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Affair With Son In Law, Now Pregnant

I have searched all over the web for this situation and I have yet to find anything that remotely correlates.  I lost my job a few months ago and I moved in my eldest daughter and family.  I will admit right here and now that I have always had a crush on her husband and have secretly lusted after him.  I have been divorced for over 15 years and have had very few male companions in my life since then.

When I moved in I took on a motherly type roll in the household and catered to everyone's needs.  My grandchildren, but especially my son in law.  I lusted after him, I seduced him and I entraped him.  One day he was swimming his laps in the pool and I came out in a 2 piece binkini that I purposely selected.  I entered the pool and interrupted his morning routine.  It was from that moment forward that I made my sexuality known to him and faluted myself to him.  A few weeks later we had intercourse for the first time, unprotected with primal lust and passion.  He filled a void that I had been missing for over 15 years.  I felt 25 years old again and gave no thoughts to my daughter or my two grandchildren.

I was not the best mother to begin with, I was pregnant initially at 16 and again at 19.  I was taught that sex was the key to keeping your man happy, which was wrong.  By age 26 I was divorced, alone and competing with my ex-husband who had again married a young bimbo who was now raising my kids.  I experimented with drugs and was very much strung out for 8 years or so until I found god.

The power I held over my son in law was intoxicating.  I was in love with him, we had sex in the pool, in the early hours of the morning trying not to wake anyone and even in his own bed.  At first I was careful and took my pill, but I lapsed on my prescription and missed my period.  I have not told him about this, I haven't told anyone.  I want to abort this baby but I cannot bring myself to this.  I cannot bring myself to admiting the truth to anyone.  I wish I were dead, I wish I had never had these feelings and pushed this issue.  I am pregnant and alone with my daughter's brother or sister inside of me.  I am a monster

littlejon63 littlejon63 46-50 352 Responses Mar 24, 2009

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Hi:<br />
You made a mistake - move on. Sex is not a big deal and essentially with a man who happened to be your son-in-law. Forget the guilt trip - and don't let your daughter know. Either get an abortion or say it was from some one else.<br />
And keep away from your son-in-law ! and get a husband!<br />
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For Jesus' sake - don't fall into the guilt trap! Life is too short for that ...enjoy every moment of what you have in this life!<br />
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Best of luck!

im only 14 so i cant really help. but ur situation sounds really bad n i cuddnt help but comment. u not a monster. u were lonely. i think the monster here is ur son in law. hes the 1st one u shud tell about ur pegnancy. n fast. if u want an abortion im not arguing with you. but if you really love the baby n want to keep it. thats ok to.i wont juj. if u havent stoped already i think u shud stop your sexual relations with ur son in law. also after u tell him about the baby, tell ur daughter. shes gona b pretty pissed but i doubt shell stop loving u. i wudnt b suprissed tho if she divorces ur son in law. anyway, its ok to feel lonely but u shud try theripy not wat u did. i hope this helpes cuz i wana b a phyciatrist wen i grow up.

ok i jus read wat some of these plp wrote. look, its gona b hard but no matter wat these plp say, TELL YOUR DAUGHTER N SON IN LAW!!

oh yeah- Good Luck! :)

oh yeah- Good Luck! :) are not a monster. I will agree that you were selfish, low self esteem, a poor excuse for a parent, and irresponsible. But...a monster...we'll leave that for the Hitler types. <br />
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I have to say this...Your role as a parent (this is a lifetime role) it is your responsibility to protect your child...even from YOU. You failed in this sense. That's something you have to deal with. However, we can not protect them from the truth. <br />
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First you must ask you want a relationship with your daughter. I think this will be difficult, but you must start by stopping your selfishness and do the right thing moving forward. What's the RIGHT thing? <br />
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Telling the TRUTH! This is not some little white lie that you can sweep under the table. Plus, as a responsible adult you have to face the consequences of your actions rather than run from them. <br />
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Concern: What's not being said here is the role her husband played. He is not a victim. You only did what he allowed him to do. He is definitely not a loving husband to your daughter b/c he was willing to have sex with you. If he is posing as a loving husband you need to let your daughter know. There's no reason to salvage this marriage. Your daughter needs to know the truth about YOU and the truth about this man she calls her husband. That's the real problem.<br />
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Secondly, you need to sit down and talk to him about you being pregnant. He is now the other parent and should have a say in the welfare of the child. <br />
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Although I don't recommend this route: If you don't have grandchildren by this man and your daughter (you didn't mention any)...well maybe you guys can salvage something from this and the child can have a mother and a father. Don't expect him to be happy about the situation. <br />
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Another question is are there other children involved?<br />
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The baby...well. <br />
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If you need help on whether or not to keep the child (abortion vs adoption). If she has children my vote would be NO. That's just a family dynamic that should never have to happen and now you're involving the children. They'll have to explain that at some point. If she doesn't have children have it...keep it or give it up for adoption. That's pretty much up to you. Either way will be hard...but you made this choice.<br />
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You deserve whatever the outcome is. Be an adult. Take responsibility for your actions. <br />
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It's unfortunate that you made these choices for you and your daughter. <br />
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I wish her the best!! This is not going to be easy. Take care.

Don't end the life of another human being to try and solve your own mistakes. I'm amazed at some of the ruthless and cold people here. You'll regret it for the rest of your life. Stand up and admit your own faults instead of dodging responsibility as so many are doing now in days.

telling your daughter has the definite chance of creating a wound that will not heal.... lets just be real here for a moment! what would that truly accomplish? stopping the affair may be a wise thing to do! and move out asap!<br />
but lets not be so judge mental as she said she seduced the husband he did not pursue her. Perhaps he picked up on the fact that she was lonely and had feelings of being unwanted maybe he just wanted to make her feel better about herself and that was the only way he knew how to do so. things happen in our lives for a reason just learn from your experiences and that is what will truly set you free.

did not think there would be minors....... and such negative judge mental people in this forum. in many cultures this situation would be a typical example of the nuclear family. it was just sex people that's all..... i see the tyranny of the puritans still reign in this country!

i agree with yourlove. since when is this the definition of a nuclear family? instead of her son in law providing her with sexual healing and comfort, if he felt she was lonely and unwanted, i think it would have been better for him to encourage her to get out and about, meet some people or introduced her to some if he was able to. there are better ways he could have helped her instead of sleeping with her.

The truth is that this womans daughter and her grandchildren are the vicims of 2 very selfish people this woman admitted she wanted this to happen and therefore deliberatly hurt her family

so true, cat.

it was just sex......... why must there be such a negative perception of situations involving sex? why not celebrate the fact that a new soul shall enter into to this realm of existence to experience the universal physical experience called life?(with the birth of unborn child) let the individuals involved determine whats right and wrong.perhaps the mom just found her own way to extend the family with a man she trusted because he was already married to her daughter(showing she approved of her daughters choice in mate for procreation).we have reached a point in humanity were we need to find more ways to come together and embrace life's curves and turns.....not finding things to condemn and blame and label each other ultimately keeping us separated........

it's not the sex that's wrong, it's who it occured between that isn't right in my opinion and obviously in the opinions of others who have commented on this story. if you read the earlier posts, she lost the baby and, given the circumstances, it might not have been a bad thing. littlejon found her own way to extend the family with a man she trusted because he was already married to her daughter? hmm, i wonder how her daughter would feel about that? i'm willing to bet she wouldn't approve. call me crazy, but i think most women would feel hurt and betrayed if their mothers and their husbands did this to them, not find reason to celebrate.

many ofthe opinions metioned by others are based on a puritanical, western view of the world, and a one sided view of the bible. why is there so much anger in your response jerrica. I thought this forum was a way for people to openly and honestly express ideas and opinions without malice and without being judged.... if your in such a bad mood perhaps it would be healthier for you to meditate and save your comments for a time when your not so angry...and since when celebrating the miracles of life became a bad thing..

yes, this may be a forum to openly and honestly express ideas and opinions, but i think it's a bit naive to think that you're not going to have people express opposing opinions and everyone is going to agree with you. like i said in a earlier post, when we write something here, we take our chances that there are going to be people who might disagree with us and they have that right as much as we have the right to express ourselves through our stories, confessions, etc. any of my comments on this story weren't necessarily made when i was in a bad mood. the anger i feel comes from the fact that i think the whole situation is wrong, just as you feel others opinions are based on people being puritanical. in a nutshell, we're all entitled to our opinions and i'm not going to try and convince you that yours is wrong and i would hope that you'd afford me the same courtesy.

there's nothing wrong with expessing a difference of opinion..... theres just a more psitive way of doing so....

so says you. you do it your way and i'll do it my way. some situations are so disgusting, like this one, that i don't think i'd be able to express my opinion in a more postitve way.

so dont express it at all who needs negativity... maybe your just disappointed shes getting some and your not

you're probably not getting any either, gimpy lol. anyone that would **** their daughter's hubby is lower than a snake and so are you for condoning this situation.

I wouldn't tell anyone and get that abortion. Think of your grandchildren here. <br />
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And BTW, your not a Monster! **** happens to good people. <br />
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Just don't wreck up your daughters family - get the hell of there immediately.

number 1, i can express myself anytime i get good and ready, just like you are doing. number 2, and most importantly, if i wanted to get some, i wuld have the balls and self respect to get it from someone other than my daughter's husband. instead of fishing in my daughter's pool, i'd go find another pond to get my fish. you seem to think she's done something noble and great here. i think she's pathetic myself. the man shortage isn't so great that a woman can't find another man to ball besides her son in law. but seeing as you're down with that sort of thing, i don't expect you to agree with it.

Wanna move in with me and my wife?

its wrong because it will cause emotional pain to innocent victims if it was not hurting anyone it would not be a problem

I really am torn with what I think you shoud do here. I would want to know if my husband was a lie and a cheat, but if you or him tell her yall had sex then it could **** her up for life. It could effect every relationship she would ever have with another man (speaking in terms if she left her husband). It will make her not trust anyone. You are supposed to be able to trust your mom and dad to be the main people who will never screw you over!!! Man this is so messed up.

This is so wrong on so many levels. How the hell can you<br />
stand there and justify your actions? You have been planning this since day one!<br />
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how could you make such a irresponsilbe decision?By the way don't blame your past for your mistakes.<br />
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I was sexually abused and abandon. Do you see me <br />
molesting children or abandoning my kids, Hell no!<br />
so stop using your past as a victim or a crutch.<br />
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People like you can really screw with a person. I feel<br />
really sorry for your daughter and your unborn child.<br />
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my advice would be get your fricking tubes tied. stop screwing around with people lives!

Jerrica- you go! The guy dissing you showed his true colors and how low he was when he said you weren't getting any and that is why you were so negative. You have taken the high road in life I can tell- and it is so sad we have to call it a 'high road' because the truth is it is simply what is common sense and level headed. We need more people like you in this world.

thank you, duana. i would think most people wouldn't agree with this situation, be they sexually active or not. that particular comment shows a seroius lack of intelligence to me. i guess he figures if people are having sex, they're going to ok any situation. i wouldn't have ok'd something like this when i was having sex every day.

i have sex all the time and i don't agree with a situation like this, so what the gimp says makes no sense to me. only belly crawling snakes would think this is ok.

take a look at the past comments shes not taking any high road, she was expressing herself from a place in her soul the lacks positive energy, and being sexually inactive would most definitely give you a jaded view of anyone elses sexuality because your fustrated with your own lack of sexual activity all of you bitter old prunes go and get professional help instead of coming on ep to condem other people

more wisdom from the gimp and i doubt that a person would be frustrated by anything that they gave up voluntarily. you really ought to know someone's backstory before shooting off your big mouth.

this may come as a surprise to you, caramelkush, but if you look at the last line of my previous comment, i said i wouldn't have been supportive of something like this regardless of sexual activity. if that's so hard for you to believe, then that's your problem not mine. if not agreeing with this kind of situation makes me a bitter old prune, then i'm damned happy to be one. speaking of help, it sounds like YOU may get some benefit from some.

tbc537 your words ring loudly with truth and perception!

you wouldn't recognize truth and perception if it bit you in the *** lol