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My Expectations Were Too High

While I was in high school, I imagined college would be this happy, fun place. Sure, it would be hard, but it would also be a lot of fun and more importantly NO DRAMA! But when I got here, boy was I wrong!

It started out great. I had a good group of friends within the first weekend. Everyone was friendly. As the days and weeks wore on, my new "friends" started ignoring me and blowing me off. I would hang out with them, but they wouldn't really talk to me. About halfway through the semester, we went to a dance club and I met this guy from our school and we started going out practically the next day. I was in an "open relationship" with my boyfriend from home, but they got all mad at me for cheating on him, though I didn't do anything with the new guy. They ignored me even more, but I didn't care as much because I had my new boyfriend. Then it was the weekend of my roommates birthday. Her parents had sent her money to take people out to eat and she took everyone in the group except for me because I had a boyfriend!

Thankfully I was able to find new people to hang out with, and I switched rooms because my roommate's boyfriend and I weren't getting along (long story). My new roommate and I were very close friends, but then she decided not to come back this semester. I got another friend to move in with me, but some crap happened on the boyfriend end of things. He broke up with me the day we came back from winter break because he didn't want to be in any relationship right now. That was ok with me really because it took away a lot of stress for me, and it was the fresh start of a new semester and all. We continued being good friends. Then, after returning to school I sensed something weird was up with him. It turns out, as he later told me, that he hooked up with this girl over the weekend, once drunk, once sober, though he didn't like her. She has sinced bullied me because she thinks him and I shouldn't be friends. Him and keep going on this roller coaster of getting along-fighting-getting along. For example, he is now "engaged" on Facebook to this girl who is friends with the girl he hooked up with.

Honestly, I get good grades and I don't really mind the classes, it's just I hate the people. I would like to go to a commuter school next year because college is too expensive and too important to have dumb people distract me from my schoolwork.

dancer2011 dancer2011 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 15, 2008

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That happened to me too! I had a group of friends then one of the girl's boyfriends came and he or she idk invented I was touching his leg and now they all hate me. I went home one weekend came back and boom. They are rude they ignore me make plans without me. Even my friends from home who come here hate me.

I didnt like college either. I really think its not for everyone. I would have quit and never gone back if Ihadnt wanted my degree so very badly. I'm in grad school now and it seems better than being an undergrad. People are focused on work and less on being drunk and stupid.

why do people suck so much. i'm in mid semester of my freshman year. it happened just the same. make a lot of new friends when u first show up, start to hate them, get into fights, people talk **** about you and then EVERYONE hates you. and then u end up alone at 4am, having already gained like 20 lbs, eating reese's pieces, and typing on this **** hole blog. GOD i hate my life. i'm all fat and ugly and i cut off all my hair for no reason and im broke and i have no friends and no life. this is seriously ******. **** EM ALL. they can go to hell!

Well at least you just dont get along with the other students, i dont care about that... i hate college because it is so hard!!! And I've always been an honor student, A's, and all that, and my gpa right now in college is 3.81... but still it started off easy during the general classes but then when i got into my program it became so stressfull and hard... i just have 1 year left, but still, sometimes I feel I'm not in control anymore, and I won't make it after all the effort and money I've spent.

I know how you feel. I came to college expecting to meet tons of cool people and have a great time. Instead, I've made it to the end of freshman year with no real friends and feeling terrible about myself as a person because everyone else seems to be having the time of their lives at college while I'm miserable. luckily I'm living with a friend from home next year so hopefully it won't be as bad. I'm really sorry and I hope your next year is better!

I know how you feel. I came to college expecting to meet tons of cool people and have a great time. Instead, I've made it to the end of freshman year with no real friends and feeling terrible about myself as a person because everyone else seems to be having the time of their lives at college while I'm miserable. luckily I'm living with a friend from home next year so hopefully it won't be as bad. I'm really sorry and I hope your next year is better!