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I Wish I Had Aborted Her.

I have come to the conclusion that motherhood is a biological trap. Your hormones make you irrational and drive you to procreate because no sane person would ever have kids otherwise. I hate my daughter who is now adult. I sacrificed, worked myself toward an early grave, and gave her everything within my means and she has turned into my greatest frustration and heartache. I did without so that she could have nicer things. I didn't take the risks in my career that I should have taken because I needed to provide stability for my kids. t can't trust her and all she wants is material things. She is hateful, mean and heartless. I really think that she is a sociopath or has some other deep seated mental disorder. The scary thing is that she is a nurse who hates people. All the love, sacrifice and financial strain; everything I did for this child was a waste. It was all for nothing. I wish i had had an abortion all those years ago. Thank goodness, I'm still young enough to have some kind of life.
kernan kernan 46-50 9 Responses Sep 8, 2012

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Hey Kernan. I am sorry about your situation. You sound like my late Aunt Helen. Your situation is identical to hers, except she enjoyed driving people insane, though she would never admit it.

This sounds cruel, but cut your loses. You have done your job as a mother and caretaker. You owe her nothing more. Hopefully, you are not expecting her to take care of you in your old age, because it won't happen. Go enjoy your life and let the ***** of a daughter to her own devices.

Hi Kernan. I'm Dianna. This is what happened with my Vo Marcy at one point. When she had her son Aiden, she wished she had aborted him because he could be very annoying, noisy, and he cussed a lot too. He was very hateful and didn't appreciate anything his mother bought for him. Little did Vo Marcy know that something was going on with Aiden in school.. She felt so guilty as he grew up. (She's 50 now and he's 24) He than never talked to a lot of people again. So it was one day when he was 17 she decided to ask him what's wrong. He told her everything and than said "Mom, you asked too late," than he opened the door back to his room and slammed it shut. She fixed the problem with another one of those "talks" and he told her sorry for what happened and that he was bullied at school.

You never know, Kernan..
She could've been molested, abused by a relative or sibling, ignored, or bullied like Aiden,

Dianna<3,

I can relate to what you have said. I was raped when I was 15 and I didn\'t tell my mother because I knew she would blame me for it. I\'m 27 now and I told her when we had a fight. She didn\'t react and didn\'t even acknowledge it so I was right I didn\'t tell her when I was 15. I really don\'t like my mother and we don\'t talk much. This is main reason why.

That must be really hard huh sweetie? I completely understand how you feel. It's not your fault. You did all you could. Now you just need to decide whether or not to confront her about all of this resentment.

OP, the fault lies mostly with you. You admit you "gave her everything". Since when does a child deserve "everything" without working for it? My parents didn't have much, and since I earned most of the money I had, knew the value of a dollar at an early age. Kids shouldn't be given "everything" as it turns them into selfish adults that think they "deserve" nice things. I'm sorry for your situation, I really am, but you are probably the root of the problem.

Wow, that was totally unsupportive. Maybe she meant, "I gave her everything I could within my means," which may not have been much.

Well, OP, children are a reflection of their parents, and I have to say your attitude sounds hateful enough! Take a look at yourself before throwing all your hate and frustration at your daughter. I see so many parents who can't stand their children in the same way, and I have to say that, as procreators, the joke's on you. I have no sympathy for your sort whatsoever.

I can tell you this, if you had ever experience having a child forcibly removed against your will from your body by a stranger who didnt care if you screamed. you would think twice about abortion, if you didnt want her there are plenty of people who would have adopted her. people who dont like kids really shouldent have them and should give them away to someone else who cant have kids.

I am so sorry she gives you so much grief. I am sure you had your good times with her through the years. You would not have surrendered yourself if there was not a blessing of love attached. I did abort mine.. I wish every single day that I did not. I regret it soo terribly. So trust me when I say the other road is not prettier. A life of regret sucks.

Not all women regret abortions. I had an abortion and I don\'t regret it one bit. I know a few women who feel the same way as me and none that regret it.

Sounds like you would have been much better off if you had aborted her. It's situations like yours that definitely show that abortion has its positives. Too bad you didn't know then what you know now so that you could have aborted her and had a better life without her being a burden to hold you back. I sincerely feel for you.

I've often said that humans are the smartest creatures in the universe. because any entity with even a bit more sense, would NEVER have offspring and would have died out as a species.<br />
I feel for you