The Most Painful Experience Was When My Ex-husband Left Me For Another Woman
I can still recall that evening over three years ago when my husband, this man I absolutely adored and had been completely in love with, told me that he did not want to be married to me anymore.
When I first met him, he was married to someone else. We were friends for a long time, study partners in school, before anything happened. He was still married when it did. I make no excuses. I knew he was unhappy in his marriage, but now, I don't know that his then-wife knew. And a few weeks later, he filed for divorce from her, and came to me.
For three and a half years, I was blissfully happy. Although something told me not to, I allowed myself to be completely open with this man, and trusted him. If I had any doubts, I would mentally push them away.
Go ahead. Ask the question.
Didn't I ever think he would do the same thing to me???
Oh no, not while we were together. He would NEVER hurt me that way. Ours was a lasting love.
Never again will I think so arrogantly.
Although our marriage had hit a bit of a rough spot by the time he left, it really was nothing horrible. We did not fight, choosing rather to talk to each other about typical issues. We spent time together. We still snuggled on the couch. Sex, well that did begin to dissipate, but only because he had an erectile dysfuntion issue that he was under medical care for.
After he told me we were through, I looked in his email. And found the pictures of her.
For the first year, I could barely get out of bed. Oh, I went to work, but I would come home and go right back to bed, and just lay there. The ache in my heart was physical. I felt like he had ripped my heart out of my chest, kicked it, and stomped on it for good measure.
The second year I spent hoping he would remember me, how we loved each other, and come back. Yeah. No.
The third year, I divorced him. He proceeded to marry the woman he was "not" having an affair with when he left me.
I am sure that his wife before me wished me great pain, and hoped karma would bite me in the *** because I stole her husband. It did. I got everything I deserved.
And although I try hard to be understanding, frankly I hope karma bits his new wife in her fat ***.
But moreso, I hope, somewhere along the line, it takes a huge chunk of his ***. And ball. You get the picture.
The one thing I have learned from this? NEVER DATE SOMEONE WHO IS MARRIED (even separated, that is still married). That is first and foremost. A relationship deal breaker for me now? I will never date a cheater.
I will never again be as naive and arrogant to think it could not happen to me. What a huge mistake.