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Mom In Hospice For Lung/ Bone Cancer

my mom was diagnosed with lung cancer in January of 2008.  Now, almost a year and a half later, it has spread and saturated most of her spine, and it looks like her battle is coming to an end.  She was put in inpatient hospice care about a month ago.  Words can't describe how painful it is to watch my mom/ best friend go through so much agony and excruciating pain.  I have lost all hope and faith in God and don't know how I will ever live without her. 

pologirl31 pologirl31 18-21, F 10 Responses May 20, 2009

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Polo girl:<br />
I dont know if you will ever read this as I see it was written a few years back. Im losing my Mom too...but she at HOME...and I cant take it much longer. Its tearing me to pieces...I feel like Im coming apart...

I'm so very sorry. I know that words do little to ease the pain of watching a loved one suffer. We are watching my mother's health slowly and steadily decline.<br />
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I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. May the peace of the Lord be with you all in your time of need.<br />
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I'm sure she knows how much you love her. Spend as much time with her as you can.

My mom is in the exact same position as yours. It started out as lung cancer, spread to her brain, then her spine, then her liver, then her lymph nodes...<br />
My mom is in hospice right now but we FOUGHT to do the hospice home health care. They wanted to keep her in a hospital, but we wanted to bring her home so she could be in the new house with family. It has been hell taking care of her.<br />
Right now, the doctors say she has a week to live and she's in excruciating pain as well...<br />
I'm 19 and I also don't know how to live without my mother.<br />
Please message me if you get this and let me know how your mom is doing...

Thank you everyone. I really appreciate the sympathy and support.

My heart goes out to all who have to go thru this terrible process. So many and there are no words, to help.Peace and love.

Lots if hugs to you, I understand what you are going through. xx

pologirl31, I'm with gman1023 and his very, very wise and loving advice. Actually, my heart goes out to both of you. I lost my very beloved father when he was 50; he died painlessly but it was also a shock because he was a healthy man and we never thought his life would swept away in twelve days by an illness we didn't even know the name of. gman1023, hope it's okay if I give you a *hug*.<br><br />
Even if you feel you can't pray any more, I'd like to pray for both of you (if that's okay). FWIW, I was a volunteer candystriper at a hospice once, for a few months, and I think that inpatient hospice care can be better than anything we can try to give the ones we love at home. Please don't ever feel guilty. I love you.<br><br />

Oh Honey... Gman summed it up really well: understand that this will change your life, your family, and maybe your faith, but also understand that you can get through it. With time, the loss of your mother may even become a catalyst for you to help others and bring some positive energy into the world to mark her memory... But it will take time, and in the meantime it's perfectly all right to grieve, and get angry, and cry...<br />
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BIGG HUGGS to YOU!! I do understand!!

I kinda know how you feel. I'm a 19 year old guy and I lost my Mom to pancreatic cancer almost ten years ago. She was 43, and today would be her 53rd birthday. It truly is one of the hardest things a person can go through. The death of a loved one so young causes great changes in people. Some lose their faith, some renew their faith, and some change their faith. Some don't change in their faith, but change in other ways. Watching the way it not only affected me, my brother, and my dad but her family and close friends is just heart-wrenching. You will never be the same, and neither will anyone she touched, but will have the wonderful memories to always cherish. <br />
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Since you're on the other end of this from me, I just want you to know that you will survive, and you will thrive. You will be stronger in the future because of it. I know it's hard to believe right now, but it's true. I hope you have family and friends who cn help and support you through this. Probably the best thing you can do for now, though, is to spend as much time with your Mom as possible, just to enjoy every last second of her company and to let her know how much she means to you. It will mean a lot to her.