Boyfriends "baby Momma" Who Hasn't/wont Move On...Where oh where do I begin?
Well first off my boyfriend and I have known eachother since freshman year in highschool. We've always had a connection but never acted on it until this year... He met his daughters mom back when we were about 17 years old & they had a flip flop breakup to make up unstable relationship that involved all the ups & downs until they made the official "break up" about a year ago. Lets keep in mind I have been friends with him through this, not day to day talking but kept in contact somewhat. His "babymomma" has NEVER liked me... up until this year we had NEVER even had any sexual encounters or anything... so there was no need to feel uncomfortable for that reason... anywho.
Fast forward to now. We are in a relationship together, going on about... 8 months or so? When him & I first started actually dating he had no connection or communication with her at all. I pushed him to be able to communicate to her civilly when it came to visitation & how a "schedule" would be...so... they became decent towards one another at that point. Still to this day flip flop on a schedule with their kid, but that my fellow supporters is a WHOLE other story LOL. So.... I tried to reach out in the beginning because she was being malicious towards me.. I tried to just say if i wronged you I am sorry, etcetc... can we move forward. I expressed to her I will NEVER intrude or try to communicate with her relating to her daughter because truthfully thats my boyfriend & hers position, not mine. I have kids of my own, and I dont want their dads new lover in my personal kids business... she responding very hostile & ghetto... and said she would never like me and she wants her daughter to know she doesnt etcetc. so i ssaid so be it & let it be. mind you this was about... maybe 6 months ago.
Ok.. so about a month ago, i snooped ( no im NOT proud) in my boyfriends phone. There was ONLY one message in the phone from his "babymomma", the rest had been deleted. It stated "i feel like i got played, again. Its coo. sweet dreams baby" well then. LOL i was honest & told my boyfriend of what i read.. he said she does this stuff at random.. he doesnt know why. Well, i tried talking to her she claimed they had been talking/texting... and seeing eachother, that hes hers & she will always be HOME for him...blah blah... & He says none of this happened. I chose to believe him, because.. well i honestly have my reasons but it DID make me uncomfortable. I did come to find out they were talking a little more than they should on a day by day basis... just shooting the breeze & to me thats unacceptable. So, he told her to stop texting unless it was in relation to the kid...and it seemed to somewhat work. She backed off what it seems or at least from what i know quite a bit......
Then yesterday she writes him these extremely excessive messages saying how she cant believe where they are in life... and how hes not there for her... and she loves him & she has to be happy for him even if its with "that *****" (thatssss me! yay) lol he didnt respond.. later in the night she texted him after he dropped their daughter off to her saying, "you should have stayed" & then he didnt respond she wrote again, " i just laid the baby down... good night ill go cuddle with my teddy bear" ..... well... him & i got into an argument because Im infuriated, annoyed and hurt... he says shes doing these things to try & interfere with him & i... and he wouldnt respond. I wanted him to say "stop... thats not necessary...quit that" something! he wouldnt because he said itll cause a fight & give her what she wants.
So moral of the story, boyfriends baby momma wants him STILL. she posts stuff on FB & these texts.... and shes obviously lying... i have more to prove shes liying.. but thats a whole other million words haha. anywho.. what the hell do i do? if i talk to her AGAIN, shes gonna just continue because i tried that before. he said he wont respond because thats what she wants... do i just deal with it? but it DOES make me crazy & uncomfortable. i want to trust HIM , but def dont trust HER!! esp because shes throwing herself at him... CONSTANTLY. hes like if i wanted her its obvious i can have her, and im here...etcetcetce.... what the hell is the solution to make me feel at ease...??? anything please. sorry to word vomit here hahaah & sorry if it babbled i tried to make it make sense. BABY MOMMA DRAMA SUCKS