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IM Am Stressed Out

After my wife cheated on me i just dont think i can be normal again.i forgave her,but i cant forget.my mind wont let me.i hate that she did this to me but i love her so  much i forgive her.i question if i really forgiver her though because sometimes i still get mad when she mentions the guy.being that they work together doesnt make it any easier
SINISTERMEMPHISTO SINISTERMEMPHISTO 26-30, M 22 Responses Jan 9, 2007

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I don't think a person who has been the victim of a cheater ever gets over it. It has been three years since my ex left me for another woman, and although I don't want him back, I find that I am much more careful now. I don't give a lot of second chances. I can be overly suspicious. I don't accuse, but if I don't hear from my b/f, I get very scared.



Does this every go away? I don't know. I hope, for all of our sakes, it does, but I don't know.

FEEDBACK 56 U JUST TAKE YA TIME AND BE YOURSELF.I HAVE MET GIRLS.IN THE BEGINING I WORRIED I WOULD BE ALONE.IM ALONG WAY FROM THAT POINT NOW.HANG N THEYRE!!

My wife cheated on me, and it's tearing me up. I'm trying to find another woman, but i'm not rich so it's hard to attract women. But Sinistermephisto -- i feel you, man. There's a lot of us out here who are on your side. It isn't your fault -- it's your skankyass girlfriend's fault.

i agree.once a cheater always cheater.cut ya losses and go.damn cheatears really destroy everything.

I was cheated on with my current bf i did forgive him but i feel like i shouldn't' i honestly believe that i deserve better. i ask my self why am i still with this dude. He was having sex with my next door neighbor. I Know the relationship will never be the same again. I always will remember what he did. so i think when a person cheats that they should just separate. There will never be any trust again. It is hard to leave sometimes when you invested so many years into a relationship but in the end if he really loved me he would of never cheated.

I was cheated on with my current bf i did forgive him but i feel like i shouldn't' i honestly believe that i deserve better. i ask my self why am i still with this dude. He was having sex with my next door neighbor. I Know the relationship will never be the same again. I always will remember what he did. so i think when a person cheats that they should just separate. There will never be any trust again. It is hard to leave sometimes when you invested so many years into a relationship but in the end if he really loved me he would of never cheated.

i think scumbags stay scumbags!!!

Her lover died? What did he die of? ****** rot?

kitten me and the wife been seperated sind sept 27th '07

if she is still working with him and she still mentions him she may still be seeing him. Maybe it is time to start your life over without her. Trust me I know it hurts and I know you love her but she either changes jobs and never sees him again or it will happen again and you can never be happy. I'm sorry your going through this,

hopscotch idk but my wife's lover died and now she's all alone

btw---this women was not very good in bed...not adventurous and pridictable...why would he waste all of his 20's into his 30's with this hag?

I am currently dating someone who was sleeping with his older, much older boss (in her 50's) for the last 10 years...she has a husband and 3 kids (poor family) The poor husband does not know anything and it makes me mad that his selfish pig boss and my current guy have gotten away with this. I have been cheated on several times, I have never done that to someone. It makes me mad at my current man and disgusted that he behaved this way...the affair started when he was 23 and she was 47, I think she should have been an adult..my guy was still working with her and sleeping with her but on a yearly basis opposed to a weekly one...I have a hard time dealing with his past...is this unfair of me...I despise this women and have zero respect for her..I have always believed in Karma until this situation..this women has gotten away with this...10 years...poor husband...is it unfair for me to feel malice towards my guy? Is the statement true, once a cheat, always a cheat...we have different views on cheating and affairs...what to do??? I have looking at my guy and thinking he was a scumbag...what do you guys think?

THANX

congrats to u !!!!!

its cool......i just seperated sunday

oh wow...should have looked at the dates...my OOPS



Good for you...keep pluggin

i do forgive her.i just wanna move on.most of these stories are real old.she been hurting me since last june.im so over this .not completely..but enough to have my sanity.

Sinister....open with saying that i have been on both sides of this fence...I dont hide my mistakes I own them. that said.



You feel you forgave but havent forgotten...you will go through that cycle many times.



In the end I hope you forgive her for your sake. Forgiveness heals our hearts. It isnt done for the person who hurt us. It is done for ourselves.



You deserve to heal...forgive her for YOU!

dont worry about the pain bro.we seperated now and i could care less what that ***** does,lol

i know how u feel ive ben cheated on and i have cheated but nothing like intercorse just one kiss for both or us .. and even that was hard to forget even though i forgot .. i wouldnt be able to bare it i wouldnt be able to fully forgive the person honestly and thats y i would have to leave the relationship will never ever be the same .. im sorry if im being hard but i know its something that changes people in a bigger way then they realize dont blame urself though .. good luck and im sorry about all the pain

I forgave, but I never forgot..I tried to forget for two years. The pain remains. The memories stay. and your throat will always be sore from unshed tears... love huh..good 4 u.