Just Tell Me What's Up And I Will Leave You AlonePeople who know me well know I hate being ignored. It's not a narcissitic thing by any means. I don't feel that I am God's gift to anyone or that anyone owes it to me to pay attention to me at all times. I don't expect much out of any of my friends....just be there for me, share in my joys and laughter, and have fun. However, if I message you and you choose to ignore me, then that really sets me off. Especially when one knows that is my biggest pet peeve. Ok, I really shouldn't be saying this because now it's out in the open and everyone will really know how to get under my skin...not that I give anyone a reason to **** me off. See, I treat people with respect and never do anything to them that I would not want done to me. So when I am ignored, I see it as very disrepectful, distasteful and intentional. My friends usually do not do this to me...I am not offensive and I respect everyone's space. I do not like to bother people and I don't like to feel that way. When I don't get a return acknowledgment even just to say, I got your message but I am busy...I will message you later, then that tells me you don't care and that what I want doesn't matter. I also see it as a control issue. The person who doesn't respond back has the ball in their court and they are in control. I tend to stay away from people like this because I don't have time for games, which is exactly what it is. I can understand if one is busy at the time...but don't even bother messaging back 12 hours later and give some lame excuse about why you didn't get back to me. I see it as even more of an insult to my intelligence that anyone would think that I am dumb enough to fall for excuses. This is the main reason that I am never the first to call, text, or message someone whom I want an instant response from and I am upfront with all my friends about this. I never put myself in a position to feel like I am being ignored. But there are very rare times when I will do it and I take my chances because I have something I want to say or tell the person. That just sets me up for disappointent though and I learn that it's just best to let everyone else do the texting if they feel they want to talk to me.
Txsmom 41-45, F 13 Responses 14 Apr 28, 2012