Something I Learned About People.

this has been my issue my whole life, society has defined me and I have given in to it, I hate being ugly, I hate my disability I hate my insecurities, and I hate people that only see my chair and my deformities

I have often experienced heavy people, family and friends, who became obese because they didn't ever learn healthy ways to relate to themselves or others. For the few who lost weight, they were STILL angry. See, it isn't the weight problem in and of itself... it is that it is an overt sign (visible symptom) that a person has issues I won't take on... after all, I'm dying slowly with CADASIL, a genetic condition. Being upset hastens my disability. So I am learning to make as nothing people with issues like anger and rage, and to refuse to take on their problems. Somehow, I think this answer is going to upset you, too, but if need be, there is always Flag and Block here. I am trying to give you some real insight. Reject it as you will.

So true sweets :)

Ultimately if you are happy with yourself then that's what matters. Unfortunately we place so much emphasize in our society on looks that the unlucky people who were born unattractive have to suffer their whole lives. I am not ugly but I am not great looking either. I'm plain I suppose, and fortunately I'm a male, so my personality can sometimes make up for it. But for the most part, I get rejected A LOT by women. I'm not that desirable and I do everything in my power to make up for it. I work out regularly, eat right, I try to be smart and interesting, and its still very difficult for me to attract women. Now that I'm getting older I fear that I won't be able to attract even the sub par women that I have in my 20's. Life is a cruel game for many people. And us unlucky ones who aren't that hot. Its human nature to want someone who is attractive. Unfortunately that's not always reciprocated. I guess the best advice is find someone you are attracted to and love them and try to be happy. Hopefully they love you back and you stay together. I often wonder what life is like for those really attractive people. I'm sure they are much happier than we ugly ones are. At least in the sex and relationship department. I can't imagine any other conclusion. I think ugly people say those people aren't happy but in reality they always seem very happy. I think they are. But its just life. Not much we can do about it, except curse nature, or God, whoever made us this way. Sad story, and even sadder for females because yes, we place huge emphasis on females being pretty. But also, its easier for an ugly woman to attract a man than it is for an ugly man to attract a woman. We have the option of paying for sex though, which I suppose, aside from the legal implications, balances things out. Such is life. :/

Interesting. I was over 230lbs at one point. Hated it. Lost the weight but only cause it was uncomfortable for me to get out of the car. USed to hurt my knees weighing that much. Wouldn't say I started getting all the pu$$y at that time. Was only one girl I was dealing with during that year and she noticed it. She started sending naked pics of her pu$$y. LMAO Started getting more attracted to me and we started hanging out in public. But she weighed more than me, though.

I had a weight issue I weighed 230 lbs once I lost the weight a lot of women started coming around that wouldn't have noticed me before. That's because I did something about my appearance and the noticed that I took care of my self and was attractive to
Them. Never once when I was fat and sloppy did I expect women to be attracted to me nor did I blame them for not being attracted to me, that didn't make them shallow it made me fat and gross and women don't want fat gross guys that's not their fault though why would they? I know the score, if I want women to notice me, ride the bike, hit the gym, eat right and don't be a slob.

Yes, yes. Good advice. You should change only for you.

if you love yourself then why are you posting in the i hate being ugly forum? i agree that people need some encouragement but it seems ironic to me

Im ugly! and despite that truly sad truth i have a nice life a husband, two beautiful children. Most days i go about my life being happy but the fact of my ugliness is never out of mind. I used to wish i was beautiful but now i just wish to accept myself for who i am a great mother, wife and friend. why is it that my ugliness dominates my thoughts I wish nothing more than to be able to feel comfortable in my own skin will i ever be okay with being ugly? I know i deserve it.

Funny how you say all this when you told me I DESERVED to be raped by my father .You are a sick twisted bastard and no way in hell you lost weight I saw your profile picture on facebook. you are still obese.You don't like yourself you make yourself feel good by degrading others. One day, you will get your karma ten times fold. Your grandmother is dead, right? Well...did you eat her? I mean, if you did that then that'l explain everything.

This culture seems to become increasingly "obsessed" with youth & beauty, Is this pretty much the norm in western countries in general?

**** people, they dont know you and you are probablly a better person than 99.9% of tham (which in the end thats what importent, good person)

most of the superficial shallow people youll meet will be gone from your life before you even notice tham.

people allways saying stuff about me on the street because the way i look but i just ignore tham, go back to my nice little life while they go back to their ****** dreamless life...



make peace with yourself thats all that matter ^^

I find that sickening too but to be honest I can also at time see myself going through similar motions and being disgusted with myself... i.e like preferring female friends on EP even though I'm not here for that ETC... or seeing someone's profile pic and thinking errrrrr.... then thinking (who the **** do I think I am?)

I agree. I am unattractive, and people have made fun of my pretty much my whole life. I am an introvert by nature anyway so it doesn't affect me as much as it would an outgoing extrovert. I find most people to be judgemental, greedy, rude, and shallow. We live in a looks and money oriented society, and if you are not born with either one you are pretty much screwed.