Didn't Think This One Through

I fell head over heels for my husband the nite I met him. We dated for a while and eventually got married. All this time I knew he had a three year old and was fine with it. Now it's finally sinking in a bit thAt this is forever and it just sucks. I want more than anything to have a great life with him but it seems impossible with this kid. It's my own fault. I hate kids but I thought my love for him would be enough for me to deal with it. Is it selfish of me to want to start a life with someone free of baggage? I wanted it to be him but his kid and his ex are getting to be too much baggage for me to carry. I really messed up this time
Lostmouse Lostmouse
22-25, F
4 Responses Aug 13, 2010

It's 2013. May I ask, where are you now? I totally sympathize with your situation and hope that things are best for YOU now.

I feel your pain. I am in the same situation and don't know what do to. I never imagined it be this difficult. I didn't hate kids before the marriage but now with the 2 boys, my stepsons, I do. <br />
How is your situation now?

Don't add any more kids into the mix and enjoy the time you have alone with your husband.

Is it possible that you with some time can learn to love his son? Is it possible that you might be able to see the love he has for his son and that you might share in that?