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My Husband's Best Freind

I t was exactly 1 yr ago. I was so depressed and ready to give up on ever being happy. My husband at the time was being very emotionally and verbally abusive. I got an e-mail from my husband's best freind. He was wondering how we were doing, and needed to talk. He had just split with his girlfreind, and was devastated. I reached out to him, and we started talking over the e-mail. It progressed over a few months to cybersex. I had a vacation coming up, aand was going to visit my daughter. He lived less than an hour away from her. I asked him if he would like to spend a couple of days with me, and we made plans for that weekend. I met hom at his new apartment, and we had some wine and talked. He was incredibly good looking, and so sweet and kind. We ended up having sex. It was the most amazing sex in my life. He could do things with his tongue that i have never felt in my life. Well, it was only a couple of days and one night, but he helped me to snap out of my pity party, and actually divorce my abusive husband. I kep in touch with him, and he has since gotten back together with his girlfreind. It was one of the best experiences of my life, and i do not feel guilty at all.
hotandcuddly hotandcuddly 51-55, F 44 Responses Sep 1, 2011

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Lucky guy!

AWSUM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Want to meet my tongue????

No excuse for cheating. Many women are abused but don't cheat.
This whole experience section is a pity party.

GREAT post!!!...And good for you for not carrying any guilt!!
It was exactly what you needed at that point in your life and you should never have any regrets!!!

He encouraged you to divorce your husband, and then he got back to his girlfriend??!
Sorry honey, I think you've been the big loser..
He used you..

He was your husband's best friend. I think you are not a good person for doing that , when there are so many guys that your husband doesn't know , around.

Good for you I'm glad you enjoyed your husbands a ****

Good on you and him. Xx

I understand where you are coming from my husband cheated on me so many times I cant even remember.I then cheated on him and even though the experience wasn't mind blowing it changed me forver.I went to my husband and admitted my wrong doing and we both came clean and decided our marriage deserved a fresh start.Not all people are bad people we just need trial and error.

Sometimes affairs do sort out the conflicts of our souls. Especially when we are looking for direction. Go forward and lead a good life:)

Ur a horrible person!!!!! How could u?!?!?! I'm sorry I've been cheated on too and I've done nothing wrong and I know how it feels to be cheated on. Ur a bad person

Not u thewoman who made this story

Good for you!

A great story... And, good for you!!

its hard being in a horrid relationship, is your ex husband still friends with this man, did he ever find out what happened between you. i'm glad life worked out for you in the end now maybe you can go on to find some real happiness and i hope your husband realises what he has lost. best of luck

Well it sounded like a win, win thing you each helped the other and made a lifelong friend in the process.

snickers777,,,,,, you need to read my story ,,,, I Cheated,,,,,, i think you will like it,,,,,

You shouldve divorced your husband before going and sleeping with his best friend.

you are right see her husband wasn\'t abuse until he found out her affair his friend ran likea scare little boy back his girlfriend and yes she divore her husband kick out the house ,,, that show you much a slucl\'s she is....55 years old ,,,,

Good for you:)

This is not believable because of the glaring spelling error's

well, don't read it. real people make mistakes. if you are big on spelling, go to a website where you can critique everyone. it is true, every word. but you are the kind of person i do not waste my time trying to impresss. Yes i did not capitalize! Take that you spelling nazi!!

wow ...... good for you by telling im off ,,,,who need capitalize.... ,,, Tampabayallstar this not your story ....let it goooooo.............okay

him not im okay....mistype....

Been there, done that. And i'm not even guilty of doing it. Congrats to all the women who can stand for themselves!!! It's really not about's just about self-fulfillment.

I too was in a abusive marriage. I got out before I met my MM. He knew I was suffering and just wanted me to enjoy life a little so he started inviting me to ride his Harley, go for rides in his sports car and the he invited me to sit in his hot tub and it exploded into what is now a year long affair. I was so starved for love that when he kissed me, I jumped him. Never intended to have an affair but he was so kind to me that I didn't even think about right/wrong at the time. He tells me he will never leave is wife but at this point I am ok with that becasue I just enjoy talking to him and seeing him once in a while. He is a special guy and I don't see why his wife doens't see that. She is missing out. I feel bad for her but if she didn't ***** at him and control his every move, he never would have looked outside his marriage for affection.

I see this ALot! I wish women would stop trying to control and change thier men, and just love them. That being said, men need to stop and see what a beautiful gift it is to have a woman who truly, completely loves them. kiss and hug her everyday, several times a day. tell her you love her, tell her how beautiful and desirable you think she is.

Being the other woman it's easy to see that from the outside. If these woman who are cheated on would just take a moment to compliment their spouse, thank them for providing a stable income, tell them they are handsome, they would have these men eating out of their hands. My MM tells me that his wife makes fun of his stomach not being flat, tells him he is losing hair etc etc and I think he was starved for attention and found self-esteem in being with me.

Wow sound like fun !!

don,t feel guilty about anything.guilt is the great spiritual will teach lessons where we can learn and move on to better ourself

No reason to feel guilty - it was the push you needed to get you out of the situation you were in, and it was sexy too!

Life is just too damn short to be clouded with guilt. Good for you!

i have almost same story like this.

good for you... there is nothing like what some call forbiden love or sex. I too was in a similar situation where my wife was withholding any sort of passion. after a while i began to question my self worth. It took a friend of hers that started talking to me over the email and eventually ended up cybering. We had a hot romance and her passion in the bed and out was liberating. I nolonger have any doubts and we still correspond.

good for you. i do not know why people do not realize that it crushes self esteem to not feel desired. nothing like a little self esteem boosting sex!

I didn't realize how miserable I was during my first marriage until after I move out. It was tough but Things turned out much better afterwards. Good for you too!

It is so nice that you found you way through this friend. Please add me

I know sexual compatibility is so important. Once you have a relationship that has problems sexually you never want that to happen again.

I am a puritan and moralist. BUT...<br />
I say if you have no guilt for cheating your husband for he being a abuser, then he was a REAL abuser. Cheating a husband is something he hates so you were really angry with him.<br />
I had a verbally and emotionally abusing boss so I wont blame you for acting and talking of your husband with such (in my view) despise. He deserve it acording with what you said.<br />
Too bad you cant tell him that affair to him because of probable consequences. It would be enjoying to see him so furious for swallowing his insults and seeing you are no dormat.<br />
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Besides the way he treated you shows lack of love and/or respect so I personally doubt he is the faithful kind. Another reason for not judging your case.

i appreciate you not being judgemental. the only reason i did not tell him was because i did not want to hurt the other man. he was so sweet and kind, and gentle with me, that i would not hurt him for anything in the world. the only thing my ex loved was my paycheck. and he certainly did not respect me in any way, shape or form.

He only loved your paycheck?...
Are you my former boss ex-wife? (lol)
My former boss also loved money: anyone who left the job because of constant abuses and insults and mockery were told by him "Are you leaving? So I wont pay nothing to you!".
Seems abusers are all alike.
Another reason to support you! ;)
Cheating is wrong but letting a moron treat you like crap is also wrong. Fighting back against a cruel person who should love you is worthy of praising. So congratulations! Not everyone has the pleasure of doing what you did. Nor capacity.
I should be jealous of you. ;)
Was your husband bald &amp; four-eyed? Like ex-boss?
I would like to know if they breed like cockroaches! :D