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The Most Painful Experience Was When My Ex-husband Left Me For Another Woman

I can still recall that evening over three years ago when my husband, this man I absolutely adored and had been completely in love with, told me that he did not want to be married to me anymore. 

When I first met him, he was married to someone else.  We were friends for a long time, study partners in school, before anything happened.  He was still married when it did.  I make no excuses.  I knew he was unhappy in his marriage, but now, I don't know that his then-wife knew.  And a few weeks later, he filed for divorce from her, and came to me.

For three and a half years, I was blissfully happy.  Although something told me not to, I allowed myself to be completely open with this man, and trusted him.  If I had any doubts, I would mentally push them away.

Go ahead.  Ask the question.

Didn't I ever think he would do the same thing to me???

Oh no, not while we were together.  He would NEVER hurt me that way.  Ours was a lasting love. 

Never again will I think so arrogantly.

Although our marriage had hit a bit of a rough spot by the time he left, it really was nothing horrible.  We did not fight, choosing rather to talk to each other about typical issues.  We spent time together.  We still snuggled on the couch.  Sex, well that did begin to dissipate, but only because he had an erectile dysfuntion issue that he was under medical care for.

After he told me we were through, I looked in his email.  And found the pictures of her.

For the first year, I could barely get out of bed.  Oh, I went to work, but I would come home and go right back to bed, and just lay there.  The ache in my heart was physical.  I felt like he had ripped my heart out of my chest, kicked it, and stomped on it for good measure.

The second year I spent hoping he would remember me, how we loved each other, and come back.  Yeah.  No.

The third year, I divorced him. He proceeded to marry the woman he was "not" having an affair with when he left me.

I am sure that his wife before me wished me great pain, and hoped karma would bite me in the *** because I stole her husband.  It did.  I got everything I deserved.

And although I try hard to be understanding, frankly I hope karma bits his new wife in her fat ***. 

But moreso, I hope, somewhere along the line, it takes a huge chunk of his ***.  And ball.  You get the picture.

The one thing I have learned from this?  NEVER DATE SOMEONE WHO IS MARRIED (even separated, that is still married).  That is first and foremost.  A relationship deal breaker for me now?  I will never date a cheater.

I will never again be as naive and arrogant to think it could not happen to me.  What a huge mistake.
 

LolaJ LolaJ 41-45, F 11 Responses Dec 27, 2010

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I know the pain you have felt. It's one of the most painful experiences ever. I'm glad that this has taught you a lesson. I don't think you will make the same mistake twice. My husband and I had a relationship for 16 years and married for 12. I think I was the last one to know. You find out who your friends are when something like this happens. He blamed me for leaving but after about 3 months it was all clear after I found evidence of him cheating and lying. I had not idea he would ever do such a thing. I trusted him and loved him very much. The ow was also married at the time. She is now living with my husband and probably excusing her immorality thinking it's ok because he wasn't happy with me. Happiness is not achieved by being with a partner that is perfect. We all have issues in a relationship but they are not resolved by cheating. It hurts when we hurt and judge others because we want to believe a cheater's lies. I know how you feel. This experience it's not only painful but humiliating. I'm glad that after your experience there will be one less home wrecker around. I don't wish this pain on anyone...not even on you. I'm not sure if karma is real but God sees all all. We can't build a castle on another's ruin

Wow! Like everyone has already said... Coulda written this myself.... My ex husband did the same thing... We've been together for 7 years... I was 19 when we met... 26 when he divorced me for a 40 year old woman who was still married... Separated, but married... We have a 3 year old boy together and it's do hard.. I moved out of our shared home in January last year and he moved into her home in march. And they have been together ever since... He lied to me about her from the beginning and then lied to me about having our child around her ... My 2 year old at the time is the one who informed me he sleeps in the bed with them.... NOT his adult father... I'm so sick of it! Sick of it all!!! I never wanted the divorce, I loved him with every piece of me! Still feel like I do some days... He tried to "get back together" last may and the whole time was still living with her, while taking me and our son out on dates... WTF?! Now he claims he's never been more in love with someone and they are getting married... Mind you this woman is a liscensed psychologist and yet works in human resources... The exact same thing I do!!! ?????? What's wrong with this picture? I am 27, and this 40 year old woman prank calls me!!!! But yet my ex tells me I'm immature!!!! He of course doesn't believe me when I tell him either!! Cause "I'm full of drama" really?! I hate having to see them together! I hate it!! All I heard for the past year was he needed to be alone, was never getting married again!! Now, he's remarrying in just a few months... By the way the woman is loaded...

Oh god this could be my story. I found out in December when he stayed out all night while I was at work. I tried for 11 of our 12 year marriage to make it work, put up with his verbal abuse. I was still trying after I found out. He told me she was not a serious thing, yet he stays there 5 nights a week. We have filed for divorce but are still living in the same house due to finances. I don't want him here, but it kills me he is with her.
This pain is almost unbearable. I looked at the bottle of sleeping pills my doc gave me and wondered how many it would take to end it. I can't believe he abandoned me like this.

My father had many wise and useful sayings. One of them was, "If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you've married a man who cheats on his wife."

That's true. If he cheated on her, he'll cheat on you, no matter what he tells you that's different.

Guys are ********!!! With me we had a baby at 17 got married at 20 then divorced by my 22nd birthday. He said he didn't love me anymore and he wanted to be single. Then I found a picture of this *****!! "oh she's just a FRIEND" my ***!!!! I was devastated I couldn't even get up I got so depressed I thought of suicide:( but I couldn't think like that I have a daughter to take care of. Later on some of my family members told me they had seen him with that girl. It hurt really bad, especially cuz we still see each other for our daughter. So now I'm 25 and was doing so good when he tells me he never stopped loving me. He wants to get back together. I don't know what to do. I still love him but I don't want to go through that again.

I could have written this story, with very minor differences. We lasted 20 years before he left. And it took his leaving, and the way he did it, and his girlfriend's actions and comments, for me to finally realize that, I, too, had been the "other woman" 20 years before. When we met he told me that he was separated and she had already filed for divorce. The circumstances of our meeting lent credence to that (but that's fodder for another story). For 20 years I deluded myself. When he did it to me, besides being shattered both emotionally and financially, I began to question everything that I had been for the past 20 years. I now have to acknowledge that I was, in fact, the other woman, although I never intended to be. Just as I have to acknowledge that the current "other woman," now his wife, probably didn't believe that she was, either. She, like, me, likely believed whatever "horror stories" he has shared with her. Two years later I'm still picking up the pieces, and still, two years later, will be caught suddenly off-guard by the out-of-the-blue thought, "He left me!" accompanied by that sickening adrenaline swoop, followed by numbness.

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