Beware Of Fornicators (for Maybe The Younger Women And Men).

It takes work to make a relationship good. Both parties have to want it.
Sometimes, the relationship doesn't last long.

Perhaps it is worth reminding that when one has low self-esteem, and a bad self-image, one grasps other people's partners because one is not capable of doing that for oneself.

This is just an appeal to the younger people maybe. Women and men, please think about the children of the married partner you want to fornicate with. It is easy to screw around (go on holiday with the married partner, on a weekend, late night - on the pretext of you're working at the office, etc.) and women (and men) with low self esteem will prey on your partner.

Be super aware of this.

Women - make sure that you accompany your men whenever you can. Be carefully groomed, and attractive to YOUR spouse. Ditto men.

Because if you trust your partners, you cannot trust those who crawl around the earth, looking for a partner to fornicate with and break up your partnership.

They will tell you lies that your relationship was over already (not true - there can always be difficulties - don't add any more).

And for those who think that they are GREAT because they have gotten away with this so far, remember that there is a price tag for everything in life. And what you get away with, your children might not.

So brag if you have to. Some of us have a sense of honour and decency and still can say "no" when fornicators approach us (there's something about decent women/men saying "no" that wakes people up........sometimes......).

This weekend, out with a group of people, I was approached by a fornicator. His wife was at home, looking after the children. (I'm assuming they are his :o). Trusting him maybe. He was attractive, and seemed kind enough. He got the "no" and it stunned him into the sulks. So then he went home, to a presumably unsuspecting wife.* (I had asked him if he was married, and where his wife was).

I could easily have said "yes". And could have bragged at how G R E A T I am by managing to have (cheap) sex with a married man. It's really easy actually. You just say "yes", and undress and fornicate. Rabbits do it too.

My apologies to those (unqualifiables) who still think they are a good catch. Personally, I'd throw them back.
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5 Responses Aug 21, 2012

Well said, stephaniebis. And well done.

This makes me laugh to read it again, LOL. I find it so funny how people find old stories and comment or rate them up randomally, which I guess what I am doing but only cause it showed up in my recent activity.

I love the idea that following your spouse around like a kicked puppy and trying to force yourself to look attractive will discourage cheating, it won't!

If my man wants another girl, fine have fun with that. He will come home to me at the end of the night.

I never lacked doubts, Gods above, I was raised well. I know cheating is wrong. I was just insane and stupid, please don\'t think my \"newfound clarity\" has ANYTHING to do with you.

You don\'t understand, my man likes me best in nothing but one of his t-shirts, he despises makeup, and the idea of anyone being so insecure to think they need it.

If I wear makeup its for me, no one else.

If he changes his mind, fine, I wish him happiness.

Oh I reread your message, it made it seem like I am in adulterous relationship, I am not. He is single and was when I met him, I left my marriage when I realized I wanted to pursue something with someone else.

I did not call you either of those things. I said your beliefs were laughable, they are to me.

I interpreted what you said in context in which it was written to mean made up.
I was stating my man\'s belief on makeup not mine. I like to play with makeup but rarely wear it...I don\'t need to.

I reread my reply and yours to ensure what I wrote was coheirent.

Yes I made a spelling error *gasp* does that mean I am incapable of reading or thinking? No it just means I was too lazy to bother fixing it.

I will stop childishly pushing buttons if you will. I shouldn\'t have posted on your story, especially not to laugh at you. I just find the idea of appearance being able to save a marriage to be silly at best. Also it promotes a falsehood that men don\'t cheat on hot girls.

I just tried to make amends and apologize.

Your welcome. I do have a clarity I lacked when I was in the middle of my affair. I don\'t like hurting people, sorry if my comments hurt you.

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Just as an FYI, fornicator is someone who has sex outside of marriage, it is not interchangeable with adulterer; which is I think the word you meant to use. Adulterer is someone who is married and has sex with someone else. All adulterers are fornicators but not all fornicators are adulterers.

So you have a problem with people having informed, consensual sex? Even if none of them are in other relationships?

Then you should use the term adultery because fornication doesnt apply.

Okay, it's not the correct word but thats on you

Very well said

I do trust my wife and her myself. We have been happily married for 23 Years and have NEVER thought of cheating. I have always said "if you even think of cheating you are with the wrong person to start with"

Awesome, lingerieme

My Wife is Cabin Crew for British Airways. This week she is in Beunos Aries for 5 days. We have been together for 25 years and I find Trust is the most important thing :-) I could go Mad with Jealousy without Trust

Yes she is a Decent Lady. When younger I used to Quiz her after every trip. Cannot have been nice for her. Now I just think of her as "At Work" and never ask. Was a difficult thing to do at first but OK now.

Well said stephaniebis. God gave His laws the Ten Commandments to protect us all. " Thou shall not commit Adultery" is as big a protectin as when we tell our children. " Look both ways before crossing the street, don't run out in front of a car." Children may not understand "why" their parents are saying this but should listen and obey. And we may not like or understand why in a world where anything goes our Father in Heaven saids " stop don't" but as His created children we and others would be much happier and safer if we would just stop, look to Him and obey. Thank you for sparing that wife and their children Pain and heart ache and yourself a possible STD by saying NO to that fornicator.

Thank you for trusting your wife. Isn't it what is the emotional glue in a relationship? :)

Also stephaniebis, it puts the idea in their head to act that way and eventually a partner may say " Why not he/she doesn't trust me anyway?"

Oh my Saint Stephanie had impure thoughts! How tragic!

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