I Hate Baby Mama Drama

If You Can't Beat 'em, Join 'em!

By: WomanReclaimingSelf

Written on April 2nd, 2011

I am the baby mama. I've recently become friends with my ex's (baby's father) girlfriend. It has been quite a ride for her and I over the past few years. It tooks some time and growth to be able to see eye to eye. We were similar to many stories on here from what I've seen. We recently talked it out and came to terms with the fact that neither of us could handle this drama much longer. Since then and some positive encounters since our initial talk, we've had a chance to actually start to know eachother. We've found that we misjudged a lot of eachother's qualities and motives. We also found that we have a lot of similarities between us. I for one, couldn't be happier about our experience and our new found understanding. I found that I was wrong, about a lot, and she is the friend that I didn't even realize I've been wanting for some time. Our story may be similar, but is unlike any other experience, it may not be as simple for some. I hope this posts will encourage someone to see past your own feelings and open your mind to the possibility of no more drama! Sometimes you have to give a little to get a little. If understanding and peace is what you want, you may need to give some of that to receive it.

By: WomanReclaimingSelf

Age: 22-25 , Female

2,606 people have read this story

Email:

Username:

Password:

Birthday:

By clicking "Post", you confirm that you agree to the Terms of Service of Experience Project, Inc.

9 responses

MrsThompson

This post gave me a lot of hope. I am the new wife of someone with 2 children and she is absolutely not having it. The drama she creates is almost unbearable at times. I understand her position therefore have never held it against her. I just hope that one day we can come to peace (as demonstrated in this post) for better of her children and our sanity

Oct 3, 2012
2 likes
terryjean

What if you had two of them by the grace of GOD I'M NOT ON DRUGS AND ALCHOLIC

Feb 12, 2012
1 like
baybiiboobear

one day i really hope to be able to sit down with my boyfriend's baby mama and be able to talk things out and even if we don't become good friends at least we'll understand e.o more for her baby's sake and my future babies as well but that's gonna take a long time cz this girl is still a kid at heart and in her mind and fact is that i'm not going anywhere n neither is she so we might as well just get along.

Dec 26, 2011
1 like
LuLu10

Why I believe I'm moving on with my life from my boyfriend of 5 years. It is impossible to have a decent, respectable, dependable relationship with a man who has a kid. I hate my boyfriend's baby momma b/c she is so fake. She always asking for **** and expect him and I to do everything for he son. I didn't make the mistake of having a child young and unmarried. bout to end it all b/c I don't have time to pay for someone else's mistake of pregnancy, cause hardship on my relationship and financial status. Not to mention she is bisexual with baby #2 on the way. Don't know who the baby daddy is and lives with a girl. Get it together. She never works b/c I guess living off my boyfriend's expense and laying on her *** opening her legs keeps her bills paid. But both men and women need to stop having baby's unless you are married. Also young girls stop having sex, it is so not worth ******* up having a child.

Someone that's a SINGLE mother, please answer me. Do you truely believe that b/c you have a child with someone it is his responsibility to pay for everything that the child needs or is involved in. Do you expect him to take care of you? What are mothers excuses for not working if they are not in school or ill. Do you understand how single mothers ruin men life and future possible relationships for them. Honestly single mothers how would it feel to be involved (possible marriage) to a man that cannot fully be there b/c a woman he had a kid with just demands stuff all the time leaving them with no life to build and no manhood to show a woman. Please explain.

Aug 25, 2011
2 likes
- amberwilliams5
  I'm 23 and a single mother (a young single mother if you will) and I don't expect or want my son's father to pay for anything even when it comes to our son but because I need help I take the little he gives. If I could, I'd do it myself and by no means am I keeping my son from his father or anything like that. I'm just an independent person who doesn't want help from anyone. I don't think the blame can be put on the mother alone because any mind in his right mind wouldn't be taking care of a grown woman who has no incentive to work just because they have a kid together, especially if she's the way you described. My boyfriend has a son with another woman and he doesn't pay her rent or provide money for anything other than their son. I think your situation is specific because even the friends I have who are single mothers wouldn't take anything from their ex if they had the means to provide solely by themselves. Also, it's not just "young" girls who need to stop having sex unless their married because there are a lot of old irresponsible childish women out there acting a fool too. I feel like if you're in a relationship with someone who has a child with someone else you need to set your boundaries for what you will and won't accept and have your spouse set boundaries with the child's other parent to eliminate all the crap; and if they can't then don't waste your time
  
  May 1, 2012
  1 like
lcarolann561

Would love to use your story to help motivate baby mommas in my book "She'll always be his baby momma"

Jun 10, 2011
1 like
misstallandindependent

This was so nice to read! My boyfriend's baby mama at one point apologized to me for all the drama she had caused and promised me that she wouldn't bother me unless it had to deal with the child. Unfortunately, that didn't last long and she started harassing me again by calling my phone, hanging up, and sending me ridiculous text messages until I had to threaten to beat her *** and tell her boyfriend that she was harrasing me and my boyfriend. Maybe someday she'll go back to realizing that all her drama makes her look like a fool and we can get along...

May 27, 2011
3 likes
angelalj007

I don't think so

Apr 29, 2011
1 like
WomanReclaimingSelf

:) we're like an ep inspiration! Lol

Apr 3, 2011
3 likes

Your Response