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I Had An Affair

I Just Ended My Affair And I'M Sad....

By: 4bdnluv
Written on February 16th, 2013
By: 4bdnluv
Age: 31-35 , Female
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    Twostepsforward2013

    Hi there.

    Just wondering how things are for you now that it's been a few months since you posted this.

    I'm going through the same thing. We were together as teenagers, married different people, found our way back into friendship and it turned into something much, much bigger. We've been together now for a year and a half.

    Cold turkey no communication is REALLY hard and hurts like hell. We've tried breaking up and severing all contact, but when you have a connection with someone like that, it's really hard to have him out of your life. There is also an element of addiction: that feeling that you get when you're about to see him, or even when you see that there's a message waiting for you. It makes it very difficult to let go of that high.

    My OM also lives far away, so even when we do see each other it is never for long enough. I've dumped him because I was feeling neglected too, thinking that having him out of my life was better than having him in it and ignoring me. It wasn't. I would miss him for months and that grief wouldn't go away. We went as long as three months with zero communication and every day was awful.

    I know, so I don't need I hear from all the judges out there, about how wrong it is that I'm involved with a man who is not my husband. Hopefully by this age (I assume we're all adults here), people will understand that each person has her own story and that we're here to share, not to judge.

    May 22
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      mysolitude2013

      My situation is a little different, but the feelings and experience of being in such an intense and meaningful relationship, then cutting it off cold turkey is exactly what I'm dealing with. Reading what you wrote in a way helps me. Thank you.

      May 23
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    Johnny3076

    Are u married and if you are then why

    Feb 23
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    Johnny3076

    How do u think your husband would feel about this

    Feb 18
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    rolllerskatekey

    sounds so much like the situation I am in..stay at home dad who barely is alone..hmm..wonder what the stats ae on that..ANYWAY ...SORRY NO WORDS OF WISDOM BUT THANKS FOR GIVING ME SOME THOUGHTS

    Feb 17
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      4bdnluv

      He's not a home at stay dad but as soon as he gets off work he jumps into full dad time roll. If you need any kind of support or someone to talk to I'm here for you.

      Feb 17
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    bobrido

    If you two do choose to remain friends, what likely will happen is you'll end up getting back together again. This will only prolong the pain. Going the route of no contact is the best way to end this. Good luck to you. Keep us all posted on your progress.

    Feb 17
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      4bdnluv

      Yes, you're definitely right and that is why I told him not to speak to me again. I just miss him and I wish we wouldn't have crossed the barrier to have an affair and just have been friends. I really do miss him and I have several rough days ahead of me. I will definitely keep everyone posted. :)

      Feb 17
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      bobrido

      I would say you have several rough weeks to months ahead of you. You took one great step by just reaching out here on EP looking for support. I'd suggest you continue to do that along with focusing on yourself and the things you used to enjoy that made you happy.

      Feb 17
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      4bdnluv

      Yes, I definitely plan to take care of myself and just look for support. Thank you so much :)

      Feb 17
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    pieceofcake509

    You're so lucky. I wish I had your courage. I can't bring myself to do it, and i am miserable!!! Hang in there!!!!

    Feb 17
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      4bdnluv

      I just got fed up of not getting the attention I wanted from him. If you'd like I would love to chat with you and be there to support you. :)

      Feb 17
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      pieceofcake509

      I would like that a lot!

      Feb 18
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    InterestingChic79

    This story sounds so familiar . I can be a support If you need one ! Hang tough girl !

    Feb 17
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      4bdnluv

      Thank you!! I need a lot of support right now...

      Feb 17
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      InterestingChic79

      If you want to chat, let me know !

      Feb 17
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