I was lied to every day for four years. He lied about being married to another woman and it's only this last week he has come clean about it. I feel used and also like I've been treated like a complete fool. I'm angry and upset because I laid my soul bare to this person and I don't share what I am thinking or feeling with anyone readily. I don't feel like I can trust anyone now after being lied to for such a long time.

He keeps emotionally blackmailing me by pleading with me to take him back and that me stonewalling him is "killing him". I can't take any more of his bullshit, he won't leave me alone. I've now blocked his number on my phone because I'm so sick of him pestering me. He's making it out to be my mistake, when I never cheated on him and put my life on hold for him for four years. We used to talk everyday but now I can't bring myself to even look at his text messages because they make me feel sick to my stomach.

I don't even want to reply to him, as I know if I give an inch he'll take a mile. This isn't something I'm going to back down on, I'm going to keep walking in the other direction and as far away from him as possible. He's made enough of a fool of me already, I'm not going to give him another chance to do so.
Mimimanxcat Mimimanxcat
31-35, F
8 Responses Aug 24, 2014

Im sorry you had to go through that . I was in a similiar situation but i wasnt married . I always just told my ex if you want to be with someone else then just tell me . That way we could just seperate and see different people . I think some people get akick out of lying and cheating or a thrill . Its made it hard dfor me to trust anyone again and even get into another relationship

Stay strong! Don't cave. Nothing worse than being lied to after giving your all

tough one strength hope and love

It's good that you moved on from someone who hurt and betrayed you. A lot of people would still want to give the person a chance without thinking it through and what they will get out of the situation. Moving on is the biggest and strongest thing you can do, and things will only get better from there. You will find happiness and it's good that you aren't one to seek revenge for this dude, because karma will be out to get him and it'll bite him hard for what he's done to you. You are a strong woman and you will find the right guy someday that will be the total opposite of what the other guy was.

Exactly why I'm playing the good guy here, I've done nothing wrong. I just think that by cutting all contact, leaving him to stew because he's struggling to understand why I've just frozen him out and won't stop calling. It's his mistake and he's now literally left with nothing. His wife kicked him out, he's lost a place to live, and now he's lost me as well. I'd say that was just desserts!

sorry to hear u being betrayed.
Kuddos to ur strength for moving out and trying find new life and a new u.

Best wishes.

I feel sorry for his wife how many others has he been with.

i too agree.
its such meanful act. to screw life of some woman for own pleasure.

Me too! If I knew he was married, there was no way I'd have gotten involved. Especially when he said she had cancer as well.

Awesome!! Keep that strong will with you during these times. Stay at a distance too. You don't want to go back into that world no matter what your feelings about "love" tell you. Don't delude yourself and go back because you're right, he will take a mile if you give an inch.
Keep your head up, you'll get through this <3

Believe me, there's not a chance I'll be going back. He can beg, crawl and plead as much as he likes. This was totally of his own doing and now he has to face the consequences of his actions.

Ur so strong, girl :)) i admire u :))) i wish i cud do the same..

Thank you. Sometimes you have to do what is best for yourself and just be completely rational about things. If he's lied to me for so long about this, what else has he lied about? It's completely unforgivable and there's no way I want anything else to do with him.