Written on May 23rd, 2010
My fiance has two kids from two different woman (ages 5 and 2). I cant believe I am having to post this story but I need help to understand and to get this off my chest. My fiance was 17 when he has his first child with a woman he has a one night stand with. He tried to do the right thing for either son and moved in together, she ended up cheating on him multiple times so he moved out. She lives off the government and has two other kids with a different guy. My fiance pays a lot of child support to baby mama #1 because she is on government aid. Every time he calls her to see his son she asks him for more money and he keeps telling their son that my fiance is a bad man and doesn't love him.
Now on the baby mama #2, he was with this girl for four years she is a little younger and is very into God. He was so consumed by her he converted to her religion and they ended up having his second son and moving in together in an apartment next to her parents house. He parents are both practicing minsters and played a hug role in there relationship. My fiance ended up proposing to his baby mama #2 because of her parents saying it was the right thing to do by God. My fiance joined the Army National Guard after this second son was born and while he was a basic training his baby mama #2 met a man she thought was more suited to her "christian" lifestyle (he was also a practicing minster). When my fiance got back from basic she told him what had happened and he moved out and moved back in with his mother. Eight months after this my fiance and reconnected after 6 years and became involved. I was very hesitant of him having two children because I knew of all the "baggage" he had. His baby mama #1 and I do not really speak and he is not that involved with talking to her. He only calls when he wants to talk or see their son, but baby mama #2 is more of an issue. She tries to call I'm at least 4 times a week, he says there is nothing, absolutely nothing going on. That he never loved her like he loves me and when he looks into my eyes he knows this is real. Before I met baby mama #2s son she made me meet her and made me tell her about myself. At first I was okay with the fact because I understand that this can be a scary thing and she is sort of young. I wanted to reassure her that I only had good intentions for my fiance and their son. After we met she text my fiance and told him now nice of a person I was, but then the bad messages started happening. My fiance started asking his baby mama #2 for overnights to his their son and she freaked out. Saying I was not allowed to be there and she didn't think it was a good idea to expose their son to that. Their son knows who I am by nam but I totally understood. Then I started thinking that her minster practicing boyfriend stays the night when he is in town all the time. She is now texting my fiance wanting to ask him personal questions about us and him. Why is she doing this? I am becoming so uncomfortable seeing I have never had to experience any of this before. She wont even look at me when we pick their son up for the day. What have I done? I am a good person and my fiance is a wonderful person and I great dad. He fights for our country and will be deploying next year. Why do I need to be involved with baby mamas? Am I just over reacting? please help!