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Misophonia?

"Misophonia, literally “hatred of sound”, is a form of decreased sound tolerance, also known as Selective Sound Sensitivity Syndrome or 4S.... misophonia is specific for certain sounds." Also, "People who have misophonia are most commonly annoyed, or even enraged, by the sound of other people eating, breathing, coughing, or other ordinary sounds." (from Wikipedia)

I was told by a counselor, when I was around 14, that I sounded like I had misophonia, although she might have been joking. It's not something that is really diagnosed. But the minute I said, "the sound of others chewing doesn't just annoy me, it makes me feel angry. I want to yell at them - why can't you learn to chew quietly, politely!?"

When I was 6, I would cry at the dinner table because my brother chewed with his mouth open. When my sister would scrape her fork across her plate (sometimes on purpose), I would scream and cover my ears. Certain sounds, like cash registers opening and chalk on the board at school, would drive me insane. As I got older, I learned to deal with it and now I am pretty good at tuning out sounds. Sometimes, however, I will be startled at work by my cash drawer opening. The only sound I can't tune out though is chewing. It drives me insane.

Gum is a horrible invention. I feel like Willy Wonka - gum is gross and annoying. The sounds that come from people's mouths and jaws is revolting and yet, totally excepted. Why is it polite to chew what is essentially human cud in public? Sick.
mish36 mish36 18-21, F 72 Responses Aug 14, 2010

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Finding this is amazing... I've always felt like there was something wrong with me (as most of you said). People who don't experience this simply don't understand; it's not just finding it annoying etc... you actually want to scream or burst into tears and feel like you will go crazy if you can't get away from the noise. I'm pretty easy-going... but when I hear triggers like coughing, chewing, I feel like I won't be able to keep myself from screaming if I can't get away. It actually feels like it's hurting my ears and I physically flinch. <br />
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The worst is that I adore my DH, but he is a very loud mouth breather, lip-smacking eater, and also has a chronic cough. I've tried to get him to go to a doctor for the cough but he says it's not a problem. I've tried to politely ask him if he realizes he's breathing loudly or chewing loudly, but he says he's trying to be quiet. I even asked my doctor to change my antidepressant because I thought maybe that would help, but it didn't. When I've gone to counseling, they say to do breathing exercises and mental activities like muscle relaxation techniques, but it's hard to do things like that while you're eating dinner with your family. I absolutely hate to think of hurting someone's feelings and I'm always worried about what people think or feel. <br />
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Well I know anyone who's reading this is likely in the same boat and I'm not sure what we can do for it, but it has helped to see I'm not alone and not necessarily a selfish jerk of a person for feeling this way, and even helps to write it all out. Well, good luck to all you S4'ers... we should have t-shirts!

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Wow, I really thought it was me. This has in a lifelong issue for me. actually Became an ongoing joke with my family. Has caused issues in relationships, because I can't stand the sound of someone chewing, slurping or anything involved with eating. Got pretty good about not saying anything but deep down I really wanna scream.

Ive had this too, comments all feel like I've written them. I wonder, if its not just 'miso'phonia (hate)sound but like... sensitivity to emotionally react to a sound. I just wondered if anyone has heard of ASMR or does anyone experience it? If you don't know, it stands for Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response, and on YouTube there is a massive community of people who make videos containing 'relaxing sounds' and people who experience ASMR listen and get this head tingly kind of relaxation. These videos contain anything from whispering in the microphone to making tapping sounds on a wooden table.

I was totally shocked by the fact that I actually liked hearing the sounds of people talking, as I knew how anger-sensitive I was to things like that. Turns out there are all kinds of sounds that do all kinds of things :/

I am a big breathing sounds hater and I get way too pissed off with heavy breathers among other things, but I experience ASMR. Try YouTube it and listen to one of the videos, see if you feel insanely relaxed or get head tingles or whatever.

Just wondered if there was any similarities here with you guys because I've heard of people who listen to ASMR videos complaining about very specific sounds in the comments section, and I just thought omg that's so similar to the way I felt about that sound, for example, some people HATE chewing gum sounds (this is a massive hit in the ASMR community), some LOVE it. (I'm a hater lol)

Comment back, it'd be interesting to see what you think!

Wow I Found the non talking videos really relaxing, really annoyed by the sound of someone whispering. Thanks

I have had this since I was a teenager, I'm now 44. I feel the same rage and want to scream and cry and run out of room. It started with my Mum and I would leave the dinner table half way through meals to go to the toilet to hope she had finished by the time I cam back. I couldn't stand being around the dogs eating or licking themselves. I find some people don't bother me as much as others. I can't go out to the cinema because of people eating pop corn etc. I will go for a curry sometimes but usually try and go early as popodums make me want to go and hit the person eating.
I'm relieved to read I'm not the only person who suffers from this. But has anyone found a cure?

Gosh I thought I was the only person who was disgusted at the same things. Good to know I'm not alone in this hatred of gum chewing, chewing food loudly, slurping food, etc. Even looking at people chewing gets me insane.

Like some of you, I had no idea this even existed, let alone happens to other people. Glad to know I'm not the only one.

I sleep in a different bedroom than my husband. He hates it, but I'd rather sleep apart than try to smother the crap out of him while he's laying there peacefully snoring away. Any snoring drives me from sane to absolutely totally wacko with rage in 2 seconds flat.

People chewing gum openly, and eating with smacking, ugh... Just want to take the food and shove it down their throats.

The licking / chewing sounds dogs make when cleaning or scratching themselves (sometimes they 'chew' instead of digging with their paws). Dogs chewing on chew toys, hate it. When that happens, I either leave the room or use ear plugs or get on the dogs. If I get on them, they'll leave the room and continue licking somewhere else.

I have a question for you guys, especially regarding the dog licking. Even if I can't actually hear them, but I see them licking or if they're in the bed with me and digging, scratching, licking, etc. it drives me nuts. It's almost like I can hear it in my head.

Realistically, the TV could be turned up so high, it would be impossible to hear them, but it still irritates the crap out of me.

And for those of you who know someone who has this issue, please PLEASE by all means, IF something is happening that would normally bother me, but for whatever miraculous reason I don't hear it, DON'T make me aware of it. I don't want to know!! My husband will tell me, 'Oh, I'm surprised that's not bothering you.' Well guess what! It is now. Thanks babe!

Forgot to ask my question, anyway.. if you can't actually hear a specific sound that would normally bother you, yet you see it or know it's happening, does it bother you?

Wow, I thought I was the only one in the world like this. Reading your statements, mirrored my life, down to the part about sitting at the table crying, beacause the chewing sounds was making me insane.

I just watched a show on Dr. Phil about this and I can't believe there are others who suffer from this. I can't take the sound of lip smacking, sniffing, coughing, or the sound of a pencil on paper. My daughter was eating popcorn one kernel at a time today and I seriously wanted to choke her. The rage is horrible. Now that we have found each other what can we do about it. I really can't take it when I'm in a restaurant and kids are talking loudly, it makes me crazy. I wish there were support groups for us.

It's a relief to read all of your posts about this weird thing that plagues all of us. I mainly have these problems when it comes to my co-workers. People constantly tap their feet, cough and clear their throats, drum on their desks and whistle all day. I feel badly about it because it's just things they do everyday that they don't even notice, so I know I'm just being a pain in the ***, but I keep it inside my head, which drives me even more insane. It's like you can't tell them to stop because you will be the crazy one, and you know you're just being picky about every little noise. I do believe it's the repetition, though. 8+ hours a day and five days a week is too much for me sometimes, but I have to somehow learn to deal with it.

When you guys are talking about the loud chewing, to me that's mostly bad manners. Chewing like a cow is crossing the social line for me. Clearing your throat and whistling a little now and then is one thing, but slapping your mouth open and shut while you chew is the WORST. That's on them and I know I'd wind up telling them, "Okay, you HAVE to stop that." Blegh.

I can't stand it my dad is eating now and I had to go to my room because I was getting soooooo annoyed!

can someone help me? It makes me so angry when people chew, like before my sister was eating an Apple so loud I had to sit in another room,it mkes me wana cry, all when people bteathe ,make noises, or when my mum talks too loud and too much it feels like I'm going to cry it irritates me so much, and I get so impatient and anxious

It would be interesting to see if there is a relationship between attention deficit disorder (ADD) and misophonia. It would obviously be considered normal to be distracted by and have one's thoughts interrupted by a smashing cymbal inches from one's ear. It is obviously not accepted as normal to be distracted and having one's thoughts interrupted by someone whispering on the other side of the room. William Glasser wrote, Positive Addiction, and spoke of the benefits of running, sweeping, and meditating as they all monotonous/non-distracted states that allow your brain to spin free enhancing problem solving abilities. The converse is being repeatedly distracted so your brain cannot wander and problem-solve. Imaging trying to add a long column of numbers in your head while someone pops gum, kisses, or whispers. Sound like a familiar feeling?

Absolutely! I do some work as a sound technician and I was trying to work out a problem with a soundboard. Meanwhile the person I was helping was smacking gum the entire time. It took me about 15 minuets to solve a 2 minuet issue.

My wife pointed out that I have misophonia. She knows my triggers, but the problem is she doesn't care and tells me to figure out a way to deal with it ... not exactly encouraging. I have all the usual triggers (gum chewing, random breathing sounds, rubbing of fingers, biting fingers) but I feel like I have super triggers (all of which my wife does): chewing ice, scraping a fork on a plate to get food then scraping it on her teeth when eating, tickling our kids off and on for 30+ minutes at a time, and the worst one, putting salt on a plate, then taking raw vegetables and rubbing it on the plate to get the salt.
I know having misophonia is difficult on her, but at the same time, she is not cutting me any slack.
Advice?!?!?!

It boils down to repetition ...

OMG, thank you...there is a name for it. Even at a birthday dinner, my ex and her children and entire family would chew as if they were cows and I actually had enough and got up from the table, removed my plate and went upstairs to eat in piece. Not many sounds annoy me. Chewing with your mouth open actually drives a me to grab a baseball bat.

I hate when my brother breaths. And the disgusting little ***** eats with his mouth closed. I ask him nicely but he keeps doing it. When the "thing" sighs it ****** me off so much I feel murderous rage. I want to get over it but I can't find a way how.

I get so angry when my mom chews gum. I'm really annoyed by the sound. And, she chews gum ALL THE TIME!!

Same!!! It is so nice to know I'm not alone.

Gum is defiantly the worst for me but is followed very very closely by slurping and gulping.

I have learnt to control my response but it enrages me! I imagion shoving the teacup down their throat!

I thought I was the only one in the world with this condition. I suffer everyday. I literally have to cover my ears when people gulp drinks and chew food. I cant even eat with my child at the table because I don't want him to become like me.

What about hypnosis to help ignore those sounds? I think I may have to try that because it isn't the fault of anyone else because they like to eat. I hope it helps because I would like to be normal for once. like to

I hate a lot of things. I hate when my dog licks himself, when people chew food/gum, when people cough, sniffle, sneeze, when my mom drags her slippers against the floor, when people sing under their breath, kissing, and the visual of people fidgeting. My friend chews gum and sings all the time! She thinks I'm rude cuz I tell her to stop all the time but she drives me nuts. If someone sneezes or coughs a lot I literally don't like them as a person. I have wanted to kill so many people it's insane.

I second all of these feelings too! I just left the kitchen because my mother has learned to smack her lips in her older age and I can't stand it! I just get so enraged.

After reading a lot of these responses, I wonder if it has anything to do with general bad manners. I've noticed that when I sit at dinner with people with decent table manners I am not as enraged.

Eating manners (chewing gum, snacking etc.) are kind of lacking in society right now. People stopped teaching their children how to eat like a human being. My nephews sometimes come over for dinner and I can't be there. I've actually avoided family gatherings because no one is teaching them good manners. So they chew with their mouth open, burp, etc. It's gross.

I'm just throwing this out there, because once I was at a restaurant and a guy was stuffing his mouth to the point he could barely chew. That pissed me off too. I couldn't hear him...but just the way he was behaving was unacceptable in a public setting.

But yeah, I can't be around dogs eating either, and I love dogs :0(

I feel you; I feel like most of my triggers come from people simply being rude and not being respectable. I mean, my wife and I were on a cruise with my family; we paid extra to eat one night in a fancy steak restaurant, and she started chewing ice from her ice water! I actually feel like part of misophonia is the higher intellect of this world having an automatic response to things that people in society should not do!

Oh my gosh, I'm not alone. I just left the other room because the sound of my son eating his popcorn while I was washing dishes was angering me. I had already asked him several times to eat quietly and was afraid that I was about to scream at him. I have been disgusted by the sound of people eating for as long as I can remember. 20 years ago, I was hospitalized for anorexia and was told by doctors that the noisesbothered me so much because I was hungry and secretly resented people who are eating. Sounded good at the time. I have been healthy since and eat at least three square meals a day, yet the sound of people eating still makes my blood boil. Now the explanation doesn't fit. Other noises that bother me are the sound of my dog licking herself clean and people kissing ( not pecks, but wet sloppy kissing - I cover my ears in movies during romantic parts so I don't have to hear the disturbing sound) I am tensing up and clenching my teeth just thinking about it now. What really bothers me most is when I get so angry at the people I love (like my son) . I wish I culd control it. Nobody that I know seems to understand

I can't stand people that eat popcorn one popcorn at a time.

Holy cow! An actual phobia. I am so offended by my DH chewing/crunching I leave the room or try to find a way to make noise to drown it out. Oh, and lucky me, he just bought a whole back of Tootsie Pops. Hell on earth! I took a shower just to get away from that.

I have the same problem...the sounds certain people make eating sends me over the edge! Particularily my husband unfortunately is one of them. If he eats potato chips next to me on the couch I feel like I'm going to scream with rage..he cruches them loudly with his mouth open..smacks his lips, and when he's finally done eating, makes all these 'sucking' sounds to get the crumbs out from between his teeth! I usually have to get up and leave without telling him what's bothering me. I can't tell him..he'll think I'm nuts! A girl at work who used to be in the cubicle next to me would eat carrot sticks and I'd have to put my iPod in to drown it out because I would focus so much on the gross sound of her chewing and crunching! I actually feel myself becoming agitated.

I believe that the reason chewing sounds create a rage reaction, and a flight response, is because the disorder is neurological. In other words, in late childhood, there is a developmental change in the brain. The brain begins to incorrectly assess certain signals. I believe that the brain begins to evaluate chewing sounds as danger!, and more importantly, as Pain! Not the sensation of pain, but the deep unpleasantness of pain. you can read more about it on www.sound-rage.com

That actually sounds really accurate. When I was about 10, a little before I was diagnosed with this problem, I met my Step Dad. He was absolutely rude to me, my siblings, and mother. And his kids had caused nothing but pain between our family. Also, he chewed extremely loud, and that was the first thing I noticed about him. Ever since then, I've associated the sound of chewing with anger and depression.

Me too, nobody else in my family has it it makes me depressed and angry and sad and then I have too leave and eat alone and everyone teases me about it!

I agree 100%. Try listening to hacks, and chewing on a south Florida transit bus in 91 degree weather. Enraged doesn't justify the hatred. Yea buddy, take a taste of my life....