My best friend told me she was "struggling" with our level of intimacy and closeness. She said she did not want to send me mixed messages and would never be unfaithful to her husband of 27 years but loves being with me and loves the feeling she has when we are together (although it is not sexual) I love this woman with all my heart. What we share is so intense and I have never had it with anyone else. It has never reached a sexual place and I don't ancipate that it will. She says she takes he commitment to her husband very seriously and would have a difficult time if he were doing the things we are with someone else. She also says she is going to talk to someone about it. I now feel as though our friendship relies on the opinions of others as to how they feel it will affect the marrige. It hardly seems fair. Also, it will be very difficult to go back to being causal friends.