How Do Deal With My Step KidsI married the love of my life.....I was happy to accept his two girls 12 and 16. i also have twin girls who are 8. I guess I was stupid to think we could be a family. We only have his girls every other weekend so I thought how hard could it be. It has been a year and it seems to be getting worse.
What do you think of this ...want someones opinion. I find his girls very selfish ....He pays support to his ex as he should, he stops by after work sometimes and takes them out...tries to talk to them about their problems etc....so very present in their life. i realize they are angry about him leaving their Mother, but ....wow they give nothing back. I'm also sure they are jealous that he is with my girls and not them...but when they come on the weekend we make sure he has one on one time with them...but still they give nothing back.
Week before Father's day he bought his oldest daughter glasses because his ex wouldn't.....no thank you. He took them out to a movie after work...no thank you and I bought tickets to take them to a show...the oldest didn't want to go so no thank you....when he tried to give her a prgram on the show wouldn't take it. So he told them if they don't start appreciating thinks that people do for them they will stop doing things for them....still no thank you. Their Mom I know blames him for everything...even though we all know that it takes two to make a marriage work. She was very verbally abusive in the marriage and she is very low class...no manners....uses bad language, etc....We never say anything about their Mom to them....though I'm sure she says things about us....On Father's day weekend the eldest said what are we doing this weekend and my husband said well I'm resting and opening up cards...they both stated they didn't get him anything....which hurt him. My daughters made him cards at school and bought him a chocolate bar that they know he likes. I said that they didn't need to give it to him in front of his girls if it would make them uncomfortable...but he said no...they should because that would be wrong to hurt their feelings as he is their step Dad. So the day of Father's day they did make him a card....after he showed them how to on the computer....but don't you think they should been more thoughtful....could they not have spent 5 dollars on a coffee card for him or a dollar on his favorite candy.....have no trouble spending their money on themselves......just frustrated. My husbands says all teenagers are all about themselves...but I don't believe this....I thave met thought ful teenagers. I don't know why their maners are so bad. I never get a thank you for making their favorite meal. I asked them when their dance recital was so we would be their for them....since they didn't tell us when, but I knew it was coming up. They said they didn't know and when we kept asking they told us the day of. I bought them flowers....acted like they could care...frustrated