We Were Wrongly Accused Of Not Feeding Our Son.In February of 2009 my youngest son, who was two and ten months old was taken from us by DCFS. Their allegations were me and my husband were not feeding him and not caring for him properly.He does have some medical conditions; his main diagnosis is failure to thrive, but the doctors at LAC-USC Medical Center still cannot figure out why he has developmental and growth delays. It was not this hospital that called DCFS, but this "therapist" a developmental interventionist who had weekly sessions with our son in our home> She decided that me and my husband were'nt taking proper care of our son. We had this horrible social worker, who instead of properly doing her job tried to play psychiatrist with me claiming I was showing symptoms of everything from Munchhausen's syndrome by proxy to Bi-Polar disorder. The hospital wrote down in my sons medical records that I have a history of Anorexia Nervosa without any type of evaluation or exam. I am very small and petite (Size one) so the just assumed it!! Right now my son is living in foster care with my"sister" who is giving us one hell of a fight to get him home.( DCFS generally prefers to place children in foster care with immediate family or other relatives,rather than with "strangers", I guess they feel this is the best for the child) She and my mother who passed away last year claimed that they would work with us to have our son returned to our custody; instead she turned Completely against us!!!She is single and has no kids, yet she thinks she is the expert on children and families because she has a degree in child development. She feels that me and my husband are unfit to be parents and has called DCFS twice on us about our ten year old son who has no medical problems. My so-called 'sister' keeps reporting debasing and derogatory things abut us to the social worker, he reports to the court and his supervisors so DCFS is reluctant to return our son home. I have heard from other parents involved with DCFS that if you comply with the court and social worker your child is returned to the parents. I know of true abuse and neglect cases and the child has been returned home. But my 'sister' is just a mean spirited and miserable person; I think she is jealous of me and my husband. She does not like him at all because for one he won't take her BS and he is Vietnamese. He also has a disability, partially visual impaired that she is using against him.She has used very offensive and racist remarks about him in the presence of our son who is now almost five years old and picks up repeats what is said around him. DCFS and the Court is mostly concerned with our son's physical and emotional well being, but what about living in a home where the caretaker is full of hate and jealousy, AND IS AN ABUSIVE ,MEAN CONTROL FREAK!! and and says horrible, and debasing, things about the parents especially the father? ( NOW THAT SHOULD BE CONSIDERED CHILD ABUSE) True our son has improved medically with my "sister" but emotionally and psychologically I don't know. When ever we visit with him in her presence there is so much tension it makes both our son and us uncomfortable.Whenever we bring him Vietnamese or other Asian foods she looks at us with disdain and disgust!! I don't know what her problem is, she has dragged this case along for over a year putting us through a living hell including falsely accusing us of using drugs, me having a drinking problem( neither me nor my husband do!) putting us through TWO TRIALS , calling DCFS two times about our older son so she could try to have him removed from our custody and attempting to split me and my husband up , talking BS to others( including other family members; she even gave the children's court and DCFS information to contact an aunt who was very abusive and cruel to me when I was a child; this aunt locked my in my bedroom for at least 7 hours on more than one occasion!! The reason she gave the court and DCFS this persons contact information was because I was in "special education" when I was a child and this former '''aunt" attended my IEP meeting.I don't know what this has to do with the present , she is just being a *****!! ) about us and going through DCFS reports and reports from others including our Psychological evaluation and using this against us, THEN SHE SAT ON THE WITNESS STAND AND TESTIFIED AGAINST US AND LIED!! It should be obvious to DCFS and The Children's Court that this woman has a strong bias and Dislike for me and my husband yet they go along with her BS. Our family reunification has been terminated because of her, yet the judge has yet to make a final decision, we have seval months to complete the rest of the court ordered case plan. JUST WHAT TYPE OF FAMILY DOES THESE HORRIBLE THINGS TO EACH OTHER?AND SHE THINKS SHE IS THE "EXPERT" ON HUMAN NATURE!!! Right now we aren't even speaking to her, my husband wants to cut all ties to her and my family once we get out of this mess; at this point I feel this is a good idea, we just need to get our son back in our custody! Is it right that a child should be living in a foster home if the caretaker is full of hate and a racist, even if the caretaker is "family"? (my "sister" lives with my brother and my dad in my parents home) In addition to this mess we also have to appear at the Court of Appeals in Los Angeles (1/4/2011) to see if we can appeal the judges decision about family reunification and and also appear back at the Children's Court in February to see if the judge will make a final decision about whether our son should come home to us or be placed with that *****! We will fight to have him returned to us! I don't think it a pleasant environment where he lives!! Our next court date is 2/17/11, a couple of weeks from now, the judge could decide to TERMINATE OUR PARENTAL RIGHTS !! AND IT IS ALL BECAUSE OF THAT SICK DEPRAVED SPINSTER ***** WHO FOR WHAT EVER REASON HATES ME AND MY HUSBAND!!
I wonder if all of this grief she has caused us makes her feel good about herself?( she is the kind of person who enjoys bringing grief and problems to others and enjoys watching their pain)
Everyone that I know that hears this story believes she is jealous and envious of the fact that I am married with two children, she is single, and alway has been!!, ANY ONE CAN SEE WHY!! LOL, has no children of her own at all, and has NEVER been in any kind of a relationship.I also appear several years younger than her, ( I am 44 she is 41.) She get s infuriated when people think that I am their younger sister!!! She keeps denying that she is jealous, getting very nasty and defensive whenever I mention this, claiming how could I believe that and I am listening to my husband and our "weird" friends ( As she refers to them, she disapproves of every one that I know.!!!) As I have said earlier in this story I am very slender and petite,size one, physically active and in good health, she is very overweight , has shortnessof breath, is out of shape and has great difficulty getting up of the floor as well as sitting down at my sons level.
The most disgusting thing about this is our son is caught in this mess, and our oldest son who is home with us, is totally DISGUSTED WITH HER AND WHAT SHE PUT US THROUGH, in fact he dosn't even want to speak to her, and who could blame him!