Alpha Males.

I have never been comfortable with the term "alpha male" because it makes me think of wildlife documentaries where the alpha gets the pick of his mate (or mates) and has to fight to maintain his position. In the human race the latter of these may fit into a street gang scenario but otherwise both are out of place hence why the term does not sit well with me personally.



Anyhow the term is not going to vanish because of my stance so teeth gritted and on with my point. In addition to your well formed opinion here is my understanding of the human alpha male. They are born leaders due to their strength of character, consistency and reliability, people want to be on their side because it feels right. The most notable trait in my eyes is that they have no idea that everyone around them sees them as the "alpha". They are too busy humbly being who they are and getting on with providing support, solutions, companionship or whatever else they are called on to deliver. Whatever my views of the wording "alpha" is an accolade a person cannot give to themself and that makes all these people who bestow it on themselves seem rather laughable.

blehtolife, you get it. Being an "Alpha" male or female (and they do exist) is a mindset that forms part of the inner psyche. It cannot be learned. Interesting social experiment for you though. Group a bunch of "Alpha's" together and only some of those will rise within the group with one being the true "Alpha". To this extent, some people exhibit elements of the psyche and may be an alpha in some circles but put them in different circles and they might be way down the pecking order.

Blehtolife, you are so right, yes it is possible to learn how to 'act like' an alpha male....but being a true alpha male?? different story altogether. Unknnnnn.... Alpha males don't think like 'I can do whatever the **** I want' ......that is how arrogant males think...totally different!!!



I can't explain it but when you meet an Alpha, especially if you are a female who leans toward the submissive, it hits you like a truck, you can't miss it, ignore it or mistake it...believe me!!! I have met 2 REAL Alphas, the first I was just at work, in a supermarket, in walked this man....in his late 50's maybe, as soon as he said hello to me I knew there was something different about him, he walked with confidence and grace I have never seen, I found myself drawn to him, to ask if I could help with anything, It was like I had been brainwashed, all I wanted to do was please this guy. When he spoke his voice was gentle yet deep and eyes that seemed to penetrate right to my soul. I was mesmerized, it was such a bizarre sensation and he knew as well, he knew exactly what I was about, he knew I was a submissive and he knew the effect he was having on me. It was like every receptor in my body had gone into a frenzy, after he went I spent the whole day thinking about him.....all that from just a few minutes and a few exchanged words........I saw him again a day or so after, he said he looked forward to seeing me on his next trip over......unfortunately I lost my job before that could happen :-(



The second one, well totally Alpha and oh my word so handsome, but I couldn't handle the way he made me feel, he loved to play games. I used to have to see him quite a lot and watched other women's reactions to him, 80 per cent were the same, you could see it, like they weren't sure what just happened but they knew something had, just like the first time I met him. Sometimes I still bump into him, every time it hits me, I feel totally exposed in front of his gaze, he knows he could click his fingers and I would do anything to please him.



Alpha males to me are a phenomenon......I don't know if it is down to pheromones or something but your body reacts differently when you meet an Alpha. Dominant men aren't always Alphas by the way. Alphas are a rare breed, maybe that's why the are so distinctive.

That's the mindset of a loser.