There's Always A Reminder That I Am The Second WifeFeeling crappy again today. How do you deal with your in-laws who feel as if they are still obligated to stay in touch with your husband's ex-wife because of the grandchildren? I feel hurt, betrayed, and insulted that they are doing this. I feel like they should understand since my in-laws are also in their second or third marriage.
My husband is close to his dad, and I am very thankful for that, so we usually go to his parent's place every other weekend. But now, it's getting harder and harder for me to be genuinely happy to go there when I know they are still talking to her.
I know that they have known her longer than they have known me, but it sucks! They don't even like her. Tell me that I am not the only who feels this way about their in-laws?
What hurts even more is when I see there is a picture of her in the guest bedroom. It hurts so much that I just want to burn that picture.
I can't even talk to this to my husband, because I know he won't understand, and even if I did, he'd probably just get irritated and say that I have to get over it. He just doesn't get it that getting over it is hard to do when I am always being constantly reminded that I am the second wife.