABUSE. HAVE A GREAT LIFE

Sep 20, 2011
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OkCountryBoy

I read and like your story. Good to have some New and renewed passion in your life.

Sep 15, 2011
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