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Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on her husband and have secretly lusted after him.  I have been divorced for over 15 years and have had very few male companions in my life since then.

When I moved in I took on a motherly type roll in the household and catered to everyone's needs.  My grandchildren, but especially my son in law.  I lusted after him, I seduced him and I entraped him.  One day he was swimming his laps in the pool and I came out in a 2 piece binkini that I purposely selected.  I entered the pool and interrupted his morning routine.  It was from that moment forward that I made my sexuality known to him and faluted myself to him.  A few weeks later we had intercourse for the first time, unprotected with primal lust and passion.  He filled a void that I had been missing for over 15 years.  I felt 25 years old again and gave no thoughts to my daughter or my two grandchildren.

I was not the best mother to begin with, I was pregnant initially at 16 and again at 19.  I was taught that sex was the key to keeping your man happy, which was wrong.  By age 26 I was divorced, alone and competing with my ex-husband who had again married a young bimbo who was now raising my kids.  I experimented with drugs and was very much strung out for 8 years or so until I found god.

The power I held over my son in law was intoxicating.  I was in love with him, we had sex in the pool, in the early hours of the morning trying not to wake anyone and even in his own bed.  At first I was careful and took my pill, but I lapsed on my prescription and missed my period.  I have not told him about this, I haven't told anyone.  I want to abort this baby but I cannot bring myself to this.  I cannot bring myself to admiting the truth to anyone.  I wish I were dead, I wish I had never had these feelings and pushed this issue.  I am pregnant and alone with my daughter's brother or sister inside of me.  I am a monster

littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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so, littlejon, do you really think crushing on, lusting after and deliberately seducing your son-in-law is a run of the mill typical mistake? whatever, i don't think so. quit looking for reasons to justify what you did. this is no ordinary "mistake" by any means. you knew exactly what you were doing with no thought of your daughter whatsoever and her bastard of a husband is no better. but i blame you even more than him because i'd expect better from a mother.

i feel sorry for you in one way as you are preganet and alone as you have been there and done that before. but i dont think you should tell your daughter what you did as you would lose her and problely would not see your grandchirldren again i would'nt do anything silly you could phone sermaritines and tell them how you fell there could find oranasations that can help you. take care of your self and try remain posstive.

Do not tell your daughter that would be even more selfish. Your behavior is monstrous and now you need to stop all the hurt you have dispensed to the others in your life.

You quacks! Not once did I attempt justification. I was merely stating what has occurred to get it out in the open. I'm not looking for help, and I'm not looking for sympathy rather trying to deal with my own demons.<br />
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I really fail to understand why people love to cast judgment on here. Does it allow your life to feel more significant than it is? Do you wake up in the morning and just feel the need to jump onto the Internet to start your daily judgments?<br />
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What more do I need to say? Some of you holier than thou types need to learn some comprehension skills for cripes sake!!!!!

did you really expect sympathy and support to be rained upon you? i'm amazed that you can't seem to understand why people would have such strong feelings, negative feelings about a situation like this. like i said before, this is no typical mistake and, since you set out to seduce your daughter's husband, i wouldn't call it a mistake at all. a mistake is something done accidently, without intent or premeditation. since when does a seduction fall under that description? and anytime you choose to put something like this out in the open, you leave yourself open to the opinions of others, good or bad. it's the chance you take, so deal with it. apparently you didn't feel your life was very significant or else you probably wouldn't have done something so foul. really, you don't need to say anything else. i think you've said enough. comprehension skills? you could use a few skills on what it is to be a decent human being. and just because a person doesn't approve of what you did doesn't make them holier than thou. maybe they just have a higher moral standard than you.

I would really like to synpathize with you but I can't. You knew exactly what you were doing, with or without protection. How could you stoop so low as to do that to your own child? I'm usually not in favor of abortion, but I seriously think you should consider it. Not only for your daughter, but for the child who will find out some day? How do you think that child will feel or cope with that. What kind of message are you sending to that child? <br />
You really need to find a place of your own and get out. If you hope to have any type of a relationship with your daughter, move. I really think you have dug a hole so deep you will never get out. If I was your daughter and I found out, I would never, ever have anything to do with you. <br />
As for her husband, he's is bad as you are. What a horrible husband? He's a cheater and if he did it with you, he will definitely do it with someone else. It's a shame your daughter married him! <br />
Definitely move out and move on. If you need professional help, get it. You might as well move somewhere far away. <br />
How disgusting???????????????????????????????????

so your unborn child will be brother or sister to both your daughter and your grandchildren ...what a mess. The best thing to do is keep quiet until you decide what your going to do, you sound undecided. If this comes out it will most definitely put a big gap between you and your daughter, its heart breaking to know you could be so silly. Lust is a powerful thing but under these circumstances you should have had more self control. Ultimately someone here is going to pay the price there's no getting around it be it you having to abort the child, the child for losing its life, your daughter who could potentially lose everything her mother her husband and her childrens father.. if i were you i would weigh up the damage limitation go for the option that's the less painful for everyone concerned. Only you know what that is.

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I have lost the baby. The doctor says I was just too old to bring a child to term. That is a weight off my shoulders. Again, even though I stated it, I am not looking for sympathy or any other emotion. I have a greater feeling of peace, but not at the expense of a n unborn child

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All those who have sent me their sexual fantasies and wishes to "get together"... shame on you

A sad story all over!!!! if it's true and not just a fantasy!

considering how, by your own admission, you seduced you son-in-law, can you really be surprised that people would come to you with their fantasies and suggestions of getting together? it seems by telling this story you've left yourself wide open for more than you probably ever imagined. some things are best left unsaid.

I wish I could think of something to tell you, but I can't. That is because I simply can not imagine even thinking of doing what you have done. My naïve and still rather childish adolescent brain can not catch any understanding or logic in this act. I am still in the happy ending-phase. In that world where people aren't supposed to do each other wrong.<br />
It is for that reason that I can't tell you everything will be alright and that you must have had a nasty life while meaning it. I do want you to know that I do sympathize in a way, and that you'll be thought of. I might not understand you, but I can tell you that in my world, there is always a way to get out of a mess. There might even be one for yours. And I sincerely hope that comforts you. <br />
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I wish you strength.

LUck is not what you need. to do something like this to your own family is just disgusting. If you had no thought for your own daughter and grandchildren when you were "enjoying" yourself with him. You really are A MONSTER!<br />
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Is people like you who gives others like us an unhealable heart. <br />
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Well... take good care of the guilt, because that's one thing you will now have FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE! You traded your dignity, your daughter's happiness, for it.

You aren't a monster, you are a woman who has made a terrible mistake. It is not up to you to decide to take very negative situation that you created and turn it into something positive. I would encourage you to realize that this situation affects the whole family. Do what is right for the whole family and yourself.

You said you found god lmao. Letters like your make me feel reinforced about my atheism.

If she had REALLY found god she would found the strength to not lust after and seduce her son in law! Im surprised no one has brought that up yet.

Dear,you have created this monstorous situation for yourself.You are not having your daughter's brother or sis but but your grand daughter or sis inside you.<br />
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Dont blame anybody and face the situation.You must have made some plan to handle it.

all i can say is think think think befour you do any thing good luck

28 years ago I was married to man one man I loved more than life itself. We had a wonderful marriage. We lived next door to my parents. One day I came home from work and he was gone. For 28 years I never knew what I did wrong or why he left. I never got closure. After 28 years I found him. (I might tell you that this is 5 marriages later. I have never been able to commit or fully trust anyone since him.) Well, I got my answer two days ago. He and my mother (with whom I live with now while going through my latest disaster of a marriage) were fooling around. Funny thing is...I always joked after he left by saying "He only married me for my mother." Amazing how true that really was! My whole adult life has been a struggle for me. I could never get to that comfort level of trust with a husband. I could never quite put my finger on the whole thing. But when he confessed I knew he was telling the truth. I am hurt, I was betrayed in a horrible way. The good thing for me is that I am a Christian. Forgiveness is coming very hard for me. I will forgive, not for them but for me. I was talking to a mutual friend this weekend and told him that I knew 28 years ago he was having an affair. I sure didn't know who that affair was though. It was the next day I found out. I will tell you my 73 year old mother will probably go to her grave and me never say a word. She already knows what she did. I don't have to remind her.

Don't worry. Someday your daughter will get the answer too. And she may never say anything either. Makes you wonder. Doesn't it? Don't ever do anything in secret that you don't want to have revealed.

Wow, I'm speechless. I don't even have anything to say to the original poster. Unbelievable.<br />
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My two children are in the room with me right now and I look at them. How does a mother do this to her own children??? It wasn't just a mistake, it was calculated and deliberate and it took time for this woman to work on seducing her son in law. Not only in no lifetime I would ever do that to my own children, I'd lay down my life for them in a heartbeat. <br />
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How does someone do this to their children? <br />
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Her daughter took her in because she grew up without a real mother. Her daughter wanted to know her mother and this is the slap in the face she got? For her mother to sleep with her husband in her own bed? <br />
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This is absolutely disgusting. I have no advice to give to such a narcissist. She will never get help. She's not even feeling any remorse about the act. She feels so shameless about it that she can still write that she finds her daughter's husband sexually appealing! For most normal people, that would be the last thought if they felt any kind of remorse. The only thing she's concerned about is getting busted now. No remorse whatsoever that she left her daughter without a mother for all these years, no remorse for destroying her daughter's family. <br />
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I think any person like this is beyond any advice and help. The best thing that can happen is that the daughter cuts her mother off forever. No good can ever come out of this woman having a relationship with her mother. She'll never be able to offer any support or in any way be what a mother should be.

It's odd, though theres no pool, or big house, I've heard this situation before. By being a mother you prolly told your kids to take responsibility for their actions, your grandchildren now have a sibling, and an aunt or uncle, at the same time. What has happened happened, you can't turn back, even if you abort you will still always know, The only thing I can say is take responsibility, not telling your daughter would keep her blissfully unaware, but guilt might bog you and him down, and she'll find out eventually, it's up to you whether she finds out the right way, or the wrong way.

She had a miscarriage.

How could you do that? You may not be a monster, but you sure acted like one. I don't even know what to say. As for your daughter, she needs to know the truth.

sorry to tell you but no matter what your screwed. this isn't the right thing to say because it sounds horrible but it will probably avoid hurting your daughter. <br />
get the abortion asap. move the hell out of that house to avoid your son in law and getting knocked up again, and stay with a friend and dont cave in and tell your daughter about the affair because she would probably NEVER talk to you again and that would probably tear their whole family apart. sorry to sound so evil but its the truth.

Wow. Whether you tell your daughter or not, chances are the truth will eventually come out. If you want to abort the baby, then do so...if not, then don't. I don't think you're a monster. I think you're a human being that has made some bad choices. Anyone who says they've never screwed up is a flat out liar. You're in an extremely difficult spot. I wish you all the best & wish I had more advice to give.

you are NOT a monster. everyone makes mistakes. stop the affair and have the baby if you think you can raise him/her with love, care, devotion and give him/her the life she deserves.<br />
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Maybe you should tell your daughter. She deserves to know that her husband, too, had an affair. BUt regardless of whether you tell or not, the truth will come out eventually, like mrsbigdave said.<br />
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Don't be too harsh on yourself. We all make mistakes. we are just humans. things will turn out fine. just give it time.

you send me a message so i can see what the bleeped out words were on my whiteboard. and if it was ***** or ***** that you called me, all i have to say is that you have a lot of ******* nerve calling someone else that with your scandalous ***. you sleeping with your son in law makes you a bigger ***** or ***** than i could ever aspire to be, not that it's a goal of mine. obviously i haven't scrapped the bottom of the barrel like yourself.

I feel so sorry for your daughter I know my mother never cared for me but at least I can be certain she would never seduce my bf of husband what you have done is a disgrace you clearly have no morals. You should tell your daughter the truth and abortion because you cant keep you knickers on thats sick and very wrong you want sympathy but I cant give you that and the only way you can sort this out is by giving your daughter the truth maybe she wwill forgive you her husband is also guilty but as you put in all the work to get him you should tell your daughter that wishing you were dead hardly changes things you have to face the music of the trouble you yourself caused.

you're going to have to do a whole lot better than calling me a ****** if you want to hurt me, sweetheart. to me, that word is so played out, why don't you see if you can come up with something new and fresh besides ******? i realize learning new things might not be on your list of interests, but give it a try ok? and you can thank your lucky stars that you're able to say words like ****** from the safety of your computer. face to face, you wouldn't have the balls to do so and, if by some chance you did, you would end up regretting it even more so than you regret sleeping with your son in law. trust me.

I maybe really nasty to say this but you losing the baby means there is one less innocent to get hurt maybe its karma you are upset by what people have said but thats nothing compaired with what will be said when people learn of your rercent behaviour. If I were you I'd tell my daughter the truth and disappear.

watch what you say to this one, cat or she might send you a nasty PM also lol. i know you're probably shaking in your boots, aren't you? lol