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I Had An Online "Affair"

WARNING: Using Spyware to Hack a Spouse Or Partners E-mail Could Get You Jail Time Or You Could Be Sued!

By: TeslasTemptress
Written on September 9th, 2009
Age: 46-50 , Female
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  • cebexp

    Saw your post and it took me down a road I hadn't thought of for years.

    I've been divorced for about 15 years. I had already caught my wife in an affair, not using electronic snooping. She blamed it on her alcoholism and went into rehab. With three children under 10 I gave her a chance. Suspicious as to her behavior post-discharge, I installed a keystroke logger and could read what she typed. I even found her secret email account and password which I accessed directly so I could read both sides of the emails (keystroke logger didn't capture what came in to her email). I learned she had started another affair, this time with her addictions counselor. So I filed for divorce.What I did back then would no doubt be illegal today, but it wasn't then. Back then it wasn't on the radar screen. Never revealed the source of my information except to my lawyer. I was even reading emails between my ex and her lawyer, although I never told my lawyer that so as not to put him in a difficult ethical position, but I did use it in the course of my divorce as it laid out their entire strategy and demands (custody, finances, etc.).

    I got his counseling license yanked and him placed on a federal list of sanctioned health professionals. He never practiced again and never will. I tracked down his wife, we pooled information and she got a divorce on her terms. My soon to be ex convinced him to leave his wife, that they were "soulmates." When his money ran out she divorced him as well and is now on husband #3.

    I got the house, custody of the children, and child support.

    A great part was that her big-name law firm divorce lawyer screwed up big time. As part of the divorce I had to agree to not divulge any information harmful to either of them (namely that as a mental health professional licensed by the state he was sleeping with a patient, a big no-no). I had long ago gotten him fired from his job at a major hospital. But her lawyer never asked if we had already made any reports to the authorities. When the state came to follow up on my complaint just as the divorce is being finalized, I told them that under the terms of my divorce I couldn't talk to them without a subpoena, which they were happy to provide. The subpoena gave me the legal cover I needed to answer all questions.

    Jan 15
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  • GlamourousVixen1

    Where wpiuld I go ti check to see if the is a GPS tracking system (A VERY MOST DEFINITE INVASION OF MY PRIVACY IN MY CASE SINCE IT INVOLES COMMUNICATION WITH MY OWN FAMILY MEMBERS- IMMEDIATE FAMILY MEMBERS AT THAT ( yes- how VERY TRULY PATHETIC of him!) I REALLY NEED some FEEDBACK AND the sooner the better please and thank you! And this is NOT an easy relationship where i can simpkly walk away- the man has finanicialoly USED me and there are thousands of dollars thru ( PERSONAL?SINGLE MY NAME ONLY) credit union loans, COUNTLESS credit card purchaases and thousands of dollars he has "borrowed" throuh out th past 5 12 yrs that habe been yet to be paid back. If anyone knows of ANY possible way I could get some legal resolution to fix these- Then it would be SOOOO MUCH ERASIER to just WALK AWAY from the scavenger/loser with my kids- They have suffered a GREAT deal because of his broken promisies! I DID FINALLY STOP letting him put things on my credit card amd since my income is so limiterd now and the bills are gtowing higher- I simply have No room fianacially for his wants, A TOTAL LACK od DESIRE to give ANYTHING ANYMORE to hi, ( other than an itemiaed bill of what he OWES )and I just want yo be DONE!!!!! He is crazy- I am MISERABLE. I feel like i am COMSTANTLY being tracked, it is just WAY too ironic for hi, to know where i am or where exactly i went- and NOBE of it incolves cheating ( although HE sure had a obsession of that a few yeards ago- ugly short man syndrome- lol- Seriously though :)

    Oct 15, 2012
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  • devilwife

    well yeah, besides having to hire a lawyer, u probably will also need a good expert in computer forensics investigator... and neither will come cheap...

    Aug 8, 2012
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    • TeslasTemptress

      That's a fact that we all need to be prepared for. We marry with the best of intentions but when we divorce all bets are off. It becomes open season and who ever has the most $$$$$ and the best lawyer wins. Simple as that.

      Aug 8, 2012
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    • devilwife

      yes that's true, a funny thing is that wife's also can sue their husband mistress for alienation of affection. :-) this is a circus ...

      Aug 8, 2012
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  • toistory

    Good to know.. What if you arent married and you foolishly provided the software for your Singnifigant Other to help them protect themselves from their soon to be Ex-spouse? I knowingly down loaded abgrip of these programs never to be used hy me and I provided the data on a usb to my S.O. knowing more then likely she would use this on me as well, she is kinda just snoopy or scoobie like that. I didnt mind however because all tha would have occured was she would be able to rest her mind that I am who I am and she will see the Angel she inspires me to emulate. Now .. Em I and Angel? Far from from it? Would I cheat ever or worse? NEVER. I assumed she would do her thing to protect herself realising I am a Goodfella who really truly deply honestly loves her.. Well as it be I was wrong, instead ut just got uglier with the more trust or daredevilish look at me and see.. I am all yours. I think the phrase bared a bit too much weight and now an abuse of power has occured. I still to date never uaed the programs and relinquished them too my SO. However I have this tini itty bitty suspicion they may be holding their magnifying glass on me burning my feelers off. Geez and all this time I blamed God.. Sorry G. So this whole law suit stuff sounds very interesteing but way too unhealthy for me to weather while I have so much better **** to hit with my time. Like healing..

    Dec 15, 2011
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  • groovedone

    The question that remains is, since you have been injuried, what action, legal, is possible to do in this case?

    Nov 23, 2010
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  • TeslasTemptress

    The Federal Privacy Act supersedes ALL state laws. Check into it.

    Oct 12, 2009
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  • Ihatethemtoo

    This all actually varies from state to state, so you need to know the laws for YOUR state.

    Oct 11, 2009
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  • BayouBluePhantom

    Even I did not know most of this. Glad you are on my side. =>

    Sep 10, 2009
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