I Just Don't Understand
I married my husband 2 years ago. He and I both have daughters from previous marriages. My daughters bio dad is non existent and is with us full time. My husband has stepped in and became her father! She is 5 and step daughter is 4. I have found it extremely difficult from the beginning to love this child. She is very whiney and needy. In the beginning I did not like bio mom, but have since became friends with her and get along great. Step daughter is with us 50% of the time, and my husband works ALOT so therefore I get stuck caring for her. She is a very lazy child who only wants to sit around and watch movies all time. Won't ever try new things and cries about everything. I resent her when she is around because she disrupts my household and clings to him like a leach! I just don't want to be a step mom! There is pressure to love her like my own. I don't feel like I should have to do that. I do care for her, but do not feel the same as I do about my own. My husband has accepted my daughter whole heratedly and treats her just the same as his. I have severe guilt because I do not act the same. Should I be expected to see this kid in the same way I do my own? I mean she has a mom, and its not me!