Motherhood Is Not An Ambition
My older half-sister is an idiot who has three adult children who don't respect her. Why? She was never there for them while they were growing up. It was more important for her to get to the next party, the next drug and her next drink. She's always had a problem with me because I refused to finance her lazy lifestyle, but even more than that was because I didn't join her in her misery and have children. If I did have children, I would have had them all by one man, not three, like she did.
One of her kids, her second daughter, has four kids because like her mother, she constantly makes poor choices in men and doesn't believe in birth control. Several years ago, my niece made a comment to me that indicated that I was getting old and I should "just go ahead" and have a kid. So I can join her on the just-above-poverty-line she's been on since she had her first out-of-wedlock sprog? I don't think so.
My own mother, who admitted to my younger siblings and I that she only had kids because she was married, was on me about providing grandchildren to her. "Are you going to help take care of them?" I asked, knowing full well she wouldn't. She kept hoping for the day we all turned 18 so she could legally put us out of her house. After I had made one too many comments about not appreciating the annoying, foolish, etc. things that kids do, Mom snapped, "Okay, we all know you don't like kids!" She's just mad because she can't be like the other old women who coo incessantly about their grandchildren. Oh, and she doesn't acknowledge my older half-sisters' kids, since my half-sister is not biologically her daughter.
I am so glad I don't have maternal instincts. I can't imagine wasting part of my life chasing motherhood than wasting the next part of it dealing with kid problems. My older half-sister can't comprehend being childfree because of her drug and alcohol muddled brain, and my mother is jealous of me because I was brave enough to follow through with a choice she wanted but didn't take.
Now I'm going through perimenopause. Haven't seen my period in months, and I don't miss it. Maybe now people will stop asking when I'll have kids or say things like, "Don't rule out ever having kids!" My biological clock has officially wound down, thank goodness!