My Detailed Experience Of Labiaplasty!Hey guys,
I'm 19, from Sydney, and I had labiaplasty in september! I just wanted to share my story about having this surgery, because I know how many of these stories I have been reading through this whole experience, and it can just be nice to know that people are going through the same mental and physical things you are going through as well.
I had this surgery done for many reasons, the main being discomfort, but obviously I did hate the way it looked as well. I have wanted this done for years and years, and although people have different views on girls undertaking this surgery, I personally believe that if you are choosing to have this surgery because you suffer from some discomfort in every day life, or during sex, may not like the way it looks as well, but have an understanding that there isn't exactly a 'normal' or 'standard' look for down there, then you are most likely doing this for good reasons that could seriously change your life. I really don't like people that do not have enlarged/protuding labia and still judge others decisions to have this surgery, they have no idea what it is like to live with this. I only have told my mum and my best friend of a million years who I trust with my life that I am having the surgery, so hopefully I can recover in time before my friends start becoming suspicious about why I am not hanging out with them all the time. I am also a virgin haha, mainly because I was once dating a guy that went to go 'down there' but basically stopped and claimed he didn't realize the time and had to go home... I don't exactly know if it was because of the way it looked, but I was so humiliated to the point that I have never let a guy get close with me like that since... and trust me when all your 20 year old friends are with their boyfriends or off having sex with guys they date etc always bugging you about why you never like guys, its a really sucky thing be around! I haven't found ONE labiaplasty story about someones experience having labiaplasty and then later having sex for the first time, I'm really worried about the pain (even more pain) that I will go through! So hopefully when the times comes I will let all of you in the same situation as me know how it goes! In a nutshell, basically I just wanted to not live with this discomfort anymore, feel the need to 'tuck' it away every freaking minute, wear clothes without worrying about how much it was protruding out, actually open up to guys without worrying about them seeing down there... and basically just to feel confident in my own skin, which I think every single girl deserves.
I had Labiaplasty done in Sept 2012 by my wonderful surgeon (I found that in having a really experienced surgeon that you felt comfortable with, all my worries about the outcome etc basically went away) and although it was the most scariest thing to go through mentally, its done, and I have no regrets so far. Here is my progress so far... please feel free to ask any questions or place comments I do not mind at all! As I probably won't write about every single detail.
I had the surgery at 7 30 in the morning, and as it only goes for an hour, I counted this day as Day 1. It was a day surgery so I went home afterwards, it was done under general and local anesthesia at the hospital. It took awhile for me to become fully awake, that was probably the most annoying art of my day! I kept falling back asleep while nurses were talking to me. No pain when I woke up, just uncomfortable as expected, and going to the bathroom was fine. So I went home and slept all day, watched tv etc. Had salt bath, not too bad going to toilet still, it started to get a little more sore at around 8.... It swelled a bit more on right side, but stilll not too painful at all. Started icing area that night. I really had no pain and it freaked me about a bit because I was expecting excruciating pain! I slept fine at night, obviously just not as comfortable. Questions I had this day were: Is icing the area good for it? Swelling more on one side, should I be worried?
It was definitely sorer than yesterday when I woke up, whole area felt rock hard/numb from swelling. Took 2 panadine's I was prescribed to ease the pain (It really was not even bad though). Hurt a little bit more to go to the toilet. Looked horrible though... Right side is really swollen, a purple/blue colour very puffy and bubbly. Where is the left side???? I swear it wasn't even visible. Had a shower today, and my 2 salt baths which my doctor said I need to keep doing. Kept icing area to stop the swelling. Possibly was a tiny bit of clear discharge, hopefully not yeast infection?
Pretty much no real pain still, its just uncomfortable. Wearing really tight underwear with special pad and just a normal pad, as my doctor said compression and tightness is a must! Still having my 2 salt baths. Starting to go a little insane from being bored, and constantly checking it and worrying. The swelling on the right side is still really bad. To keep the area uninfected, clean and healthy I have a spray bottle with antiseptic dettol and water which I spray on the area and they blow dry it dry, as well as having the 2 salt (or sitz) baths a day, using special ointment/cream 3 times a day, taking anti-inflammatory tablets and anti-biodics that were prescribed to me! Yep.
Still not really any pain, and I haven't walked more than 50 metres since the operation haha. I guess I'm being overly cautious? Did some walking around my backyard but that's about it. The swelling doesn't look as bad as Day 2, but still pretty bad I think. I have been told not to stress about the swelling though! I have read a lot of posts of people described the same swelling and then weeks later saying it goes away, so trying not to stress! On Day 5 I had a new worry though, I felt as if along the stitch line on the right side the stitches just stopped... and then re continued a bit further down, and along the line where it looked like the stitches were missing, the 2 parts that were meant to be fused together by the stitches had a little gap and it was bleeding. I basically freaked out over this, and wondered if the stitch had snapped or something, and that these parts that were meant to be fused would never heal properly and fuse together. I called my doctor and sent him pictures, he understood what part I was talking about but he said that he that I shouldn't worry and I look like I am healing fine so far. I'm still worried but seeing him on friday (Day 8) so will feel much better when he has a closer look!
After not leaving my house since Day 1... I finally went for a 20 min (slow) walk with my dog just literally down the road and back. I was fine to walk! So now I feel like I can stop being so over cautious and will be okay at work tomorrow night (I work in retail). Still worried about this little bleeding gap in the stitches line... hmm. Swelling is way worse on the right side, the left side still looks basically non existent except for a line of stitches. No actual pain though, only I do have these swelled 'bubbles' of skin around my hood area... argh so gross, they better go away! Did anyone else have this?? And when that part rubs or pushes against my underwear it can hurt sometimes. Other than that not much to report, really just want this swelling to hurry up and go away, and really want it to hurry up and be Friday so I can see my doctor and know how everything is going!
So today started off as usual... having my meds, eating breakfast (usually involving vegemite and yogurt to possibly reduce chances of yeast infection... yep), having a 10 min salt bath, using my ointment, going crazy with the dettol spray bottle. Basically I am just over cautious haha. I think the swelling is slowly going down, because the really dark gross purple colour has gone and its becoming more of a natural pinky colour which is good! Right side is still way more swelled than the left. I still have that little gap which faintly bleeds now and then along the stitch line. I still have this gross 'bubbly' skin around the hood... please go away! So today I finally went back to work (I work in retail, clothes shop). I caught the bus to work and it was fine, luckily the bus seat was nice and cushiony. Work knew that I had had 'surgery'... I didn't exactly say what, I just briefly said I had something removed like a cyst, internally and I didn't want to talk about it haha, thankfully they asked no questions. I was actually surprised how much walking around I did at work and how completely fine I was! I had no pain at all, and though I only really chat to customers, tag stock etc I felt completely normal. Then something pretty embarrassing happened... I went to the bathroom and my whole padding system I had going on fell straight into the toilet! So I had to go the whole rest of my shift with nothing but my 2 pairs of underwear on because I had no other choice, which felt really abnormal as I had gone all week with this padding thing and then a normal pad on top. Anyway you probably really didn't want to know all that (sorry). I guess I just went home and had a salt bath and went all extra clean freak on myself. Tomorrow I am going to see my doctor for a check up on how things are going! I really can't wait as I have questions and just want to make sure all is well down there. I will post tomorrow about how it went and the questions I asked etc.
Okay... WOW. So last night (I guess this morning) I woke up at 2 am with INSANE ITCHING. I knew it was going to get itchy at some stage due to healing, or stitches coming out but I was not prepared for this kind of itching at all. I had no idea what to do, I couldn't even actually itch the area because it's only been a week and I don't feel like it has healed enough at all to be itching it. I can't have an infection because I have no signs of it and I have been overly cleaning the area all week!? Anyway, I grabbed an ice pack, went back to bed and iced the area until it was numb. While doing this I started crying as the itching was so unbearable and googled what I could do to reduce the itching, but most answers involved certain creams etc which I obviously couldn't go buy at 2 am... but most answers also did mention that itching can happen as early as a week after surgery meaning that it is healing. Which I guess is a good thing? The itching went down slightly thanks to the ice pack and I finally went to sleep. I have just woke up now and don't feel any itching but I know it's coming for me again! The thought of that makes me want to cry all over again. So anyway I'm off to see my doctor this afternoon and will definitely be asking about this itching... And I will post about how all that goes! (ps. please feel free to leave me some comments about how you survived the itching stage if you have been through this before, thanks!)
Day 8 (continued):
I saw my doctor this afternoon and he said everything is healing really well, which is good to hear. I asked him about the itching and he wants me to stop using the ointment in case that is increasing my itchiness, and to buy some anti-histamine such as Claryntine to help reduce the itching, and use no creams or ointments at all. He said my stitches are starting to dissolve already, which also explains the itching (apparently they can dissolve from day 5 onward), I really didn't think they would start dissolving so quick. He said that the horrid 'bubbly' skin around my hood will eventually go down!! (thank the lord haha) My right side is still more swelled than the left, but that's alright. I don't have any infections either. I will be him seeing him next in 4 weeks, it was suppose to be in 2 weeks but he is away. Other than that, I will be taking some Claryntine before bed so I am praying that I don't wake up feeling like I have been attacked by a colony of fleas! (it will so happen though.)
It didn't happen! I had a lovely sleep with no waking up from insane itching. Before I went to sleep last night I had some Claryntine tablets, and also iced the area for about 20 minutes which I think really helped... as I think the reason people have been waking up at all times of the night with itchiness is due to heat built up on that area at night. Today I went to the city for a nice lunch with my friends and I felt completely fine, I wasn't uncomfortable at all today. In terms of how it's looking...not so swelled, a more natural pinky colour, the sort of bumps created by the stitches along the edge of the labia are starting to smooth out more, maybe the stitches are dissolving? And the bubbly skin around the hood is still sadly there. I think Im going to take it easy tomorow as I go back to uni in 2 days!
Ah can't believe it's day 10 already. I find myself getting more impatient though, in the way that I feel completely fine and normal, no pain what so ever, but I just want down there to be healed, and look fine and normal already! Last night I did wake up with the need to itch, but it wasn't as unbearable as the other night, still not pleasant at all though. I guess I just have to accept that it's going to have to happen now and then. I can see some little stitches poking out, so they are slowly starting to dissolve and come out. One of the 'bubbles' of skin around my hood almost looks like it has deflated, which is good so hopefully they will all start to come down and stop swelling.
Day 14 (2 Weeks):
It's the two week mark now. Something I really want to recommend to anyone going to have this surgery... take photos! Seriously, take before photos, and then every day that you can afterwards until it has healed. This is what I have been doing and it really helps, on days where I just wonder what in the world is going on down there, having a look at a photo from a few days ago I can see the changes, realize it is actually looking better and can tell which parts are actually healing. And the before photos are crazy to look back at! You sort of forget exactly what it used to look at and its amazing to see the changes. I've been full on back at uni this week studying for exams next week, and I feel like last week I was doing well and this week I have just overdone it with activity... don't really know if it's helping down there. I can tell now that the labia is straightening out more which looks better, stitches are coming out, some parts look more healed then others. The skin around the hood is still worrying me, it still looks quite swelled, but the bleeding on some of the edges has stopped which is good. Hopefully the next couple of days I should be taking it easy and it will heal better.
So I'm in my 3 week post op now! I have been pretty busy with exams the past couple of weeks, I've literally barely thought of what's been going on down there... Not much to really update on, I got my period last week also so that made everything a lot funner, but it was easier to handle than I thought. I'm still trying to have salt baths every day but I haven't really found the time anymore. I feel completely normal still, I went to a festival yesterday and I can dance around and whatever and its not uncomfortable at all. The weather is getting super hot so I hope I can swim soon? In terms of looks, I think all the stitches have dissolved now, no bleeding anymore, everything is just still healing I guess, but looking good! Still wanting the hood to go down a bit... but not too sure if it will.
It's been a month since I had the surgery, where has the time gone! So I went to the beach yesterday, I still haven't gone swimming yet, but I think I will be fine when I do. I am still really cautious with the whole area as I feel like it is still sort of healing, but I think I need to stop being so cautious as I have no pain or stitches still in what so ever, and its been a month. I have finally stopped wearing 2 pair of tight underwear as per doctors orders, and are now back to something a bit more sexy haha, feels more comfortable too. I've read about people having sex at 4 weeks but I really couldn't imagine that, I feel like I would tear or ruin something ha but then again, I've never had sex in the first place... I think I'm going to start exercising this week, taking it easily then getting more into it. Appearance wise nothing has really changed in the past week, I am seeing my doctor for the 2nd time post op next week so hopefully he will tell me if much more will change etc.
I've finally hit the 6 week mark! I saw my doctor last week, it was very brief but he said everything looked really well down there and everything has pretty much healed now. I am really really happy with how everything has gone, and how it looks now, the only thing I would comment on if I was being picky is that I am a bit worried the 'hood' area looks a bit too big compared to the labia (which are super tiny), my doctor assured my that it looks really good and completely fine/normal (I think I am just being a perfectionist!). I just need to be grateful that my actual problems are now gone due to having this surgery, I had no complications and now it looks SOO much better than it used to and I should be extremely happy with that. I have been going for runs and exercising more, I feel totally normal now. My doctor said that 6 weeks is the 'safe point' in your post surgery recovery, as in at 6 weeks they suggest that you can start doing everything you may have used to do, for example exercising, sports or having sex. These can all be done now but should be done at your own cautious pace, and when you feel you are ready. I have no idea when I will have sex haha but hopefully sometime soon, and hopefully having this surgery doesn't make it any more painful than it may be!
I cannot believe it has been 3 months since surgery! Time has flown. The reason I wanted to write this at the 3 month mark is because I actually lost my virginity this week! Haha I know... I really didn't except it to happen so fast, but it did. Without going into lots of detail, I was mostly scared of the pain of having sex after this surgery, especially because I never had before.... But for me, it really didn't hurt as much as I thought! Obviously it's different for everyone but still. I was pretty confident with the way I looked down there and didn't have to feel shy or worried if they were going to freak out with what they saw. I did have sex with a good friend of mine so this may have helped with confidence, but in end the surgery did not get in the way of anything and I really think it would have made having sex more comfortable by having this surgery. Other than that, everything has been completely normal, I honestly forget sometimes I've even had labiaplasty! I'm just really happy and this experience has changed my life for the better.
So I thought I would log back onto here after a whole year since I have had the surgery! To be honest, I go most days forgetting I ever even had labiaplasty! Everything is completely normal, and I have had zero problems since. I have had a boyfriend now for 3 months (the friend I lost my virginity too), everything is going really well :) I haven't told him about having labiaplasty and I'm still unsure whether I will yet. I still have no regrets at all about the surgery, it is probably the best decision I have ever made for myself, and I have never been happier.
My overall tips for wanting/post surgery (My opinions, ba
- Make sure this surgery is something you actually need done, my doctor told me lots of stories about girls that come in and think they need something done to change the appearance of their labia, when it has no discomfort to them and doesn't protrude at all etc. they just think they need it changed to look 'perfect'.
- Make sure it is something you have thought about getting done for a long long time. I have wanted this done for so many years, and even after my first consultation I had a 3 month waiting period until I could have my follow up consultation just to make sure I was serious about the surgery.
- Tell somebody that you are wanting to get this done, or getting it done, whether this be a best friend or your mum, but you need somebody through this process that can support you, care for you and that you can talk too.
- Find a doctor that you trust, and is very experienced. My biggest issue with getting the surgery was that I was scared of something 'going wrong'. I guess they can't actually promise that everything is going to go perfectly, and that is what worried me, but I just had to realize that my doctor was very experienced, he teaches other doctors how to perform surgeries etc. so this made me feel a lot better.
- Make sure you make it very clear on how you want everything to turn out, is it realistic and just make sure you and your doctor are on the same page with everything.
- Post surgery, make sure you are taking all your prescribed medications etc.
- Post surgery, try and rest heaps, if you can get the week off to rest, just to be safe this is a good start. Start off slowly by walking around the house, local shops, then work, going out etc. only when you are ready, don't push yourself.
- The biggest tip I have when it comes to having this surgery is to NOT FREAK OUT at how it looks in the early stages of recovery. The first couple of weeks it is going to change every day, and yes some days its going to look SUPER WEIRD or not what you expect, you have to just give it time and tell yourself that it is not going to stay like that.
- If something doesn't look right to you e.g. I thought a section of my stitch line had ripped and their was a bubble of blood. I called my doctor and sent him a picture, and he reassured me that everything was fine. If you are worried about something like that, just call your doctor! Don't be scared, that's what they are there for.
- Take before and after photos! I took before photos and then photos everyday for a couple of weeks post surgery, it was so good to look back on the changes and how everything had progressed! I really recommend that.