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Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on her husband and have secretly lusted after him.  I have been divorced for over 15 years and have had very few male companions in my life since then.

When I moved in I took on a motherly type roll in the household and catered to everyone's needs.  My grandchildren, but especially my son in law.  I lusted after him, I seduced him and I entraped him.  One day he was swimming his laps in the pool and I came out in a 2 piece binkini that I purposely selected.  I entered the pool and interrupted his morning routine.  It was from that moment forward that I made my sexuality known to him and faluted myself to him.  A few weeks later we had intercourse for the first time, unprotected with primal lust and passion.  He filled a void that I had been missing for over 15 years.  I felt 25 years old again and gave no thoughts to my daughter or my two grandchildren.

I was not the best mother to begin with, I was pregnant initially at 16 and again at 19.  I was taught that sex was the key to keeping your man happy, which was wrong.  By age 26 I was divorced, alone and competing with my ex-husband who had again married a young bimbo who was now raising my kids.  I experimented with drugs and was very much strung out for 8 years or so until I found god.

The power I held over my son in law was intoxicating.  I was in love with him, we had sex in the pool, in the early hours of the morning trying not to wake anyone and even in his own bed.  At first I was careful and took my pill, but I lapsed on my prescription and missed my period.  I have not told him about this, I haven't told anyone.  I want to abort this baby but I cannot bring myself to this.  I cannot bring myself to admiting the truth to anyone.  I wish I were dead, I wish I had never had these feelings and pushed this issue.  I am pregnant and alone with my daughter's brother or sister inside of me.  I am a monster

littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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you give the word "frienemy" a whole new meaning.

aint that the truth!

You're human dear! I'm not going to deny the fact that this is going to be a tough trail to walk down, but hunny, you are not alone nor did you do this alone. Many others have walked your path. We all make decisions that we later regret. You should just focus on one day at a time. Therapy will tremendously help. Especially one on one with someone. At some point, you many want to tell the man involved what has occured due to both of your actions. This might help, but that's for you to decide. I believe, like any other sin, you'll be forgiven. You need to convince youself of that too so you can continue to live the life you deserve. <br />
Much love and many blessings!!

Hmmm 140 comments and so many of you casting stones. Wonder which of you can stand proud and say you've never sinned ever in your life? While this is an awful situation I don't think this lady came here to get abused by all of you holier than thou's.

she should have kept it to herself then. being judged here or anywhere, that's the chance we all take, that's life. either keep your skeletons in the closet or suck it up and take it. her choice.

without a doubt, i'm sure we've all sinned in one way or another. nobody is perfect by any means. i don't know about anyone else who has commented, but what bothers me most about this story is the fact that she purposely set out to sleep with her son in law, her daughters husband. with all of the men in the world, i think she could have found one not so close to home.

found her own man, thats exactly what she should have done.

"nobody is perfect" IS NOT TRUE.....It is written in the Holy Bible that Job and Noah are sinners too but God sees them as PERFECT. HUMANS.........sorry cancergirl20 you are wrong..... people can be sinners yet PERFECT....READ YOUR BIBLE......

perfect or not, this woman had no business creeping behind her daughter's back. that's the issue to me.

You are not the first woman who has done this. Nor is your son in law the first. Both of you were wrong of course. Ask GOD for forgiveness and sin no more. Just like JESUS said let he who is without sin cast the first stone. You do not have to tell your daughter. She probably knows already. However if it is not spoken it will be easier for her to go on.

Keep the baby. It's not the baby's fault .Get a job and move out. Give you purpose to your new baby. That will keep you motivated and focused.

Its been over a year now. Everyone and their kids has had their opinion, some unsound, but few well thought out. None can really hold any water without really knowing all the personallities involved, and any undisclosed back story(s) to the subject.<br />
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But I'm sure, after 1 year, without a peep from the author, much must have completed and concluded.<br />
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Any follow-up for your audience littlejon?

you are not a monster.It happened on a few moments of losing perspective.It is just unfortunate you missed period.But natural desire cannot be regulated and feel anything is beyond human control.what feelings you have felt were secretly felt by him otherwise nothing could have happened.Dont avoid reality.It is most natural for every Son in law to lust for his Mil&Sil.So just do what is required to get out of trouble and be cool

Wow. I think it's hilarious in a sick way that some people write about God in one sentance, and then say "KILL THE BABY" or "ABORT THE KID" in the next. You must be soooooooooooooo holy and know soooooooooooooo much about God!!! I believe though that if God heard you calling out to kill an unborn child and preaching about him in the next breath he might think you rather ignorant. <br />
Weather we humans choose to believe it or not abortion is a SIN just like many other Sins such as coveting the neighbors husband or wife. Why follow one sin with another, stop sinning. Also for all you baby killers out there little john stated in a previous comment that she had a misscarrige so go find someother pregnant woman to convince to be a baby killer. Sorry I am pro choice and all it's every humans right to choose, God himself gave us that right. But killing a baby wether in the wonb or not is a serious sin!!!!

Oh for goodness sake .... let he/she without sin cast the first stone.<br />
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Yes, it was wrong what she did but she didn't force the man to! If he cheated with her, he could cheat with anyone. She IS NOT the only one who should be held accountable here.<br />
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To NOT tell her daughter would be wrong in my opinion, as if her husbnd has done this once, with someone as tabboo as his wifes mother, I'm sure as s*** he can do it again.<br />
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Yes, her daughter will almost definately hate her, yes, she probably DOES deserve that, but why is no judgement being cast on the man here?<br />
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Could she live her life aborting the child & pretending nothing had happened, not telling her daughter, and leting her daughter continue in a marriage full of lies. Which is worse?<br />
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The poor daughter is the only blameless one in this ... the author of this was left 'punished' already by what she did in that she had an unwanted pregnancy ..... did the husband remain free of any concequences here.<br />
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I hope she was big enough to tell her daughter. If you're big enough to screw your daughters husband, you should be big enough to own up to it and deal with the concequences.<br />
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Sin, God blablabla. It ALWAYS has to come down to religion! Get off your religious moral high horses and give some decent advice and not rub your religious beliefs in others faces.<br />
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I sincerely hope that the right thing was done, whatever that may be.

no one needs to know who the father is just say you had a one niter and have the baby, that child may invent something to save the world ,, or who knows,,,

What was the out come of this?

hopefully she got out of her daughter's life and found a man of her own.

That child does not deserve to die because of your mistake. Your daughter deserves the truth, and you deserve whatever she decides about her and her kids relationship with you. You need to give that baby to a loving family and hope he/she never finds out the circumstances of his/her conception. One can only hope this idiot does not seek custody himself. You are going to need therapy and God to deal with your betrayal and you need to find out why you did it so you don't go on hurting others and you need to pray every day that your daughter can heal from this and maybe by some miracle even acknowledge you as her mother again. There is no other option besides the were woman enough to sleep with this DB, now be woman enough to deal with the consequences.

90, if you look back over previous comments, she said she had a miscarriage if there was really a pregnancy at all. i wonder if this whole story wasn't a fabrication myself.

I think the best thing to do is not to punish the innocent parties, your daughter needs to know what type of man she is married to. Your feelings should not matter here, she has a right to know.<br />
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Regarding the baby, you should keep it or consider adopting. You said you wanted to feel young again, I reckon with a new baby you will get this opportunity, a new lease of life. <br />
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Do not punish the innocent victims of this terrible situation - honesty is the best policy. What if you decided to keep the affair a secret and one day your son-in law decided to tell your daughter. I would never take that risk, face up to what you have done

i say; get rid of the baby & try to move out of the house. don't say a word to your daughter, instead, help her keep her marriage together

Hey, you already did a lot of nasty stuff in your life, abortion is nothing! Just think of it this way, if you are trying to have a chance to have a more peaceful family life, then you have not much of a choice. You will HAVE to abort the little thing growing inside of you. The reasons?<br />
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Reasons to Have Abortion:<br />
1. You will destroy the family more if everybody finds out about that you've been having an affair within the family. Yes, you will lie, you will be living in lie, but at least the family will have a bit of peace of mind.<br />
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2. Raising the kid means giving it a horrible life. A kid born out of lust, deceit, and dishonor for the family name, what more could ruin a child's psychological mind? It will ask why its family is a wreck, and what will you tell it? Its friends will make fun of it or even harass it. That thing will just be a living poor psychological mess of a creature, tortured everyday by the results of your lustful and deceitful acts.<br />
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3. Damage within the family, some to society. Just imagine, let's say you raised that thing. No matter what happens, there will be negative effects and those effects will be felt harshly by you, by it, by the family, and by the people around each one of you.<br />
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You think you are doing something "good" for once by raising that kid, but that "good" is just a self-satisfying feeling that you need to remove the guilt that you have in your mind. Unfortunately, the results will be far more horrific, the results outweigh this little sense of "good" that you will have for a short time. Soon you will be engulfed by regret, more guilt, and psychological torture by what happens if you were to continue having that kid.<br />
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Do not worry, you can still have a little feeling of satisfaction, with better results. It's not perfect, but if you abort the little thing in your womb, you can act out as if nothing ever happened between you and the man, make up a story of why you were away for some time, and the negative impact to your family and friends will be minimal at worst.<br />
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In Summary....<br />
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Have It VS Abort It<br />
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Raise It:<br />
1. Wreck family<br />
2. Child faces negative results of the situation daily.<br />
3. You are psychologically tortured about your own life.<br />
4. Society will treat you bad, no matter what they say.<br />
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Abort It:<br />
1. Possible chance to save family from being destroyed.<br />
2. If affair is not found out, family will continue living "normally" and might have a chance to improve.<br />
3. Society will not care about you and turn its attention to something/someone else who have revealed themselves to the public as "morally ob<x>jectionable".<br />
4. Your conscience, even if it might not be at peace, will be at better health than what it would have been if you raised the child, wrecked the family, and you get shunned by the world.<br />
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May good fortunes be with you, and please think LOGICALLY, not emotionally!

What is with all of the put it up for adoption bullshit being thrown here. As a population we are already out of control, all we need is another unfit mother to bring another child into the world with her tainted DNA. Abort the child.<br />
On the side of everyone saying how bad the husband is, ever think about how bad the wife is at keeping a man satisfied? <br />
Teach your daughter how to work, abort the parasite growing inside you and move on with your life.

What a *****

Well, you're nothing if not consistent. From what you say, the only person who has ever mattered to you was you. To be fair, your son in law knew what he was doing was wrong too. Now the two of you have destroyed your daughter's life and your grandchildren's lives as they were. That's because things like this never stay a secret. Your daughter probably noticed the extra attention you gave to her husband and just didn't want to believe it could mean what it did. You need to get out of their lives, no matter what you decide about the pregnancy. I'm guessing you felt you were in competition with your daughter sexually. It was completely inappropriate. If you joined the church for forgiveness, then bear in mind that you needed to stop doing the things you needed forgiveness for. It's not a get out of jail free card.

Oh wow I can't believe you found supporters on this. I almost hurt myself laughing at some of the responses about you are not a monster you just made bad choices. No take it from me you ARE a horrible person, he IS a horrible person and you should both be ashamed of yourselves. You've destroyed lives and hurt people all because you were a little wet in your pants. You are scum. He is scum, and I feel terrible for your daughter and her two children. They are the victims in this so all these posts about poor you and him just made bad choices are just a lie. You two deserve the worst to happen to you. Scum.

Perhaps, before anything, or it's too late, you should reflect on your life one more time and walk in front of a moving train. Sack chasing leech with boobs is all you are. made it to with this. If I were you, abort that baby, dont say a word or you WILL destroy any relationship you have with your daughter, grandkids and anyone else you care about. Thats just my opinion.

This story is as fake as Pam Anderson's boobs...the only thing missing is an opening line of <br />
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Dear Penthouse, <br />
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I never thought this would happen to me....<br />
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you guys need to get a hobby.....

Yes, you are a monster. You are a vile, filthy *****. You are repugnant to all that is good and decent in this world. The fact that you live and breath the same air as other humans proves that there is not a God, as no loving God would allow something as heinous as you to exist anywhere but the foulest pits of hell. And that bastard in your belly, the spawn of your debauchery will probably be born deformed and retarded. <br />
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Your only recourse at this time is to run, not walk, to the nearest abortion clinic and have them yank that bloodly lump of shame from your wrinkled, desperate and STD infected ****. Tell them to burn the remains, feed the ashes to pigs, then kill the pigs, burn them, and scatter their ashes within the fiery chasm of Mount Doom. <br />
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Then, just to be safe, and to protect the world from being sucked into your putrid hole of despair, you need to have your uterus cut out, and that crusty sarlaac pit between your legs sewn shut. <br />
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May God have mercy on your soul you prune-fed abomination.

Wow, looks like "finding god" really helped.

You are a ******* horrible person, how could you do that to your daughter? Monster is an UNDERSTATEMENT for you. If I were your daughter I would kick you out sever all ties with you and never speak to you again. You just ruined a good marriage becuase of your own selfish god based needs. Guess what god isn't ******* real, hes a fairy tale, a ******* MYTH. You are a product of your own actions, not some fake wizard with a beard in the sky. If there was a hell I'd hope you burned in it, considering there isn't, I would suggest you through yourself off the nearest bridge.

and your a *****?