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WARNING: Using Spyware to Hack a Spouse Or Partners E-mail Could Get You Jail Time Or You Could Be Sued!




Before Using Spyware or Key Logging Programs to catch a spouse or partner that you suspect is having an affair: Make Sure You Know What Your Liability Is. You could wind up in jail or worse.

  “  Laws vary from state to state. In New York State, for example, hacking or illegally tapping into someone's computer account without their permission is a class E felony, punishable by up to 3 years in jail “.

Recently I have been doing research on the legal liabilities of spying on a spouse or life partner. I was very surprised at the legal ramifications for those involved in such activity. Many people believe that by “catching their spouse”, by any means possible gives them leverage in a divorce. Be careful what you do in an emotional state because it could cost you plenty. For instance: If YOU were to hack an e-mail of a spouse and take info or photographs of the lover that were sent in private and then use them in a malicious manner against the spouse or make them public, the LOVER CAN SUE YOU & BRING CHARGES AGAINST YOU!

BEFORE ANYONE attempts any of the following they need to consult an attorney because they could be held fully liable for their actions, even if they were advised to do so by a private investigator, or attorneyIf you hire someone to spy on your spouse or partner and they do something illegal, YOU can be charged too!

   The following is a cross section of info obtained from blogs & websites: All sources are cited and websites marked.


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July 7, 2009

Law firm sued for using e-mails obtained in divorce by spyware

Tennessee law firm sued for using e-mails obtained using spyware

A lawsuit was filed against a Tennessee law firm for $2,000,000 dollars for its alleged use of e-mails in a divorce action. According to the article, the lawsuit claims the ex-wife loaded spyware on her then husband's computer and intercepted e-mails. The e-mails eventually were given to the law firm representing the ex-wife in the divorce and once her husband found out, he sued the law firm for violations of federal and state law.

Let me make a point--just because the software is available for sale does not mean its use is legal. Many times software is sold for one purpose--parents keeping track of their children's activities on a computer--and then is used for another, possibly, illegal activity--spying on someone. When spouses are going through a divorce and one spouse uses that software to intercept e-mails sent by the other spouse to third parties, it usually means you may be violating federal law. Federal and state laws govern the interception of electronic communications and you can find yourself in hot water if you use the software in an illegal manner.

See my previous posts, here and here, on the issue and make sure you consult an attorney before you act. Not only can you face both civil and criminal penalties for illegally intercepting electronic communications, but others who use the data gathered can also face penalties.

At the Kisselburgh Law Firm, we have experience representing clients going through a divorce. Call us at 601-936-4040 or contact us online to set up a consultation if you are contemplating adivorce.

Spying on Your Spouse
(provided by Theodore Sliwinski, Esq.)

1. I believe that my spouse is cheating on me. Can I legally spy on her?

Many people these days use all kinds of spying methods on their cheating spouses. But most of them are not aware that using spying equipment or surveillance services could be illegal. They could find themselves in a thorny legal mess unless they know the facts and the strict federal and New Jersey laws.

So you decide to buy some surveillance equipment to spy on your cheating spouse. Hidden cameras, listening devices or GPS systems will allow you to monitor the activities of your spouse. Specific software installed in your spouse's computer could monitor your spouse's online presence and activities. Hiring a detective to spy on your cheating spouse is another popular method. It is not illegal to purchase these products or services. However, most people don't realize that there are strict state and federal laws regarding the use of surveillance equipment such as listening devices which allow you to eavesdrop on another person, hidden cameras which let you view the activities of others without their knowledge, GPS tracking devices which allow you to monitor the location of someone's vehicle, and other gadgets or software installed on someone else's computer to monitor their internet activities.

In summary, there are very strict laws apply to electronic communications such as e-mails or computer communications (chat rooms, instant messages), and telephone calls. Spouses who attempt to spy on a cheating spouse using surveillance equipment should be aware that they could find themselves on the wrong side of the law.

If you plan to purchase surveillance equipment from a store or online, then you will notice that most stores have disclaimers that mention that these products must not be used for illegal activities. Most surveillance product manufacturers clearly state that their products should not be used in an illegal manner. These disclaimers also point out that the purchaser is the only one responsible for the use of the products. So be very careful!

2. What are also some other illegal spying activities?

Pre-texting is also illegal: the practice of calling a cell phone company and pretending to be someone else in order to get access to their phone records.

Also, if you hire a private investigator to spy on your mate and if he uses illegal methods to do so, you could be liable, too.

If you call a company and pretend to be someone else in order to get access to phone records. If you hire a detective and he uses illegal methods to spy on your cheating spouse. It's your liability! Logging into websites with your spouse's username and password without his or her knowledge. (e.g. online banking account)

So is there a way to spy your cheating spouse without having trouble with the law? Of course there is! There is really no need to use any kind of surveillance equipment or hire a private investigator. Use your own eyes and ears. Use your mind and knowledge of your spouse. I mean, it's your spouse! You should be able to tell if he or she behaves strangely or changes his or her habits for no reason.

3. Can a person record or tape a conversation of his or her spouse?

Pursuant to the federal and state wiretapping statutes, a person is legally permitted to record and tape a conversation only if the person who is doing the recording or taping is a party to the conversation. A person can't tape a spouse while he or she is talking to other people, and more specifically a paramour.

In 1991, a New Jersey trial court in the case of M.G. v. J.C., 254 N.J. Super. 470 (Ch. Div. 1991), addressed the issue as to whether a husband violated the wiretapping statute by taping his wife's telephone communications in the marital home, and whether such actions could result in damages. The court ruled that it was illegal for a person to record the phone conversations of his spouse with another person. The court reasoned that the invasion of privacy was severe. The court found that the secretive taping of a spouse's telephone calls under those circumstances was an egregious invasion that warranted both compensation and punitive damages.

Therefore, although both New Jersey and Federal wiretapping laws permit the taping of a conversation to which an individual is a party, any other form of taping or recording of another person's conversation can be a violation of criminal and civil wiretap laws.

4. I believe that my husband is cheating on me. Can I wiretap his phone?

Divorce is a nasty business. In my experience, I have encountered many cases wherein spouses wiretap the home phone, the spouse's office phone, or the cellular phone in order to obtain information about their spouse's affair or other information. In New Jersey, the use of an unauthorized taped conversation is inadmissible because the illegal taping violates state and federal law. The spouse could be civilly or criminally liable as a result of attempting to introduce such information.

Many divorce lawyers have had the experience of having a client walk into the office stating that he or she has absolute proof of a spouse's adultery and cheating ways. In most cases, these conversations are not admissible. Thereafter, the clients "fess up" as to the illegal manner in which they obtained the proof. The clients usually admit that the taped phone conversations were obtained through the unauthorized recording of their spouse's telephone conversation with a new lover. I always immediately advise the client that he or she has violated both New Jersey and federal wiretapping laws, which may expose them to criminal penalties, as well as severe civil penalties. If a client has obtained illegally intercepted communications, then he or she should destroy them, and not attempt to use them to obtain an advantage in any upcoming divorce case.

In summary, the intercepted phone conversations may give a spouse enough proof and motivation to start divorce proceedings. However, the means used to obtain these taped phone conversations can prove to be disastrous. The spouse who conducted the illegal wiretapping can be exposed to a civil lawsuit by his or her former spouse. Moreover, there is potential criminal liability as well.

5. Can I intercept my spouse's cell phone calls?

The State of New Jersey has adopted a more restrictive wiretap statute than the federal wiretapping law. New Jersey's wiretap statute defines a wire communication to include "any electronic storage of such communication, and the radio portion of a cordless telephone communication that is transmitted between the cordless telephone handset and the base unit." This is the opposite of the federal statute, which exempts cordless phones. Thus, under New Jersey law, the interception of cell phone communications is prohibited.

6. Can I intercept my spouse's pager communications?

Someone who suspects adultery often seizes the spouse's pager and scans the memory for telephone numbers. Scanning a spouse's pager may provide proof of adultery. An interesting issue that then arises is whether the retrieval of stored telephone numbers on a pager constitutes a violation of the wiretap act. On a federal level, the answer would appear to be no. The New Jersey Wiretap Act is more stringent and defines "wire communication" as including "electronic storage of such communication."

7. Can I intercept my spouse's e-mails?

In my experience, many spouses are caught in adulterous situations by having their e-mails reviewed. If you search the internet then a surfer can find literally hundreds of spyware programs and "gizmos" offered for sale that enable a person to retrieve deleted e-mails. We are now living in an information era. In the past, the most common way a spouse was busted for adultery was by being trailed by an investigator. In the modern world the retrieval of a spouse's stored e-mails is the most frequent way to discover an adulterous affair.

There is no easy answer to the question of whether a spouse can retrieve e-mail messages and records of chat room activity without violating wiretap statutes. If the computer is located in the marital home, then in most cases the interception of e-mails will not constitute a violation of New Jersey and federal wiretapping laws. However, if someone tries to intercept e-mails on a spouse's computer at his workplace, then a violation of several New Jersey and federal laws results.

An illustrative case is White v. White, 344 N.J. Super. 211 (Ch. Div. 2001). The White case is the first reported New Jersey decision that addresses the admissibility of a husband's "private" e-mail communications between himself and his girlfriend accessed by the wife's computer expert. The court denied the husband's motion to suppress the e-mails on the grounds that the wife's action violated the New Jersey Wiretap Act. Finding that the e-mails had been stored, i.e., saved, "post-transmission" in the husband's personal electronic file cabinet, the court held that the New Jersey Wiretap Act only applies to communications that are in transmission, and not to those that have been previously sent and saved.

The White court further held that the wife's accessing the "private" e-mail communications of the husband did not constitute an invasion of privacy since the husband had no objective reasonable expectation thereof. The evidence showed that the e-mails were accessed from a computer maintained in a sunroom that the husband had been occupying during the parties' in-house separation; that the wife and the parties' three children were in and out of the room for various reasons, including the use of the computer; and that, while easy to do, the husband failed to employ any privacy protection mechanisms to prevent unwarranted intrusions into his personal files. The court also found that the wife's arguable snooping into her husband's personal affairs to learn information about his possible affair was not uncommon under such circumstances.

8. What are the other potential legal ramifications of accessing my spouse's stored computer files?

In many cases a spouse who suspects adultery will hack into the cheating spouse's computer files and e-mails. As discussed above, if the computer is not located in the marital residence, then this intrusion will constitute a violation of both New Jersey and Federal wiretapping laws. In addition, there may be some tort liability. Hacking into your spouse's computer may constitute the common law tort of the invasion of privacy or invasion of seclusion. Hacking into your spouse's computer could also be considered as theft. However, in my experience, it is very unlikely that a prosecutor would file any type of criminal charge(s) if a spouse hacked into a home computer. The prosecutor may be more interested in pursuing theft charges if the computer hacking occurs on the cheating spouse's computer that is located at his place of employment, or from a computer system of a corporation or financial institution.

9. What is the status of the law with regard to the interception of a spouse's e-mails and computer records?

With the current prevalence of internet sex and resulting divorce litigation, wiretapping violations are at the forefront in many divorce cases. A spouse who tries to prove adultery by retrieving messages from hard drives, internet services, recycle bins, or other areas of storage could clearly be in violation of both New Jersey and federal wiretapping laws. The information that was obtained to verify the adulterous relations may be invaluable on a personal level. However, any evidence that is obtained by illegal wiretapping or by illegal hacking into a spouse's computer should not be used as leverage in a divorce case. An experienced divorce lawyer can actually use the act of illegal wiretapping as grounds to file a civil suit against the violating spouse. The civil suit is filed as part of the divorce case and is called a Tevis claim. The cheating spouse can actually use the wiretapping violation as a bargaining chip to obtain a more favorable divorce settlement.

10. Can I use video surveillance to spy on my spouse in our marital home?

If the video surveillance occurs in the marital home then in most cases it will be permissible, and it will not constitute an invasion of privacy. However, if the video surveillance occurs outside of the marital home, then a strong argument can be made that this action constitutes a marital tort of the invasion of privacy. The spouse who was filmed could assert that he or she had a reasonable expectation of privacy that he or she would not to be hounded by video surveillance. The key issue is where the video surveillance occurs. A suspecting spouse certainly should not use video surveillance outside of the marital home, or in her mate's workplace.

Illustrative is the case of Colon v. Colon, the Appellate Division recently addressed a divorce action which included husband's allegations that wife had violated the New Jersey wiretap act by tape recording home telephone conversations and that she had violated his privacy by placing hidden video cameras in the home office at their New Jersey marital residence and in the bedroom of their New York apartment. The trial court awarded the husband statutory damages of $1,000 for the phone wiretap and, for the invasion of privacy claim, $1 in nominal damages. (as there had been no proof of actual damages) and $125,000 in punitive damages.

The Appellate Division reversed the trial court, and it concluded that the huge monetary award was erroneous. As to the New Jersey home office, there was no finding that husband had a reasonable expectation of privacy in the home office, as the whole family freely used the room. As to the New York apartment, New York law provided no common law or statutory right of privacy. Moreover, even if there were a right of action, the court held that before punitive damages can be awarded, there must be a finding of compensatory damages, for which there was no proof here.

11. Can the use of video surveillance on a spouse constitute a violation of the Federal Wiretapping Act?

Family members and spouses are also likely to use video surveillance with greater frequency. Video surveillance is not within the purview of the Federal Wiretapping Act. The courts have generally exempted video surveillance from the Federal Wiretapping Act.

12. Is the planting a global positioning device on your spouse's car legal?

The use of GPS systems is increasingly being used to monitor cheating spouses. In the high-profile divorce case Nets star Jason Kidd, whose wife, Joumana, reportedly planted electronic monitors on his vehicles. Moreover, the falling price and shrinking size of GPS systems have spouses from all walks of life keeping track of their "better" halves. Spouses can now use a GPS device to follow a vehicle and presumably the cheater behind the wheel, by using a GPS system. The GPS system's software works seamlessly with online map services such as Google Maps. Thereafter, the suspecting spouse can sit back and wait for that "gotcha" moment.

The legality of secretly planting a GPS system requires a very fact sensitive analysis. Like checking a spouse's e-mail, the legality of secretly planting a GPS tracker depends on who owns the vehicle. In a purely technical sense, if you own the vehicle or have joint ownership of it, then it is perfectly legal to use a GPS system to monitor it. Spouses can legally access their spouse's e-mail in scenarios where there is a jointly owned computer or a computer that is used by the entire family. The key issue in the planting of a GPS system is whether the spouse who was tracked had a reasonable expectation of privacy. The question apparently has not yet to be raised in a divorce case in New Jersey. The law is normally five years behind technological developments. It normally three to five years after technology hits the public that it's use is raised in a divorce case. In short, it probably will take three to five years before the legality of using a GPS to monitor a cheating spouse is raised in a divorce case. The development of caselaw is a slow process, and it often does not keep up with the fast pace of technology development.

Information provided by:
Theodore Sliwinski, Esq. located at



Spying on Your Cheating Spouse Could Land You in Jail

By Ruth Houston


Laws Differ in Each State


Laws vary from state to state. In New York State, for example, hacking or illegally tapping into someone's computer account without their permission is a class E felony, punishable by up to 3 years in jail. In some states, if you hire, or attempt to hire a private investigator who uses illegal methods to spy on your cheating mate, you could be liable, too.


Other Illegal Ways People Spy on Their Mates


Pretexting is another illegal practice commonly used by infidelity victims to prove infidelity or to catch a cheating mate. Pretexting is pretending to be someone else in order to get personal or private information about another person. This includes calling a phone company under false pretenses to gain access to the cheater’s cell phone or telephone record; or calling hotels, banks, credit card companies or other establishments to obtain information about the cheater or his or her activities.



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I am presently suing a woman who put spector pro spyware on her husbands computer in their home. She promptly moved him and the computer out of their home. She downloaded many personal emails between him and me and sent them to his boss and my ex husband( we had been divorced for 2 years). she continued to read his emails for months after he was out of the house as she could access them remotely. Because of falsifying her IRS returns she settled the divorce 2 years ago, but has been fighting our lawsuit claiming she only used the spyware to access passwords and usernames and therefore did not intercept the emails. How can this be an argument? We know she intercepted and deleted emails that we know were sent and not received but can't prove this. Is there anything that suggests that the spyware was used illegally if she was accessing the emails long after the 'home' computer was out of the home?

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I've been divorced for about 15 years. I had already caught my wife in an affair, not using electronic snooping. She blamed it on her alcoholism and went into rehab. With three children under 10 I gave her a chance. Suspicious as to her behavior post-discharge, I installed a keystroke logger and could read what she typed. I even found her secret email account and password which I accessed directly so I could read both sides of the emails (keystroke logger didn't capture what came in to her email). I learned she had started another affair, this time with her addictions counselor. So I filed for divorce.What I did back then would no doubt be illegal today, but it wasn't then. Back then it wasn't on the radar screen. Never revealed the source of my information except to my lawyer. I was even reading emails between my ex and her lawyer, although I never told my lawyer that so as not to put him in a difficult ethical position, but I did use it in the course of my divorce as it laid out their entire strategy and demands (custody, finances, etc.).

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I got the house, custody of the children, and child support.

A great part was that her big-name law firm divorce lawyer screwed up big time. As part of the divorce I had to agree to not divulge any information harmful to either of them (namely that as a mental health professional licensed by the state he was sleeping with a patient, a big no-no). I had long ago gotten him fired from his job at a major hospital. But her lawyer never asked if we had already made any reports to the authorities. When the state came to follow up on my complaint just as the divorce is being finalized, I told them that under the terms of my divorce I couldn't talk to them without a subpoena, which they were happy to provide. The subpoena gave me the legal cover I needed to answer all questions.

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Where wpiuld I go ti check to see if the is a GPS tracking system (A VERY MOST DEFINITE INVASION OF MY PRIVACY IN MY CASE SINCE IT INVOLES COMMUNICATION WITH MY OWN FAMILY MEMBERS- IMMEDIATE FAMILY MEMBERS AT THAT ( yes- how VERY TRULY PATHETIC of him!) I REALLY NEED some FEEDBACK AND the sooner the better please and thank you! And this is NOT an easy relationship where i can simpkly walk away- the man has finanicialoly USED me and there are thousands of dollars thru ( PERSONAL?SINGLE MY NAME ONLY) credit union loans, COUNTLESS credit card purchaases and thousands of dollars he has "borrowed" throuh out th past 5 12 yrs that habe been yet to be paid back. If anyone knows of ANY possible way I could get some legal resolution to fix these- Then it would be SOOOO MUCH ERASIER to just WALK AWAY from the scavenger/loser with my kids- They have suffered a GREAT deal because of his broken promisies! I DID FINALLY STOP letting him put things on my credit card amd since my income is so limiterd now and the bills are gtowing higher- I simply have No room fianacially for his wants, A TOTAL LACK od DESIRE to give ANYTHING ANYMORE to hi, ( other than an itemiaed bill of what he OWES )and I just want yo be DONE!!!!! He is crazy- I am MISERABLE. I feel like i am COMSTANTLY being tracked, it is just WAY too ironic for hi, to know where i am or where exactly i went- and NOBE of it incolves cheating ( although HE sure had a obsession of that a few yeards ago- ugly short man syndrome- lol- Seriously though :)

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That's a fact that we all need to be prepared for. We marry with the best of intentions but when we divorce all bets are off. It becomes open season and who ever has the most $$$$$ and the best lawyer wins. Simple as that.

yes that's true, a funny thing is that wife's also can sue their husband mistress for alienation of affection. :-) this is a circus ...

Alienation of affection laws vary state by state. My understanading is that most states have repealed them

Good to know.. What if you arent married and you foolishly provided the software for your Singnifigant Other to help them protect themselves from their soon to be Ex-spouse? I knowingly down loaded abgrip of these programs never to be used hy me and I provided the data on a usb to my S.O. knowing more then likely she would use this on me as well, she is kinda just snoopy or scoobie like that. I didnt mind however because all tha would have occured was she would be able to rest her mind that I am who I am and she will see the Angel she inspires me to emulate. Now .. Em I and Angel? Far from from it? Would I cheat ever or worse? NEVER. I assumed she would do her thing to protect herself realising I am a Goodfella who really truly deply honestly loves her.. Well as it be I was wrong, instead ut just got uglier with the more trust or daredevilish look at me and see.. I am all yours. I think the phrase bared a bit too much weight and now an abuse of power has occured. I still to date never uaed the programs and relinquished them too my SO. However I have this tini itty bitty suspicion they may be holding their magnifying glass on me burning my feelers off. Geez and all this time I blamed God.. Sorry G. So this whole law suit stuff sounds very interesteing but way too unhealthy for me to weather while I have so much better **** to hit with my time. Like healing..

The question that remains is, since you have been injuried, what action, legal, is possible to do in this case?

The Federal Privacy Act supersedes ALL state laws. Check into it.

This all actually varies from state to state, so you need to know the laws for YOUR state.

Even I did not know most of this. Glad you are on my side. =>