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Why College Sucks

wow, where do i begin? i'm a freshman in college this year, and to sum up the experience in one word i'd say "awful," although that's putting it quite mildly. from stories i'd heard about college in the past, it sounded like a really great experience. i'm one of those people who enjoyed high school for the most part, so going on to college seemed like the next natural step.

i got into my first choice school and was pretty excited to get the school year going. not too long after i got here though, i started to see that everything i'd ever heard about college being great was totally WRONG! first of all, it's boring. and i'm not talking a little bit of idleness here and there. i mean painful, mind-numbing, IQ-reducing boredommmm. the time here goes by so slowly. the weekend takes a ridiculously long time to get here. and if you make the mistake of staying on campus for the weekend (at least at my school) be prepared for 48 fun-filled hours of nothing because my college is located in the middle of nowhere so there truly is nothing to do, on campus or off.

secondly, the people in general are ********. they're annoying and cliquey and behave worse than most middle-schoolers. basically, you always have to watch your back because you can't trust anyone around here. i don't feel like i'm a particularly hard person to get along with, but the bottom line is that me and most of these people just have nothing in common. they don't get me and i don't get them, period.

one of THE most horrific parts of it all is living in a dorm. it's a complete culture shock to anyone who's never lived away from home before. prior to college, i was used to having my own room and a decent amount of privacy, plus everything i needed within a comfortable reach. here, i just feel lonely and lost. the rooms are extremely dark and tiny, the bathrooms and showers are disgusting, and there is zero privacy. oh, and let's not forget the outrageous cost of all of this. for all the money, we're paying, you think we'd get better. it's basically like a long, painful camping trip that takes "roughing it" to new heights.

the one good thing i will say for college is that i have liked all my teachers thus far and gotten pretty good grades (although i sometimes don't apply myself as much as i could). my teachers have all been interesting people who are awesome at what they do and clearly care about their students. if it wasn't for them, i wouldn't have one positive thing to say about this place!

basically, college just isn't for me. it's a stressful, expensive, and just all feels pretty pointless. a big adjustment for most everyone who goes, and some people get used to it while others don't. i feel like i miss out on so, so much while i'm here. :( i'm really, really unhappy every day that i spend here, and it's just not good. :( however, i do not regret that i came. it's something i really wanted a year ago at this time, and now at least i know for sure that college sucks. if i hadn't taken the chance, then i wouldn't know. i'd recommend giving it a shot if you're curious. just because college hasn't worked out for me, it can't hurt to find out for yourself.

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College sucked for me too
Here it is for free and in the middle of the city, and i literally had to walk 2 minutes until the bus stop so it was a little less traumatic, but still sucked.

I got into college at 17, in the "opening ceremony" they gave us the schedule and it was great, no holes and no class on friday.

Then in the first class i was like "these people were all together in high school, no way" everyone talking and me alone as always. I met one guy, he was cool and we would talk about anything and everything. And that was the only person i met in my college "life".

In the first semester i had a deception already: philosophy classes (i was studying computer science). And they were so boring.

I went to a "freshman party" (i guess the only freshmen were me and 3 or 4 other people) i got drunk for the first time, drunk enough to be crazy but no to black-out, fortunately. Even though i was more sociable while drunk I didn't do anything in that party, actually. Didn't hit on any girl (I'm 20 today, never even kissed a girl and since 6th grade i dont talk to a girl), didn't meet anyone, i remember myself telling dirty jokes and that's all.

Then i went to a second party hoping for better results,but it sucked so bad, I couldnt get drunk because somehow alcohol started tasting terrible. I tried even drinking a soft drink, basically juice+alcohol but no way, i took a sip and UGH, tried again and almost puked, then i had no choice but spilling that in the toilet and flush down lol, 5 minutes later my presence there was totally forced and I went back home.

I had 6 classes and failed 2 of them. The classes felt so terrible, i wasnt studying 15 minutes a day at home because i'm too lazy.

Second semester starts, that cool guy i met simply became an enormous douche overnight (or overbreak), i knew he was lazy too and that his parents were spartans, so i thought"well he probably failed 3 classes or 4 and his parents f____d his b___t, it happens". Turns out he actually failed 4 of 6 classes lol. Then in the second day he was still a douche so, as the extremist that i am, i put him on my "ignore list" already, i'd rather be alone than in a bad company.

Not even 1 month of this second semester passed and I decided to quit, i have no idea how my parents accepted it and left me at home doing simply nothing but house chores, like 1 hour a day, and to be honest it was great, doing nothing feels so good.

One year later they say i was going back to college. ok.
This semester i had classes at 20:00h. That was so horrifying, those boring classes with a dozy professor saying bla bla bla for 100 minutes, getting home at 22:15h, terrible.

The lack of interest in classes was bigger than ever. Except for programming I guess i never said a single word in the other classes. In programming classes i was participative, actually, asking a lot of questions and all, but in the 3 days of the week I didn't have programming, i would simply stay 8 or 10 hours in that campus not saying a single word.

Then this semester ends and I fail 6 out of 6 classes. Highest grade was a 35. My parents have a "meeting" with me, if that keeps up we will dump you and bla bla bla. I didn't worry because i'm not really attached to life, and to be honest I knew they wouldn't do that.

Another semester begins and in not even 1 month i was quitting college again. I was visibly uninterested and parents simply asked me if i thought i would have that ridiculous performance again, I said "yes" and they just agreed that i should quit, no traumas as i expected.

I JUST HATE GOING TO CLASS AND DOING HOMEWORK. I love the people and the experience but I literally dread going to class. I'm a freshman and I feel like what I'm learning is not worth it. I pay what seems like a million dollars a semester and I can't stand it....maybe I'm just lazy? I can't stay focused and I'm always so stressed. I can't seem to keep up.

I'm a freshman now and i hate college, I tried to reach out to people out of my comfort zone (because I am a generally shy person) and found myself to be very outgoing and trying to make friends a lot. However, this semester people have stopped asking me to go eat with them, and I find myself eating alone or in my room a lot. I even confronted some of my "friends" crying and told them how unhappy I've been and how I feel as though I don't have a lot of people to hang out with, and they assured me I did nothing wrong and they were just busy, but nothing has changed. I now have no one to live with next year and cry frequently. I am pretty miserable here. I came for a certain, but really struggled my first semester with grades and am now planning to switch to a different major. I have tried to get involved, and joined two student organizations this semester, as well as got a campus job. However, I still find myself alone and unhappy despite all this effort I've put in. I even approached people asking them if they would room with me, but they already had roommates for their suites next year. I have never felt in a position like this before, and am extremely unhappy. Maybe someone could give me some advice, also because it will be hard to transfer with the grades I got this year.

Go eat some ramen noodles and cry in a corner. Lol

damn I feel the same way. Literally. It blows here and I'm in california. I'm not used to not having solid friends and everything. Everyone is soo hyped up about college, but to be honest it's not that great. Especially when you do n't have any great friends.<br />
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I'm at a really good University, but that doesn't change ****. It's all about who you are with not where you are. I do like my professors though. But damn this place really blows and I want to transfer out. Another thing is I feel like **** everyday when I wake up, but as the day progresses it gets better. So I guess that's a good thing. Furthermore, much of the cause of my stress is this one group of kids . And I hate being the one on the outside.

Same here, The college students are *******s, they seem to have a thing about turning your bag inside out, ******* you off and always seem more immature than secondary school(high school in America). I hate college and I some ways can't wait to leave!

I agree, college is important but it can be boring. I attend Western Illinois University and this school is horrible. i caution anyone trying to come here. I came here because its an instate school so i thought it would be cheap. WrONG! They tried to make my dad pay 16,000 for my first freshmen year. It is ridiculous! i only received 4,000 dollars in financial aid and when I go to the financial aid office for help, they just act like its not their problem so they dont try and help,(Btw im not the only student who is like that. Alot of people have said Western is a financial burden to them.) Anyway, enough about the horrible help of financial aid.
2) The meal plan here is horrible. you get 2000$ each semester and that sounds like alot right?..WRONG! First off they charge individually for every iteam you get, which is not what most schools do. So lets say I get a burger, no side, no drink, that burger alone is $8 and thats the cheapest thing on the menu. A frozen meal is $7 if you go to the c-store (But at walmart is like $2)and a can of soup is $4(at the store it is a $1.50.) needless to say its ridiculous. And Western knows their meal plan sucks because they caution everyone like crazy to be etremely careful with your meal plan. And i was cautious but one day I go to the Cafe and the lady tells me I no longer have money on my carrd. That was November 1st and the meal plan didnt restart until january. So for 2 months my parents had to put $30-50$ in my account everyweek so I could take the bus to go buy some food( Mainly frozen meals) When I went home for break my mom told me I looked tiny, turns out I lost 6 pounds, Go figure!( when my sister saw me she said the same thing. I just joke that Im on the Western Diet.) Also the cafe use to be really full but by the end of the yearit was half empty as most of the students lost their privalllage to eat. Western also came up with ROCKY DOLLARS So that your parents can put money on your account when your meal plan runs out. My roomates meal plan ran out a week after mine and her mom put $100 a week on her account so she could eat in the cafe and not have to go to walmart with me and she only ate one meal a day!
3) the town sucks. There is nothing to do. Literaly all anyone does here is get drunk and like I know its normal for college kids to drink but the way the people here act is as if theyre all going to be alcoholics..And Im not interested in that. Macomb is a ugly little town. Maybe its bc I lived in Oakpark which is a nice neighborhood and it was right next to chicago so there was always something to do or some place to go. Any my dad was really strict so I could barely go anywhere so when I got to college I was hoping id be able to get out and live nut its hard to live a fun life when your in a tiny little nowhere town like Macomb.
Western sucks! When we got here the bathrooms were still dirty from the freshmen who were here before us! The food sucks! It's expensive for no Reason! The town sucks! There is nothing to do! The rooms are tiny! Financial aid sucks!
The only good thing that has happened to me is my roomate is awesome, I love her! And the education here is zoo easy, Im a psychology major and its so easy, I feel like my highschool was way harder than this(it could be that their education sucks but Im cool with it as long as I pass) Btw I am not coming back here next year

I totally agree. I'd much rather be working than going to school (except for one place i've worked...) my issues with school (& solutions):1) It *destroys* relationships. If you value your significant other don't go to school you will lose him/her. No good solution, maybe take turns at school or go to the same school?2) Dorms suck. Your roommate is an *** who doesn't understand privacy, everyone down the hall likes to blare music at 3am (ra won't do anything) and you have class at 8. Your living space is 96sq ft. The cafeteria food is disgusting and you're paying over $1,000/mo to live in this pig-sty. Solution: don't live in dorms. if your school has a live-in policy, take your business elsewhere. If you're already in a contract try to move to an older (single, non-freshman) dorm if possible.3) The classes have like 300 people, it's boring, and why the hell am i taking "women's studies" for a computer science degree? Solution: consider an associates degree; they usually have way less irrelevant crap and smaller class-sizes.Finally, I'm really really tired of hearing parents insist their kid go straight to college for what THEY think their kid should do. This is a trap that so many of my friends have fallen into. 1) there's nothing wrong with taking time off to figure out what you're going to do with your life. 2) go for what YOU want to do, not your parents. 3) college is a means to an end. that's it. you get a piece of paper that lets you get a job. the experience is quite frankly a bad one anyways.

this serves as an open response to the still relevant problem and the now archaic post.

reasons for attending college are small. in my case it was really a pretty objective decision to attend a large, public, out of state university (more economical, major of choice, different place). i have been, and probably will be realizing this, more and more until i finish next year. i wasn't excited to permanently move states when i graduated high school. all of my good friends are no longer around. but that doesn't seem to compare to new friends i made early on here; they aren't really around anymore either. people i saw last weekend aren't around either. i have to commit more time to classes than anything else.

college education helps you, no matter how many poor experiences or months of uninterrupted low mood that causes you to not want to get out of bed, complete assignments, or socialize. i would say that there have been boring times, but those were really just times when i didn't know how to act on myself, or make myself do things. but maybe i learned how to cope with my once inability to cope. everything has a cause, yet also, suffering is never absent in life. but the talk of self-knowledge and all of that starts to get disgusting. alcohol, weed, parties, towns, people, friends, activities, loneliness, et cetera, all of that stuff is nothing more than some hysterical device that incites anger. it is turning a simple problem into a catastrophe, and all it can do is perpetuate itself. anger, because it reinforces the idea we once had that special things would happen to us. so are all of those topics a distraction? for the most part, yes. you may be able to find certain things in certain places at certain times, but there will always be trade-offs.

i don't think reasons for unhappiness or unrest are always so clear, but i do think that everything has a cause. we always have the ability to find reason for various causes. but probably the most simple reason for a cause (ex: ending high school caused the question of what next, of considering attending college) is that everything must change, no thing can stay the same. this causes us to try and understand what has happened, what is happening, and what will, should, and could happen. i think that alone is what causes most of our unrest. i like how Bukowski's two words "don't try" can be applied to pretty much everything. so in this case, don't try to understand what has happened, just understand. it is often very difficult to think and feel and live in such objective terms, but maybe there are good and bad parts of all ways of thought and life.

True, college is boring. I just started my first semester last week. Let me tell you, it was the most tiring and painful experience in my life. There was nothing to do and I even thought on quitting college. I go to SCC which is Saintago Canyon college. It was really boring. I basically hate it because i thought i was going to fail and let my parents down. But instead, they supported me to do my best and that made me happy. Anyways, everytime i go home, i am always tired and sore from all the lectures and activities. My back will start hurting and my head as well. I am still sore as of right now. It just way too much for me. Yes i am one of those people who miss high school and if i had a time machine, i would go back to my amazing 4 years of high school. So now, since this week is ending and I have to go to class on mondays. Let me say this, college isn't right for everyone and that okay because It wasn't right for me but hey I didnt quit. I still go as long as I make my family proud. There are other people who care about and wants you to succeed in life. So I say, GO FOR IT! YOU CAN DO IT! and GOOD LUCK.
Always think postive.

FIGHTING!!!!!!!♡♥♡♥♡

yah dude. High school was amazing. I guess it just takes time.

True! Today's my "D-day" and I just hope my parents will understand my decision about stopping for a while because I do not like the course/field I chose after all. I absolutely hate it now. However, I do not regret entering either because this period was where I came to realize things about myself even if it took me awhile. I learned many things about life along the way. All I know is that I know what I want to do in my life; I just kind of need a bit of support and acceptance. I know that I have less regrets this way.

Well, I don't know if people are still reading this since its been about a year since the first post but I will share my college experience as well. I am now about to start my second year of classes at a college campus in my hometown. I and 3 other of my closest high school friends were the only ones of my clique to stay. We all hate our hometown, small, boring, 2 hours away from any major US city so we were all anxious to get away. Well, as they time changes everything, I now only communicate with one of those three friends and maybe a fraction of the friends that went off, including one of my BEST friends. Well classes generally suck, the college here is relatively small, boring architecture, no eye-candy (cyute girls ;0)) so it got pretty painful. My first semester i did pretty well but for as long as I can remember I've never fully applied myself so I COULD have done much better. Well here comes the interesting parts of my story. My Spring semester. I lost all my friends, some turned into huge douchebags literally overnight. I dropped two classes, and managed to pull off two c's and a b, all while being constantly under the influence of drugs. That's right, i was a huggeee drug addict. And I'm not talking just weed. I also was suffering from depression, as two of my family members had passed away within a month of each other. So all of this, and with no friends for any kind of support, college began to be one huge mistake in my life, or i should say not going off my first year. But now, 6 months later, I've found new friends, have crippled my drug habits (although i still use because **** it, college yo) and have pulled my gpa up to a 3.2, while still planning to transfer in the spring of 2014. I have regained contact with some of my old friends, and we plan on taking a trip to europe in the winter.
So my advice:
Everything happend for a reason. Sometimes life sucks, sometimes people suck, sometimes YOU will suck. It's part of life, and college is just you experiencing this in the real world. It WILL get better. You just have to lead your own life. Don't let society or anyone else lead it for you. And for those of you who don't drink, try it every now and then. I'm not saying get completley skunked and pass out in the street. But drinking is a very social american pastime. I've met lots of friends over beers. So hang in there, let loose, and have a good life.
//With every passing second comes a second chance\

college turns people like you into HUMAN TRASH......I go to HUNTER COLLEGE(nyc)...I am taking a commie c*nt course and I already took some garbage can courses...its pure trash....when you are done you have created disease and debt...you have created jobs for mexico spic illegal aline white trash spic tool...AND you are now an unwanted BODY....hanging around making disease and debt....MAYBE you can buy the NY times to "well round" yourself on all those GARBAGE can courses you were forced to take.....

College is what you make of it. I actually love it. My friend circle has probably tippled since high school, I go to pubs and drink like I'm thirty and think nothing of it, I am responsible for my self and my belongings but I am still young. I'm enjoying these days before I have to actually go to a job and make money.

That's when you need to hate your life. Not now...

This exactly describes my college experience.
I'm at my third college, the environment of "city" vs "not city" doesn't help when you can't find friends. About the only thing to do in college is party and if you don't do that, like I don't, you're SOL.

Oh, also, if you're bored at your college, transfer to a college thats in a city, Chicago, New York, Philly, Boston, etc. You've got a lot of options. Cities are a lot of fun if you're bored in the middle of nowhere.

I'm responding to "notsurewhoiamanymore". What you said is utter bullshit. Your life is what your make it. College, four whole years were you get to satisfy your intellectual desires or interests and don't have to deal with the real world. College and life is what you make of it. **** that girl. There are plenty of other girls out there with better **** who are just as funny and would be perfect for you. Transfer to another school, you're not gonna be happy where you are and just forget about this girl and forget about the past and live your ******* life. The only one really holding you down is yourself. I've struggled with depression my whole life, since I was 9 and I'm 20 now so I have 11 years of experience to back this up. The best thing I ever did in my life was to stop caring so much about the opinions of people I don't know or don't like. Who the **** are they? I mean, you should always respect your fellow man but you don't have to suck their dirty ***** while you're at it. If you want to be happy, put yourself out there, and wait a little while, it'll all work out. Life, making friends, falling in love, living, etc it all takes time. Everything worth having takes time to cultivate, nothing will ever fall right into your lap. It's never going to be easy, but as long as you're willing to work, not hard or anything, but put in the effort when it's necessary, you'll get to where you want to be. Stay strong and travel safe, but not too safe. Where does it say that you get extra brownie points from dying healthy or old? I plan on arriving in death saying, ******* it, but that was a good ******* ride.

I hate the college that i'm goin to right now too. The only reason I came to this school was because I was chasing love. I fell in love so hard with this girl my last two years of high school that I only applied to the same school she was going to. My senior year we got pretty close but she didn't want to date because she wanted to be single in high school (even though she had clear intentions of wanting to date in college). Over the summer we stopped talking because I thought I was going to be the "Man" and thought I could do better. I found out painfully that I made the single biggest mistake of my life so far. It's so hard seeing her find another guy so easily and seeing her give him that special smile. My college isn't that big either, so I run into her more than I want to, which I never want to see her again. She has someone new in her life and she is so happy, I just want to forget about her and be that happy. And she isn't that person who gets with everyone. She told me she wasn't that person, and I respected that so much, and that is also the single biggest thing I want to find in a person. And that's the way I am too. I don't want to fool around with people.. I want to find someone to love forever who doesn't have any ghosts in their closet. What are the odds of me finding that in someone that I want to be with...there aren't any odds because it's not gonna happen. I saw my life being to great with her and making so many great friends, but reality set in and I feel like I'm a no one here. I am still too emotionally caught up with her that I haven't let my heart open for another person to come into my life. With little close friends and too many qualities that I want in a person, I feel that I won't ever find someone that I will love with all my heart. I consider myself to be a decent looking guy with so much more to offer than looks. But I can't put myself out there because I care too much about what other people think about me. I wake up every day and literally think about her. I don't want to, but my mind brings it up. I've had thoughts of suicide practically every day for the past 4 months of college. I don't think I'll ever find what I'm looking for.

I've been talking with a counselor here at my college and she hasn't done much for me so far. She is just a graduate so she has little experience.

So for me college has been the worst time of my life. And high school wasn't that bad for me, but high school is a utopia compared to this right now. I absolutely hate it will all my heart and am having a hard time finding the positives in my life right now. I can't decide if I want to transfer to another college next year where one of my best friends goes, or stay here and see if it gets better. My life is following the idiom "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush." I am putting too much pressure on myself to have a great life, when I need to just let it happen and if my life turns out to be ****, then that's the way my life is supposed to be.

But I feel you. If college is supposed to be the best years of my life then I can only imagine how bad the rest of my life is going to be.

hello there;) I share my feelings with you girl. been there, it's not that easy to make friends in college, it's not like the movies that it seems pretty easy to get along with everybody but hey! all I can tell you is too keep up your faith, and see if you can join any club or organization , with similar interest as yours.

Universities or college are not fun at all, it appears to me is all studying and studying no time for us as college students to share, socialize *sigh* .... I think sometimes is better to be at home or maybe yourself create a group who agrees with me?

blessings!

College is definitely not how I imagined it to be. There was no fun, excitement and love for my work. Hell, for the past semester I've been depressed, stressed and filled with anxiety. I feel apologetic towards my parents for wasting their hard earned money. Everyone here is already so focused in on what major or career they want (sucks that I go to a huge career oriented university), and as someone who is still undecided, I feel so out of place. I've been thinking about transferring, but I'm afraid. Everyone I know seems to be having a blast in school, while I'm just miserable. I wonder if it's because I'm not emotionally ready for this next big step.

Sounds just like my college! I'm a freshman going to a college of about 3,000 people. I thought that would be pretty big (6 times bigger than my high school) but it somehow isn't. I see the same people in the hallway every day and the same people are in so many of my classes. My school is in the middle of nowhere (the closest city is 20 minutes away) and almost everybody leaves on the weekends to go home/party, but I don't have a car so I am stuck here and it is extremely depressing. Thankfully I went home last weekend, but whey my parents dropped me back off even they agreed that my school looks like a boring ghost town.

I had a great group of friends the first month or so but we kind of fell apart and it is really tough meeting new people. Like other people on here have said, so many people have come to my college with their 3 best friends from high school and it is so cliquey! I have tried joining clubs, and they have provided me with some friends, but not close enough friends that we can all hang out on the weekends or anything. I know 2 people from my town and they are both seniors and we say hi in the halls but that's about it. The professors here are decent but not that great either. They either baby us and make me feel like I'm in a middle school english class, or they barely speak english and the material is WAY too hard. I only like (more like tolerate) 2 of my 5 teachers, the rest are just painful and worse than any teacher i ever had in high school.

Right now all I can do is hope to get a car over christmas break so I can get the hell out of here every weekend. I'm hoping to transfer next year but honestly kind of afraid that it will be the same thing all over again :/

I am almost positive you go to my college. Anyways, it's miserable. Luckily THIS year I have about 5-7 people that I can talk to, and 3-4 that I can always go to for help when I am feeling down, which unfortunately is almost every day. However, they are all transferring after being in this ****hole for a year, and that leaves one person that I will (or should I say would have) had next year that I've become relatively close to.

My advice:

Question why you are in college. I (and so many others) came here due to the good deal financially because it is a lot less expensive starting out here and a good idea if you don't know what you plan to major in yet. If you know what you want to do with your life, transfer as soon as possible. If not, maybe stick it out for another year, attend a community college, or even take some time off to decide what you want to do with your life. DO NOT let yourself go through this for nothing.

Also, most of the people (except for one) I became close to because we were in the same classes or in the same hall. Honestly, there are many many more people going through this than you think. You are not alone and there are so many others. I was actually glad to find that many others were going through the same thing. In fact, it is what keeps me going, to know that I am not alone and neither are you. Keep your head up, it will get better.

Yeah we probably do go to the same college! Like 75% of the people here are dying to transfer out and the other 25% have somehow managed to have some weird undying love for the place. Unfortunately the club situation has taken a turn for the worst because one club is over for the year and the other turned out to be what felt to me like a life-changing cultlike experience! A couple of my friends (who are unfortunately commuters from the city 20 minutes away) and I are planning on transferring out and going to a huge state school by fall 2014. I should have gone there from the start. I didn't work my *** off in high school to be at this mediocre shithole while the rest of my high school friends are out getting a top notch education and having the time of their life!

what really sucks is that college is a business all they care about is money
and it sucks because most people are dumb *****
i cant wait to get my degree and disapear for a while
horrible expirience in college

College is becoming more and more of a scam unfortunately.

Wow....Why can't people like you be at my school! :( Like most everybody else here, college just has not lived up to expectations so far. All my life, college has been this idealized, glorified thing that is "the best four years" of my life...so far, they are not shaping up to be that way. So far, the "friends" that I made started ignoring me, and slowly but surely pushing me out...they were all roommates, and I was the only "friend" outside of their room, which did not help anything. They started bonding because they were all living together, and while ignoring me while I was there and not including me on their inside jokes. It has totally screwed with my head. I'm usually an introverted, kind, and caring person. But when they started pushing me out, it just felt like it was my fault. But the people who know me best, my family all reassure me it wasn't. I don't mind being alone, it's just for dinner, and other events that I see all these groups of friends, and I just wish I had that. I wish I could know if and when it will get better so that I could push through....I hope it gets better, or next year just might not happen... I hope all the best to everyone here, and hope it has worked out for you. But it is also comforting to know that those who don't like to party and be with people who just drink to puke, exist somewhere out there... All I want is a few low key friends to hang and go on adventures like swinging on swings, or carving pumpkins, going to music shows, that have intellectual conversations at dinner, and other things like that. Sometimes I wonder if there is anyone out there....

I feel so alone here! i went to college 4 hours away from home, all alone! I have only one friend here who doesn't even live on campus. all i do everyday all day long is sit in my dorm and eat. great. not what i expected of college at all. everyday i wish i would've went to the same school as my best friends but its too late. i also joined greek life in hopes that i would find friends and that it would get better, but i still feel alone. my freshman college experience is seriously sucking hard right now. sometimes i feel like i want to pack up and go home.

I feel like that too but so do many others. It's hard getting motive to get things done throughout the day, but motivate yourself and find others that will help motivate you as well. Think of it in the long run.

I have had the same experience. I live with my two best friends and it is horrible. My best guy friend I live with decided he is gay and goes and f***s every other gay guy around. the other one never leaves her room and skips every class. I should of lived on campus it would have been 1000x better than living in this apartment.

I'm a college graduate and I didn't even go to my commencement to get my diploma. I've found career contentment in a field not even related to my degree. T've found that a good attitude, willingness/adaptablity to train and respect for others probably trump so-called book smarts. My only complaint is that I wished I'd done this a lot sooner--I would have saved myself a lot of grief. Remember that a lot of good jobs don't necessarily reqire a degree, even though society esp. parents/teachers/bs experts will tell you differently.

I feel the same f cking way. I'm about a month into my freshman year and I'm already thinking about transferring. You would think that people here would be grown and laid back and not care so much, but I feel like I've landed back into my freshman year of high school. It f cking sucks. I'm glad I'm not the only one out there feeling this way, I really though it was just me.
College is definitely NOT what I expected, at least so far.

Definetely not just you. It is nothing like I expected either. My college is horrific, but I'd say the people are definetely the worst aspect of it.

I graduated high school in 2008 and never went to college. In 2009-10 I attempted to get back on track. But that didn't happen all because the ******* FAFSA/Financial Aid betrayed me by not wanting to pay my studies at all !!!! Believe me I even made two more attempts ...yet, ....NOTHING !!!! I wanted to KILL MYSELF. Now at 24, I am more scared than ever ... I haven't made another attempt since then. I walk down the streets of Houston and I see all these students talking and bragging how cool it is to be majoring in something ....and when I hear that ...IT MAKES ME MAD, I JUST BREAKOUT IN TEARS and asking myself on what could have been of me. I have no clue where or how did I messed up, ...people will be asking me 'oh, did you go to college, did you major ?', I'd say ,'NO' ....and the conversation ends, they want nothing to do with me !!! I feel like I don't belong in this world and that's something I have to deal with EVERYDAY. I have a job but really I'm NOT satisfied with it at all. Other people have given me advice into going back but I am so scared that I just want to DIE.

I graduated high school in 2008 and never went to college. In 2009-10 I attempted to get back on track. But that didn't happen all because the ******* FAFSA/Financial Aid betrayed me by not wanting to pay my studies at all !!!! Believe me I even made two more attempts ...yet, ....NOTHING !!!! I wanted to KILL MYSELF. Now at 24, I am more scared than ever ... I haven't made another attempt since then. I walk down the streets of Houston and I see all these students talking and bragging how cool it is to be majoring in something ....and when I hear that ...IT MAKES ME MAD, I JUST BREAKOUT IN TEARS and asking myself on what could have been of me. I have no clue where or how did I messed up, ...people will be asking me 'oh, did you go to college, did you major ?', I'd say ,'NO' ....and the conversation ends, they want nothing to do with me !!! I feel like I don't belong in this world and that's something I have to deal with EVERYDAY. I have a job but really I'm NOT satisfied with it at all. Other people have given me advice into going back but I am so scared that I just want to DIE.