Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on her husband and have secretly lusted after him.  I have been divorced for over 15 years and have had very few male companions in my life since then.

When I moved in I took on a motherly type roll in the household and catered to everyone's needs.  My grandchildren, but especially my son in law.  I lusted after him, I seduced him and I entraped him.  One day he was swimming his laps in the pool and I came out in a 2 piece binkini that I purposely selected.  I entered the pool and interrupted his morning routine.  It was from that moment forward that I made my sexuality known to him and faluted myself to him.  A few weeks later we had intercourse for the first time, unprotected with primal lust and passion.  He filled a void that I had been missing for over 15 years.  I felt 25 years old again and gave no thoughts to my daughter or my two grandchildren.

I was not the best mother to begin with, I was pregnant initially at 16 and again at 19.  I was taught that sex was the key to keeping your man happy, which was wrong.  By age 26 I was divorced, alone and competing with my ex-husband who had again married a young bimbo who was now raising my kids.  I experimented with drugs and was very much strung out for 8 years or so until I found god.

The power I held over my son in law was intoxicating.  I was in love with him, we had sex in the pool, in the early hours of the morning trying not to wake anyone and even in his own bed.  At first I was careful and took my pill, but I lapsed on my prescription and missed my period.  I have not told him about this, I haven't told anyone.  I want to abort this baby but I cannot bring myself to this.  I cannot bring myself to admiting the truth to anyone.  I wish I were dead, I wish I had never had these feelings and pushed this issue.  I am pregnant and alone with my daughter's brother or sister inside of me.  I am a monster

littlejon63 littlejon63
344 Responses Mar 24, 2009

i feel sorry for you in one way as you are preganet and alone as you have been there and done that before. but i dont think you should tell your daughter what you did as you would lose her and problely would not see your grandchirldren again i would'nt do anything silly you could phone sermaritines and tell them how you fell there could find oranasations that can help you. take care of your self and try remain posstive.

Do not tell your daughter that would be even more selfish. Your behavior is monstrous and now you need to stop all the hurt you have dispensed to the others in your life.

You quacks! Not once did I attempt justification. I was merely stating what has occurred to get it out in the open. I'm not looking for help, and I'm not looking for sympathy rather trying to deal with my own demons.<br />
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I really fail to understand why people love to cast judgment on here. Does it allow your life to feel more significant than it is? Do you wake up in the morning and just feel the need to jump onto the Internet to start your daily judgments?<br />
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What more do I need to say? Some of you holier than thou types need to learn some comprehension skills for cripes sake!!!!!

did you really expect sympathy and support to be rained upon you? i'm amazed that you can't seem to understand why people would have such strong feelings, negative feelings about a situation like this. like i said before, this is no typical mistake and, since you set out to seduce your daughter's husband, i wouldn't call it a mistake at all. a mistake is something done accidently, without intent or premeditation. since when does a seduction fall under that description? and anytime you choose to put something like this out in the open, you leave yourself open to the opinions of others, good or bad. it's the chance you take, so deal with it. apparently you didn't feel your life was very significant or else you probably wouldn't have done something so foul. really, you don't need to say anything else. i think you've said enough. comprehension skills? you could use a few skills on what it is to be a decent human being. and just because a person doesn't approve of what you did doesn't make them holier than thou. maybe they just have a higher moral standard than you.

so your unborn child will be brother or sister to both your daughter and your grandchildren ...what a mess. The best thing to do is keep quiet until you decide what your going to do, you sound undecided. If this comes out it will most definitely put a big gap between you and your daughter, its heart breaking to know you could be so silly. Lust is a powerful thing but under these circumstances you should have had more self control. Ultimately someone here is going to pay the price there's no getting around it be it you having to abort the child, the child for losing its life, your daughter who could potentially lose everything her mother her husband and her childrens father.. if i were you i would weigh up the damage limitation go for the option that's the less painful for everyone concerned. Only you know what that is.

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I have lost the baby. The doctor says I was just too old to bring a child to term. That is a weight off my shoulders. Again, even though I stated it, I am not looking for sympathy or any other emotion. I have a greater feeling of peace, but not at the expense of a n unborn child

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All those who have sent me their sexual fantasies and wishes to "get together"... shame on you

A sad story all over!!!! if it's true and not just a fantasy!

considering how, by your own admission, you seduced you son-in-law, can you really be surprised that people would come to you with their fantasies and suggestions of getting together? it seems by telling this story you've left yourself wide open for more than you probably ever imagined. some things are best left unsaid.

I wish I could think of something to tell you, but I can't. That is because I simply can not imagine even thinking of doing what you have done. My naïve and still rather childish adolescent brain can not catch any understanding or logic in this act. I am still in the happy ending-phase. In that world where people aren't supposed to do each other wrong.<br />
It is for that reason that I can't tell you everything will be alright and that you must have had a nasty life while meaning it. I do want you to know that I do sympathize in a way, and that you'll be thought of. I might not understand you, but I can tell you that in my world, there is always a way to get out of a mess. There might even be one for yours. And I sincerely hope that comforts you. <br />
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I wish you strength.

LUck is not what you need. to do something like this to your own family is just disgusting. If you had no thought for your own daughter and grandchildren when you were "enjoying" yourself with him. You really are A MONSTER!<br />
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Is people like you who gives others like us an unhealable heart. <br />
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Well... take good care of the guilt, because that's one thing you will now have FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE! You traded your dignity, your daughter's happiness, for it.

You aren't a monster, you are a woman who has made a terrible mistake. It is not up to you to decide to take very negative situation that you created and turn it into something positive. I would encourage you to realize that this situation affects the whole family. Do what is right for the whole family and yourself.

You said you found god lmao. Letters like your make me feel reinforced about my atheism.

If she had REALLY found god she would found the strength to not lust after and seduce her son in law! Im surprised no one has brought that up yet.

Dear,you have created this monstorous situation for yourself.You are not having your daughter's brother or sis but but your grand daughter or sis inside you.<br />
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Dont blame anybody and face the situation.You must have made some plan to handle it.

all i can say is think think think befour you do any thing good luck

28 years ago I was married to man one man I loved more than life itself. We had a wonderful marriage. We lived next door to my parents. One day I came home from work and he was gone. For 28 years I never knew what I did wrong or why he left. I never got closure. After 28 years I found him. (I might tell you that this is 5 marriages later. I have never been able to commit or fully trust anyone since him.) Well, I got my answer two days ago. He and my mother (with whom I live with now while going through my latest disaster of a marriage) were fooling around. Funny thing is...I always joked after he left by saying "He only married me for my mother." Amazing how true that really was! My whole adult life has been a struggle for me. I could never get to that comfort level of trust with a husband. I could never quite put my finger on the whole thing. But when he confessed I knew he was telling the truth. I am hurt, I was betrayed in a horrible way. The good thing for me is that I am a Christian. Forgiveness is coming very hard for me. I will forgive, not for them but for me. I was talking to a mutual friend this weekend and told him that I knew 28 years ago he was having an affair. I sure didn't know who that affair was though. It was the next day I found out. I will tell you my 73 year old mother will probably go to her grave and me never say a word. She already knows what she did. I don't have to remind her.

Don't worry. Someday your daughter will get the answer too. And she may never say anything either. Makes you wonder. Doesn't it? Don't ever do anything in secret that you don't want to have revealed.

Wow, I'm speechless. I don't even have anything to say to the original poster. Unbelievable.<br />
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My two children are in the room with me right now and I look at them. How does a mother do this to her own children??? It wasn't just a mistake, it was calculated and deliberate and it took time for this woman to work on seducing her son in law. Not only in no lifetime I would ever do that to my own children, I'd lay down my life for them in a heartbeat. <br />
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How does someone do this to their children? <br />
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Her daughter took her in because she grew up without a real mother. Her daughter wanted to know her mother and this is the slap in the face she got? For her mother to sleep with her husband in her own bed? <br />
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This is absolutely disgusting. I have no advice to give to such a narcissist. She will never get help. She's not even feeling any remorse about the act. She feels so shameless about it that she can still write that she finds her daughter's husband sexually appealing! For most normal people, that would be the last thought if they felt any kind of remorse. The only thing she's concerned about is getting busted now. No remorse whatsoever that she left her daughter without a mother for all these years, no remorse for destroying her daughter's family. <br />
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I think any person like this is beyond any advice and help. The best thing that can happen is that the daughter cuts her mother off forever. No good can ever come out of this woman having a relationship with her mother. She'll never be able to offer any support or in any way be what a mother should be.

It's odd, though theres no pool, or big house, I've heard this situation before. By being a mother you prolly told your kids to take responsibility for their actions, your grandchildren now have a sibling, and an aunt or uncle, at the same time. What has happened happened, you can't turn back, even if you abort you will still always know, The only thing I can say is take responsibility, not telling your daughter would keep her blissfully unaware, but guilt might bog you and him down, and she'll find out eventually, it's up to you whether she finds out the right way, or the wrong way.

She had a miscarriage.

How could you do that? You may not be a monster, but you sure acted like one. I don't even know what to say. As for your daughter, she needs to know the truth.

sorry to tell you but no matter what your screwed. this isn't the right thing to say because it sounds horrible but it will probably avoid hurting your daughter. <br />
get the abortion asap. move the hell out of that house to avoid your son in law and getting knocked up again, and stay with a friend and dont cave in and tell your daughter about the affair because she would probably NEVER talk to you again and that would probably tear their whole family apart. sorry to sound so evil but its the truth.

Wow. Whether you tell your daughter or not, chances are the truth will eventually come out. If you want to abort the baby, then do so...if not, then don't. I don't think you're a monster. I think you're a human being that has made some bad choices. Anyone who says they've never screwed up is a flat out liar. You're in an extremely difficult spot. I wish you all the best & wish I had more advice to give.

you are NOT a monster. everyone makes mistakes. stop the affair and have the baby if you think you can raise him/her with love, care, devotion and give him/her the life she deserves.<br />
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Maybe you should tell your daughter. She deserves to know that her husband, too, had an affair. BUt regardless of whether you tell or not, the truth will come out eventually, like mrsbigdave said.<br />
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Don't be too harsh on yourself. We all make mistakes. we are just humans. things will turn out fine. just give it time.

you send me a message so i can see what the bleeped out words were on my whiteboard. and if it was ***** or ***** that you called me, all i have to say is that you have a lot of ******* nerve calling someone else that with your scandalous ***. you sleeping with your son in law makes you a bigger ***** or ***** than i could ever aspire to be, not that it's a goal of mine. obviously i haven't scrapped the bottom of the barrel like yourself.

I feel so sorry for your daughter I know my mother never cared for me but at least I can be certain she would never seduce my bf of husband what you have done is a disgrace you clearly have no morals. You should tell your daughter the truth and abortion because you cant keep you knickers on thats sick and very wrong you want sympathy but I cant give you that and the only way you can sort this out is by giving your daughter the truth maybe she wwill forgive you her husband is also guilty but as you put in all the work to get him you should tell your daughter that wishing you were dead hardly changes things you have to face the music of the trouble you yourself caused.

you're going to have to do a whole lot better than calling me a ****** if you want to hurt me, sweetheart. to me, that word is so played out, why don't you see if you can come up with something new and fresh besides ******? i realize learning new things might not be on your list of interests, but give it a try ok? and you can thank your lucky stars that you're able to say words like ****** from the safety of your computer. face to face, you wouldn't have the balls to do so and, if by some chance you did, you would end up regretting it even more so than you regret sleeping with your son in law. trust me.

I maybe really nasty to say this but you losing the baby means there is one less innocent to get hurt maybe its karma you are upset by what people have said but thats nothing compaired with what will be said when people learn of your rercent behaviour. If I were you I'd tell my daughter the truth and disappear.

watch what you say to this one, cat or she might send you a nasty PM also lol. i know you're probably shaking in your boots, aren't you? lol

Hi:<br />
You made a mistake - move on. Sex is not a big deal and essentially with a man who happened to be your son-in-law. Forget the guilt trip - and don't let your daughter know. Either get an abortion or say it was from some one else.<br />
And keep away from your son-in-law ! and get a husband!<br />
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For Jesus' sake - don't fall into the guilt trap! Life is too short for that ...enjoy every moment of what you have in this life!<br />
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Best of luck!

im only 14 so i cant really help. but ur situation sounds really bad n i cuddnt help but comment. u not a monster. u were lonely. i think the monster here is ur son in law. hes the 1st one u shud tell about ur pegnancy. n fast. if u want an abortion im not arguing with you. but if you really love the baby n want to keep it. thats ok to.i wont juj. if u havent stoped already i think u shud stop your sexual relations with ur son in law. also after u tell him about the baby, tell ur daughter. shes gona b pretty pissed but i doubt shell stop loving u. i wudnt b suprissed tho if she divorces ur son in law. anyway, its ok to feel lonely but u shud try theripy not wat u did. i hope this helpes cuz i wana b a phyciatrist wen i grow up.

ok i jus read wat some of these plp wrote. look, its gona b hard but no matter wat these plp say, TELL YOUR DAUGHTER N SON IN LAW!!

oh yeah- Good Luck! :)

oh yeah- Good Luck! :) are not a monster. I will agree that you were selfish, low self esteem, a poor excuse for a parent, and irresponsible. But...a monster...we'll leave that for the Hitler types. <br />
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I have to say this...Your role as a parent (this is a lifetime role) it is your responsibility to protect your child...even from YOU. You failed in this sense. That's something you have to deal with. However, we can not protect them from the truth. <br />
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First you must ask you want a relationship with your daughter. I think this will be difficult, but you must start by stopping your selfishness and do the right thing moving forward. What's the RIGHT thing? <br />
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Telling the TRUTH! This is not some little white lie that you can sweep under the table. Plus, as a responsible adult you have to face the consequences of your actions rather than run from them. <br />
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Concern: What's not being said here is the role her husband played. He is not a victim. You only did what he allowed him to do. He is definitely not a loving husband to your daughter b/c he was willing to have sex with you. If he is posing as a loving husband you need to let your daughter know. There's no reason to salvage this marriage. Your daughter needs to know the truth about YOU and the truth about this man she calls her husband. That's the real problem.<br />
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Secondly, you need to sit down and talk to him about you being pregnant. He is now the other parent and should have a say in the welfare of the child. <br />
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Although I don't recommend this route: If you don't have grandchildren by this man and your daughter (you didn't mention any)...well maybe you guys can salvage something from this and the child can have a mother and a father. Don't expect him to be happy about the situation. <br />
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Another question is are there other children involved?<br />
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The baby...well. <br />
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If you need help on whether or not to keep the child (abortion vs adoption). If she has children my vote would be NO. That's just a family dynamic that should never have to happen and now you're involving the children. They'll have to explain that at some point. If she doesn't have children have it...keep it or give it up for adoption. That's pretty much up to you. Either way will be hard...but you made this choice.<br />
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You deserve whatever the outcome is. Be an adult. Take responsibility for your actions. <br />
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It's unfortunate that you made these choices for you and your daughter. <br />
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I wish her the best!! This is not going to be easy. Take care.

Don't end the life of another human being to try and solve your own mistakes. I'm amazed at some of the ruthless and cold people here. You'll regret it for the rest of your life. Stand up and admit your own faults instead of dodging responsibility as so many are doing now in days.

telling your daughter has the definite chance of creating a wound that will not heal.... lets just be real here for a moment! what would that truly accomplish? stopping the affair may be a wise thing to do! and move out asap!<br />
but lets not be so judge mental as she said she seduced the husband he did not pursue her. Perhaps he picked up on the fact that she was lonely and had feelings of being unwanted maybe he just wanted to make her feel better about herself and that was the only way he knew how to do so. things happen in our lives for a reason just learn from your experiences and that is what will truly set you free.

did not think there would be minors....... and such negative judge mental people in this forum. in many cultures this situation would be a typical example of the nuclear family. it was just sex people that's all..... i see the tyranny of the puritans still reign in this country!

i agree with yourlove. since when is this the definition of a nuclear family? instead of her son in law providing her with sexual healing and comfort, if he felt she was lonely and unwanted, i think it would have been better for him to encourage her to get out and about, meet some people or introduced her to some if he was able to. there are better ways he could have helped her instead of sleeping with her.

The truth is that this womans daughter and her grandchildren are the vicims of 2 very selfish people this woman admitted she wanted this to happen and therefore deliberatly hurt her family

so true, cat.

it was just sex......... why must there be such a negative perception of situations involving sex? why not celebrate the fact that a new soul shall enter into to this realm of existence to experience the universal physical experience called life?(with the birth of unborn child) let the individuals involved determine whats right and wrong.perhaps the mom just found her own way to extend the family with a man she trusted because he was already married to her daughter(showing she approved of her daughters choice in mate for procreation).we have reached a point in humanity were we need to find more ways to come together and embrace life's curves and turns.....not finding things to condemn and blame and label each other ultimately keeping us separated........

it's not the sex that's wrong, it's who it occured between that isn't right in my opinion and obviously in the opinions of others who have commented on this story. if you read the earlier posts, she lost the baby and, given the circumstances, it might not have been a bad thing. littlejon found her own way to extend the family with a man she trusted because he was already married to her daughter? hmm, i wonder how her daughter would feel about that? i'm willing to bet she wouldn't approve. call me crazy, but i think most women would feel hurt and betrayed if their mothers and their husbands did this to them, not find reason to celebrate.

many ofthe opinions metioned by others are based on a puritanical, western view of the world, and a one sided view of the bible. why is there so much anger in your response jerrica. I thought this forum was a way for people to openly and honestly express ideas and opinions without malice and without being judged.... if your in such a bad mood perhaps it would be healthier for you to meditate and save your comments for a time when your not so angry...and since when celebrating the miracles of life became a bad thing..

yes, this may be a forum to openly and honestly express ideas and opinions, but i think it's a bit naive to think that you're not going to have people express opposing opinions and everyone is going to agree with you. like i said in a earlier post, when we write something here, we take our chances that there are going to be people who might disagree with us and they have that right as much as we have the right to express ourselves through our stories, confessions, etc. any of my comments on this story weren't necessarily made when i was in a bad mood. the anger i feel comes from the fact that i think the whole situation is wrong, just as you feel others opinions are based on people being puritanical. in a nutshell, we're all entitled to our opinions and i'm not going to try and convince you that yours is wrong and i would hope that you'd afford me the same courtesy.

there's nothing wrong with expessing a difference of opinion..... theres just a more psitive way of doing so....

so says you. you do it your way and i'll do it my way. some situations are so disgusting, like this one, that i don't think i'd be able to express my opinion in a more postitve way.

so dont express it at all who needs negativity... maybe your just disappointed shes getting some and your not

you're probably not getting any either, gimpy lol. anyone that would **** their daughter's hubby is lower than a snake and so are you for condoning this situation.

I wouldn't tell anyone and get that abortion. Think of your grandchildren here. <br />
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And BTW, your not a Monster! **** happens to good people. <br />
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Just don't wreck up your daughters family - get the hell of there immediately.

number 1, i can express myself anytime i get good and ready, just like you are doing. number 2, and most importantly, if i wanted to get some, i wuld have the balls and self respect to get it from someone other than my daughter's husband. instead of fishing in my daughter's pool, i'd go find another pond to get my fish. you seem to think she's done something noble and great here. i think she's pathetic myself. the man shortage isn't so great that a woman can't find another man to ball besides her son in law. but seeing as you're down with that sort of thing, i don't expect you to agree with it.

Wanna move in with me and my wife?

its wrong because it will cause emotional pain to innocent victims if it was not hurting anyone it would not be a problem

I really am torn with what I think you shoud do here. I would want to know if my husband was a lie and a cheat, but if you or him tell her yall had sex then it could **** her up for life. It could effect every relationship she would ever have with another man (speaking in terms if she left her husband). It will make her not trust anyone. You are supposed to be able to trust your mom and dad to be the main people who will never screw you over!!! Man this is so messed up.

This is so wrong on so many levels. How the hell can you<br />
stand there and justify your actions? You have been planning this since day one!<br />
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how could you make such a irresponsilbe decision?By the way don't blame your past for your mistakes.<br />
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I was sexually abused and abandon. Do you see me <br />
molesting children or abandoning my kids, Hell no!<br />
so stop using your past as a victim or a crutch.<br />
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People like you can really screw with a person. I feel<br />
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my advice would be get your fricking tubes tied. stop screwing around with people lives!

Jerrica- you go! The guy dissing you showed his true colors and how low he was when he said you weren't getting any and that is why you were so negative. You have taken the high road in life I can tell- and it is so sad we have to call it a 'high road' because the truth is it is simply what is common sense and level headed. We need more people like you in this world.

thank you, duana. i would think most people wouldn't agree with this situation, be they sexually active or not. that particular comment shows a seroius lack of intelligence to me. i guess he figures if people are having sex, they're going to ok any situation. i wouldn't have ok'd something like this when i was having sex every day.

i have sex all the time and i don't agree with a situation like this, so what the gimp says makes no sense to me. only belly crawling snakes would think this is ok.

take a look at the past comments shes not taking any high road, she was expressing herself from a place in her soul the lacks positive energy, and being sexually inactive would most definitely give you a jaded view of anyone elses sexuality because your fustrated with your own lack of sexual activity all of you bitter old prunes go and get professional help instead of coming on ep to condem other people

more wisdom from the gimp and i doubt that a person would be frustrated by anything that they gave up voluntarily. you really ought to know someone's backstory before shooting off your big mouth.

this may come as a surprise to you, caramelkush, but if you look at the last line of my previous comment, i said i wouldn't have been supportive of something like this regardless of sexual activity. if that's so hard for you to believe, then that's your problem not mine. if not agreeing with this kind of situation makes me a bitter old prune, then i'm damned happy to be one. speaking of help, it sounds like YOU may get some benefit from some.

tbc537 your words ring loudly with truth and perception!

you wouldn't recognize truth and perception if it bit you in the *** lol

I'm sorry, but I think you are a selfish woman. And, so is your son-in-law. Neither of you thought of the damage you were doing to others. Perhaps you should just go and never tell anyone what happened. Your daughter and your grand-children would only be devastated. You would be clearing your conscience at their expense. I know you don't want to cause anymore harm. I wish you good luck and ask that you be more careful in your choices.

Honestly, if he cheated on your daughter with YOU, then eventually he would have done it to her with someone else (a cheater is a cheater). But, despite that fact, your daughter more than likely will not see it that way due to the pain she will feel over this and the betrayal by her own mother. I feel very badly for your daughter and grandchildren - you and your son-in-law more than likely just ensured that all 3 of them will require major therapy for quite some time.

tell me what did the innocent baby in your belly do to be senrenced to death? shall it be put to death for your sins? Jesus apparantly already did that. You did something terrible, monstourous,the bolth of you. But you are not a monster. I hope your still not sleeping with the man, if you are, you are not truely sorry. I had an abortion long ago when I was a teenager for what I thought was a good reason and the guilt and shame are still very painful, seems to me you don't need more of that, however you could make a couple who can't have there own child very joyful and happy, make somehing good out of this. Get out of your daughters house! Tell her if you must but either way never be with this man again. That is my advise.

Pardon me I just read the posts and I am sorry that you lost your baby, that is hard regardless of the circumstances of conception for any woman.

Get the baby out. Get yourself another lover. He won't fulfill you in anyway. Do you even love your daugther?

Ceme, befor you recomend to put to death an innocent baby you should know fro previous posts the baby died on its own, im sure the news will make you happy. Again I say im sorry, and I hope things work out for your daughter and her family and you do the right thing for all involved.

I'm sorry for souding to harsh. You're no monster though and I agree with withoutwithin.

You COMPLETELY deserve what's happening to you. I have absolutely NO sympathy for you. I just feel sorry for the unborn child and this daughter that you've betrayed in the worst possible way.<br />
Her husband is also a disgusting bastard.

A monster? No, I don't think so. You made a bad decision, unfortunately, one you will have to live with.<br />
Make an excuse to get away, & get yourself to a women's shelter as far from there as possible. Tell no one. <br />
I feel you must have the child, & if you need to, give him / her up for adoption. You cannot tell you daughter what happened, I feel you would be destroying a family. As for the SIL? Keep him at arm's length, for he is to blame as well.

I think you should come clean. It'll hurt your daughter, yes, but I think she deserves to know what sort of people she has in her life. You and her husband should be ashamed of yourselves, this is totally disgusting behavior and you aren't fit, in my opinion, to raise another child as it sounds to me like you've made bad decisions your entire life and haven't learned a thing. I know you're only human but when you're as old as you are and still can't control yourself, you've crossed the line between making a mistake and just not giving a damn and/or being downright dense.<br />
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Neither of your are trustworthy and this woman might not want people like that polluting the air. Even if you get out, like you should, that guy is still there and if it's not you that he's laying around with, it'll likely be another woman down the road. The trust is broken, even if she doesn't know it yet, and I can't imagine how embarrassing and disgusting it would be for those poor children to know this ever happened, should they ever find out.

dont tell your daughter and abort.<br />
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dont ruin their lives...

dont tell your daughter and abort.<br />
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dont ruin their lives...

dont tell your daughter and abort.<br />
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dont ruin their lives...

dont tell your daughter and abort.<br />
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dont ruin their lives...

I am so naive that I am always amazed by these types of stories. Anything is possible: for good or for nil. I know that in life stuff happens. I am not holier than thou, but I think this is wrong. I understand that you are attracted to your daughter's husband, but he is your daughter's husband. <br />
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I know that I have done things that I am not proud of. I can not judge you. I can judge the actions, and an affair with your son-in-law does not facilitate a happy family and is very selfish. Wow, just wow! I wouldn't even do this to a stranger. <br />
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I think you should tell your daughter, stop the affair, move out. Immediately! Get your own place and your own man to have sex with.

Jerrica! You are amazing. I agree wholeheartedly that this is wrong.<br />
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For the SIL commenting that the sexual experience was intense, I hope your wife found out and has left this situation. You love the sex more than you love her, obviously.

I don't believe the story. <br />
It just has an element that smells fishy to me. <br />
I think it's someone lying looking for attention on the negative side. <br />
Belongs in that guy Springs-something

Okay, I am swallowing my naive words then. I don't believe there is a word to accurately describe these individuals then. Very very despicable and disturbed and void, cruel, narcissist and imbecile. That goes to show that having functioning reproductive systems and using them DOES NOT MAKE A MOTHER OR A FATHER. If she wanted to prey on a lot younger guys, that's sick enough, but her daughters' men???? In some countries she would be CAGED!! I hope I never remotely understand this.

thank you, LH, for your comment but apparently not everyone shares your opinion of me because i don't condone this. watch out ladies. if you don't go for this, you might be accused of being a bitter old prune lol. after all, in the eyes of some people, it was just sex. no need to get all up in arms over it. *rolls eyes* aldabella, love the part about LJ finding god in the son in laws pants! what your mom did to you was pretty lousy too.

Jerrica, Evania, and all other compassionate people with a sense of integrity know that this was not just sex. If the sitution was reversed and their significant others were having just sex with a family member, close friend or stranger, the comments would be completely different. This can not be justified and is very hurtful.

i agree with you but, unfortunately, there is plenty of scum on ep who would be delighted to have their spouse have sex with family, friends, etc and some already do engage in this. beats the hell out of me.

wow this is straight out of a soap opera...<br />
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I'm not sure what to say exactly other then if you found God then this is a pretty damn good time to go to him and pray for some sort of guidance. I'm not here to blame you however, the feeling of loneliness is pretty deep and even the best of us fall. Other then that I can't say much, I'm far too inexperienced to give you advice on what you should do

Hi i read the above story and i realy feel for you. I have a girlfirend and all we think about is sex. Our relationship hardly ever goeas beyond sex and i understand that she has been through alot of faile drelations ships being older than i am thus i understand that the main way she views as being able to hold onto her man or crush is through sex. I really feel for her as is she only knew how much i was willing to take it onto another level and i love her past this she would have any fear of losing me. You are a beautiful smart and compassionate person. Dont listen to what the other fools on this blbog might say you might have made some mistakes in your past my older sister was born when my mom was 18 i know this. i calculated this when i was about 14 but i have never confronted my mother about this coz i love her and i dont care what she has ever done in her past coz she will always be my mom. And i belive that despite the fact that you let your lusts go before your judgement deep down in your heart you love you daughter more than you love yourself and that is all theat matters. I would say that it would be best if it was in your capability to raise the child (if you had the money) that you do so because depite the means that the child would have been consieved through a child is a blessing to this world. You are the mother and you should take respnciblilty and overlook what everybody else is goin to say because it doesnt matter. If you want to change this is the first step. It is going to be painful it is going to be hard but that is the road to redemption its not easy but it is certainly worth it. I feel for you as if you were my own mother. and i hope that i have been of any help. One thing throughout all my challenges in life one person has helped me go through them all. It was at time painful but never the less He always saw me through and i pray that you hold stedfast onto Him. GOD <br />
God bless :-)

I am a child of a totally dysfunctional family in every way shape and form....alcoholism, physical abuse, mental abuse...etc... My parents started having children at 18 or 19. They were completely not suitable parents. They should have not had children to begin with. Prior to me even being conceived, there were major problems in their marriage. <br />
My father constantly cheated on my mom (even when she was pregnant); he was physically abusive toward her, my brother and my sister; he was a drunk; and did not like to work. Their relationship went back and forth, and then they finally got divorced. My dad moved to Florida for five years. He came back to visit my mom, my brother and my sister, who are respectively 7 and 8 years older than me. When he came back for one night, they did the deed, and to their surprise, in 1971, my mom got pregnant with me. Throughout my childhood the abuse persisted to which my mom just turned a blind eye. They omitted some big information from me growing up….they were not married and I thought they were! I only found this out a few years ago. I was very upset, because not only did I have to deal with their **** growing up, I was born in a loveless relationship. <br />
To say the least me, my brother, and sister have paid the price, even into adulthood. I have dealt with depression and seek help with it even now. There were no apologies from my parents to this day. My mom still turns a blind eye, dear-in-the-head-lights look at issues and my dad is still a complete tool. They are ****-ups. The point here is I truly in my heart wish when I was conceived my mom had an abortion. So do yourself a favor, do not tell your daughter, get away from her husband and have an abortion. Forgive yourself, be a good mom, which I believe it is never too late, and I am 37. I also strongly urge you to go into therapy. If you have a therapist and your issues are still there, find a better therapist. I am still pissed because my parents never did the healing they should for themselves and their now adult children.

I'm not even dignifying this with a comment.

Talk to someone.

I don't normally like to judge but I feel no pity for you; only for your daughter. If this story is true, and you are being honest on your profile you're almost 50. That's old enough to know that what you were doing was selfish and immoral. As a mother, the needs and happiness of your child should be fore-most in your mind but you've potentially destroyed both her marriage and her trust in you.<br />
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I know it takes two to tango, but that doesn't make it any better.<br />
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If you truly care about your daughter's happiness they only thing you can really do is move away. Tell her nothing. If you choose to have the baby - tell her it was because of a one night stand with somebody else.<br />
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It's a rough situation, and deep down I really want your daughter to know what kind of a rat both you and her husband are, but if you're too cowardly to do this then lying is the only way to preserve your relationship.<br />
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And, seriously, grow up.

are you so dirt poor that you cannot afford a *****? if yes,well probably you can afford a piece of an eggplant to stuff your demonic *****..<br />
<br /> now you want to be a baby killer huh???<br />
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you are one adulterous and traitor vagina....that is what you are...<br />
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FIX YOUR LIFE OLD VAGINA BIATCH demonic *****....repent to God and get clean before it's too late...<br />
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You don't deserve to be a mother or be a friend of any woman AT ALL............<br />
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You are equal to a DOG sexing ALL PENIS OUT THERE without conscience...<br />
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When I first read your story I was as disgusted as everyone else, however I have read all of the comments posted by people and I think that you've had more than enough abuse to last a life time, so I'm going to be gentle.<br />
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Your were wrong, and for a while you did the worst thing a mother could possibly done, but if you are truely sorry and you have stopped having any kind of sexual relations with your Son-in-law then you can't go through the rest of your life with this guilt, It'll kill you.<br />
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I think that you need to start down the long path of forgiving yourself, it won't be easy and you'll definatly need help but you can't go through the rest of your life with this on your shoulders.<br />
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'Monster' is a strong word and I do not believe that it applies to you, I just think that you acted appallingly, I really am sorry that you lost the baby, that must have been terrible for you. But maybe in the long run it was for the best.<br />
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As for whether or not to tell your daughter, I'm not going to try to give you advice for that. That is an issue for you to decide and noone else.<br />
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I really hope everything works out for you and that you have learnt your lesson and never do anything like this ever again.

you give the word "frienemy" a whole new meaning.

aint that the truth!

You're human dear! I'm not going to deny the fact that this is going to be a tough trail to walk down, but hunny, you are not alone nor did you do this alone. Many others have walked your path. We all make decisions that we later regret. You should just focus on one day at a time. Therapy will tremendously help. Especially one on one with someone. At some point, you many want to tell the man involved what has occured due to both of your actions. This might help, but that's for you to decide. I believe, like any other sin, you'll be forgiven. You need to convince youself of that too so you can continue to live the life you deserve. <br />
Much love and many blessings!!

without a doubt, i'm sure we've all sinned in one way or another. nobody is perfect by any means. i don't know about anyone else who has commented, but what bothers me most about this story is the fact that she purposely set out to sleep with her son in law, her daughters husband. with all of the men in the world, i think she could have found one not so close to home.

found her own man, thats exactly what she should have done.

"nobody is perfect" IS NOT TRUE.....It is written in the Holy Bible that Job and Noah are sinners too but God sees them as PERFECT. HUMANS.........sorry cancergirl20 you are wrong..... people can be sinners yet PERFECT....READ YOUR BIBLE......