My Husband Had An Emotional Online AffairI recently confirmed red flag feelings I'd had for several months about my cheating husband. He was having an emotional affair with some woman in Wa. He confessed to everything, cut all ties with her but I still can't cope some days.
We've been together 13 years, we have 5 kids 10 years old and under. He said it started as "roll playing" in facebook yoville, moved to IMVU and yahoomsnskype messengers. He has web cam'ed her, sent her text messeges, emails, voice chatted her. He had the nerve to say "it was something that started off as a silly game in yoville for pretend and got out of hand". She's seen him naked, he's sent her pictures of his genetalia (5 in total) and she wasn't the only one he had "flings" with. I know of three women.
I confronted him with all the evidence on January 12th 2011. It's been a little over a month. Yes, I chose to stay and work it out but only for the kids sake. None of our family know about any of this.
She knew his work schedules, he used work cell phone to text her. She's called my house. I'm still so full of rage, so spiteful and resentful right now. Some days I can't stand looking at him. I hate her with a passion because she has NO repercussions from any of this at all, her husband has no idea what happened and now she's pursueing another man in IMVU. Their mutual friends from yoville have said "he should have protected his relationship with her better" and "what about your yoville inventory". I sent, through a friend, all the evidence to her husband because 1. I wanted revenge (I'll admit that, I'm a big girl) and 2. He had the ultimate right to know what she was and is doing behind his back.
She treated me like the other woman instead of the other way around and he won't admit to being more emotionally involved with her than he cares to think about and has not ONCE said I'm sorry yet. Those two things are what make it worse, make it harder to move forward and I can't move forward until she gets what she deserves - to be outed and he finally admits to being in love with her more than "just a game that got out of control" and finally actually says out loud "I'm sorry". There you have it, the beginning of my journey of something I never thought I'd ever have to experience.
NorthernOntarioMama 31-35, F 36 Responses 9 Feb 16, 2011