I used to LOVE being a stepmom. I used to love having SS3 around. I used to hate having to take him back after visitation. Yeah, I've had to deal with a very difficult and insanely jealous BM. But I kept telling myself she was insane and jealous and the past. But it got worse. It got to the point she was trying to break me and DH up. She was calling me all types of mean names and bullied me. That helped to bring me down. I began angry and bitter because of her. She is a horrible person.
My in laws don't support me. We were visiting in laws last night with SS because BM let us have him til about 4 today. As we were getting ready to leave, SS started dragging his feet and saying he didn't want to go. MIL was tired and didn't feel well enough to put up with or take care of SS so she said he couldn't spend the night. I said that this would be a good learning experience so he can learn he can't get his way all the time. Well, that pissed FIL off and he went of on me saying that he was offended because I said that SS needs to learn not to get his way and that I think SS gets his way all the time (UHH! HE DOES!!). So I get this freakin' long lecture about how I sound bitter and how offensive I am to his precious, sweet, do no wrong grandchild-all because I said SS shouldn't get his way all the time. I was also told that since I'm not a blood relative, nothing I say or do or think means squat in regards to SS. I can tell SS not to do something, he'll run to in-laws and they let him. I tell him to do something such as clean up his toys/mess whatnot, and he runs to them and they protect him from his chores. I have NO parenting roles with him whatsoever since I'm "not his real mom." I feel like the ball pla
With BM's nasty actions and words towards me plus my in-laws actions and words towards me, I am in a no-win situation. I hate being a stepmom now.
SS doesn't listen or respect me and he's made to believe he doesn't. DH is the only one in my corner but I feel like the Lone Ranger and Tonto. All we have is each other. DH is the only one who backs me up and makes SS listen to me but he's grandparents enable SS to be a jerk to me and theirs nothing I can do about it!
SO YES, I HATE BEING A STEPMOM. I hate having SS around now because he is the cause of so much drama and stress. I count down the hours and minutes until we get to take him home with such excitement it's like being a child in school on a Friday, watching the clock tick down to the last hour to go home and have two days of no school.