If you are still having an affair, stop. It's not worth it. I am now feeling like **** for hurting my family . Especially my kids. Somehow my family found out including my in laws . I have not said a word to anyone . So someone must have saw me out somewhere at the time. I am now under " watch". Trying to explain your behavior is hard. My in laws are no longer speaking to me. My parents want to sit down with me to have a nice heart to heart chat with me. My husband found out but forgave me. I'm trying to turn my life around now. What's more important ? Family or some affair guy/girl that you will never be with the way you want and get hurt . Or having a family that loves you and is willing to forgive you and help you work things out with your life. It is really not worth it in the end. I found out the hard way.
js1276 js1276
41-45, F
3 Responses Aug 18, 2014

How do you stop? I wanted so much to but it's just so hard. I don't know if I could handle it.

I just couldn't handle to lying and trying to make excuses and my kids were noticing my change in attitude and were asking why I'm always late coming home from work or why do I keep going out with my "friends ". I was running out of excuses. Mentally I was exhausted and decided I couldn't do it anymore . My husband forgave me once he found out. Things are semi back to normal. Just trying to take it one day at a time. I'm not gonna lie on here and say I don't miss the excitement and my OM, I do miss all of it. But I was hurting my family.

My husband knows that I'm having an affair, even my two daughters and yet he does not want to divorce me. He is just requesting to let my youngest daughter finish her high school (she's 12 years old now) then we could go our own separate ways.

Just curious, before you were caught/suspected, did you feel time with the AP was worth it?

Passion has a way of diluting that which is most important.
I am sorry for what you have endured. But you must decide what is most important to you. Family is the hardest relationship to maintain by far. I feel for you My Friend.