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I Can't Stand My College

 I'm a college freshman, and its been a month since I moved in.  In the beginning I had high expectations.  I knew it would be hard, but I thought I could handle it.  I went around to peoples rooms and introduced myself (im a really shy person, so I usually don't do that) and I was feeling pretty good that I was now in college.  As the days went on, nobody came to introduce themselves to me.  I thought since I got the ball rolling, people would like to come talk to me.  That was a lie.  

Now, a month into college, I can't stand it here.  I miss my family so much, and I just want to be able to go home.  I'm not a party person and I don't drink so its a little hard finding friends who agree with me.  I've joined a couple clubs but their really intense about what their doing.  I thought it was gonna be more about having fun and getting to know people, but its not like that at all.  I go to class everyday and I try to pay attention, but I hate it here so much that I'm just not motivated to work hard in my classes. I'm doing good so far, but as the weeks go on, I'm afraid that I might start failing classes, and then my parents will kill me.  People tell me all the time that college is the best years of you life.  I feel like im letting them down in a way because I can't stand it here.  My friends who have gone away to college absolutely love it.  I feel so jealous of them because thats not what is happening to me at all.  People also tell me that I'll finally get away from my parents.  I never saw college as "getting away" from my parents.  I love my parents and love to spend time with them.  I think I made the wrong choice of moving away.  My plan is that second semester I'm gonna transfer to my community college back home.  I know thats not the ideal plan, but it will get me with my family again, and it will cost so much less.  I might also finally figure out what it is I want to do with my life.  I hope the next 2 and a half months go by quick.  I just want this experience to be over.  That is so pathetic, but its true.

cbear98 cbear98 18-21, F 144 Responses Sep 26, 2009

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Someone please help me. I cant stop crying, Im miserable, I hate myself, I hate people, I hate college. Nothing is right....I don't want this, I can't take it. My heart is breaking apart.

No please, you have to relax. I understand how hard college is, especially the loneliness. I also cried my first week, I wanted to quit, but then I realized that would not solve anything. I would feel worse at home knowing I quit because I was feeling lonely. God and my family keep me happy everyday and I cannot thank God for giving me this opportunity to fulfill my dream. It's going to be tough, but think about it: you've made it this far, you can do anything! Think positive about everything and smile because life is very beautiful!

I feel the same way as a lot of you. And it's truly comforting as sadistic as that may be. All of my friends that went out of state, or in state for that matter, LOVE their college. As for me I knew I was miserable at the end of week one. I felt so isolated from my friends and my family and my amazing home town. I did everything I could to meet people; I joined a student council group, I am on the soccer team here, I joined clubs, and got to know the people in my hall. Nothing has helped, I have friends here, but I never want to be social because I just feel like being by myself. I cried almost everyday the first semester, called my mom daily, and began seeing a therapist. My main problem has been that by transferring I feel as though I'm failing and letting my parents down. My parents are in LOVE with my school. When they visited they raved the whole time about how amazing the school and the town was. They obviously know that I'm miserable and say that they'll back any decision I make, but I can tell that they obviously want me to stay here. But everyone here is so immature and ignorant. My school has only 20% out of state students, so everyone already had their set group of friends, so I've found it extremely difficult to branch out. My school is also 7 hours away from home. Going home is not an option. I just got back from Winter Break and cried the whole plane ride back. I want to transfer back to the state university in my city at the end of the semester to be back with my friends, family, and in my city. The university closer to home also has a better program for my major, and much better athletics. If anyone has post-transfer stories, I'd love to hear them. Thank you all for listening....

Hi Everyone, <br />
I am in the exact same position! Every point you made in your story I could relate to completely. I did the exact same thing introducing myself to people the first day (and I'm painfully shy so thats a big deal for me). But like you there was no response. People came to college with friends and were not looking for any new ones. I have literally never been so miserable in my life. Unfortunately I can't bring myself to transfer because I would feel like I'm letting my family down - like I failed yet again. So I guess I'll just have to figure something out. Thanks everyone for sharing your stories and comments it makes me feel better that there are people somewhere that are going through the same thing!

I literally had to make an acccount once I saw how recent everyone is posting! I hope this place as a support group is still happening, because I have no idea how I'm going to get by the next 4 months!!<br />
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My story, well, for the last 1 and 1/2 year I've attended my school's community college where I wavered after not being able to afford my first choice college, but eventually perked myself up to being the A-B student I believe I am. I Just transfered to a university 6 hours away from home as a 2nd semester sophmore thinking I'd be there with my best pal, but she has to do naval training and ended up being here a semester before me. I SOOOOO should have picked up hints that this school wouldn't be for me when she let on that she wasn't planning on coming back. I digress though.<br />
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I guess saying that I hate this place wouldn't be far off. All my life I've been raised in a city and emersed myself in people of all cultures that coming to a school where everyone is the same is a total shock to me. Don't get me wrong- there are some students of different races here (a small perentage, but they're present) but they act the same as everyone else. It makes me want to vomit how there's not a large difference amongst these people.<br />
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I think eveything would be more mangable if the area wasn't currently freezing and snow didn't coat everything. I'm no stranger to the cold or snow, but I can honestly say that the weather reflects my mood towards this place.<br />
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I was really excited to get started here too- I wanted to find a buddy to exercise with, someone to play video games into the late night, an artist to collaborate pieces and techniques with- what a let down everything has been. The idea of fun for everyone here is getting drunk and taking their inebriated butts to the three fast food places around here. I don't touch the stuff, so even though I'm not included into these plans I'll be damned if I'm upset about it. I NEVER want to be in a state of mind where I have minimum control (especially around people I'm so unfamiliar with) and honestly, I know thousands of more interesting passtimes than drinking, but sadly a lot of them involved my best bud, another person or the city.<br />
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I miss everything about home. Cooking for my family every night, the different languages you'd hear on the subways, the lovely decorated hijabs the muslim girls would wear, the tasty sweets from the China Town bakeries, meeting strangers in bookstores and talking to them about a novel like you knew them forever, the neon lights covered night life, dancing down the street after being met with a song you never heard, the various shops that catered to different interests. I miss it all.<br />
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I've been hesitant to admit it, but I feel really alone here. Everyone knows everyone already- all the transfer students are either from this town or the next city over so they've all been friends since high school and the freshman have formed their close knit crowd from the first semester. I've taken to going to the dining hall and bringing my food back to my room for dinner and going there when it first opens for the other times of day so I can just be in and out.<br />
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I though I'd find refuge in the library, but even there people either stare at me or laugh loudly on their phones at the fact that they're in a library (Here the library is seen as something laughable? Even the workers hate/laugh at it and some have hangovers from the night before. I've always respected libraries, so I really LOST A LOT of respect for this town as a whole.)<br />
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I'm hoping that emersing myself in my schoolwork will help me manage here, but it took a lot of will for me to get out of bed this morning and I'm hoping that isn't a sign that me hating this school will affect my work. It has happened before, so I guess I'll have to try hard to get pass this.<br />
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I hope that I'll be able to transfer to one of the colleges in my city or at least back to the community college for one last semester, because I can't do another semester here- I can tell that already.<br />
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I'm no square. I have a zest for life, seeing new places, mneeting new people, learning new hobbies, dancing anywhere with good pals, whipping up meals for people- heck I even indulge in public karaoke in front of hundreds of people when the event happens in my city every year. I just don't seem to fit in here at all and I accept that happily, but every time I think of the time I'll have to spend here...egh....<br />
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Just 41 days until spring break, 103 days in this place all together (weekends included) and 15 weeks before I can go back to the places I love.<br />
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How did you guys make the months pass, those of you who posted earlier? Are there any tips on making the days fly by??

Haha woow at least I feel better to hear I'm not alone either..I just transfered to a 'big 10' campus 2.5 hours away from home and I only have like 3 people I "somewhat" know, and I'm a junior..so I have a ton of credits from a community college, so there's no going back. I've been trying so hard to make an effort here. I was so excited when I first got here, I thought I would be having the time of my life by now, but its been awful! I have my own room so I wake up everyday with no one to talk to or listen to except my tv :[ I did end up going to the bars a few nights, but I always feel like I'm being annoying/awkward asking if I can go with people who I used to hang out with years ago. What makes me so sad was how I felt so sure about my decision to come here instead of transferring to a school right by my house, but now I hate admitting I wish I picked the other one. I don't want my parents to be disappointed or worry about me, so I just tell them (and basically everyone else back home) that I really like it here :[

I'm a junior high English teacher and was reading all of the comments to this post as part of a college readiness program I'm planning for my students (I teach at a prep school & talk about college begins early). Most of these comments resonated with me. I was homecoming queen in high school; very outgoing and personable. However, college was a very difficult time in my life. I left home in a very small town to go to a bigger, out of state school. Although I was able to make new friends, it took every ounce of persistence and courage to do so, and only 1 friendship in those 4 years was genuine. I was rejected, gossiped about, and worst of all, ignored, on a daily basis. I, too, felt ashamed when listening to old friends from home talk about how great college was. I felt the opposite and was too confused and embarrassed to say so. I even picked up an eating disorder and a bad case of depression along the way. I'm currently 34 years old and only in the past couple of years have I been able to openly admit to friends and family that I hated my time at college. What am I proud about? The fact that I made it through. I learned so many invaluable lessons that I would not trade for the world, crazy as that may seem to you all right now who are currently hating life at college. Just know this: surviving this experience will award you strength, independence, a thick skin, and the confidence in knowing you beat the college experience. You must take this unhappy time to learn to depend on yourself for happiness, not others. Focus your energy on class, clubs, working out, or a hobby you enjoy. Pray if you're religious. I tell my students this: if you were taking a 100 point quiz, college would only be worth 5 points of it. It's OK to hate college. It's only a fraction of your overall life. And fighting your way through will give you the strength to do so many more important things later in life. Learning how to cope with a negative college experience gave me the strength to move from the east to west coast, all alone, and create an amazing new life for myself as an adult. I don't think I'd have had the guts to do that without thinking, "Dude, if I made it through 4 years at ____ University, I can do anything!" So hang in there!

if you still read this and are still doing that class....i just ask give them realistic expectations. not what everyone else seems to say.

i think college would be better if there was some sort of proper preparation as opposed to lets ship these kids off they are out of the house yippee.

i think thats the problem there is no transition period. there is no transition period. you are expected to go from HS with no care in the world to college. this too me is a real problem.

also there is no realistic explanation that college is in fact a load of crap. there is no explanation as to why we are here beyond just do it you have to. there is only and over abundance of how great it is with no explanation that it could in fact suck.

you are right there invaluable lessons to be learned but ive found most are outside of the classroom.

either way high school is a terrible preparation for anything and college is high school on a grander scale. this is truly a problem.

i know..i hate my col life too..people at first made it seem so cool and interesting..but now i know the truth. i can barely keep up with my studies as well. and ive already seemed to make some enemies that reli hate meeven though i havent done anything wrong. it was just a misunderstanding. i cant stand it either. sometimes i just think im going to burst. i want to quit.

i know..i hate my col life too..people at first made it seem so cool and interesting..but now i know the truth. i can barely keep up with my studies as well. and ive already seemed to make some enemies that reli hate meeven though i havent done anything wrong. it was just a misunderstanding. i cant stand it either. sometimes i just think im going to burst. i want to quit.

So what did you wind up doing?

I actually stuck it out for the year. The school still wasn't for me, so I ended up transferring, but I'm glad that I stayed with it for the whole year.

I literally feel like you guys are the only people to get what I'm going through here! I'm so freaking glad I found this page! I feel soooo distant from everyone here, like I can't make any connections because my school is full of in-state kids and I'm like 1000 miles away from home! My family can't even come for family weekend. It sucks. All I want is to transfer somewhere closer to home with people more like me. This school is nothing like what I thought it would be like, I made a huge mistake, and I feel like I can't even talk to the few people I have met and like.<br />
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But now I know that I have support somewhere, because my family made me promise I would stay A WHOLE YEAR, so while you guys get out at semester, don't forget some of us are in it for the long haul...

I know this was posted over a year ago, but I'm so glad I found this. I feel the exact same way you felt. I'm completely across the country from my family and friends, and I would like nothing more than to go home. I like my friends I've made here, but other than that I feel like I've made the biggest mistake of my life. I hate it here, but I can't transfer until the end of my freshman year, and even then I have to wait until Christmas to go home again. What did you do? I want to transfer closer to home, but not sure yet...

I am so glad I found this page, and i'm so glad i'm not the only one going through this!<br />
I've been at university for less than a week and i hate it! Correction, the only thing i hate is my living situation. I actually love the university itself, i just hate my dorm room. I live with another girl in a tiny dorm room and she is nice and all but she drinks, parties, and brings her boyfriend over a lot (to sleep over) without even asking me! Plus i have to share a bathroom with 6 girls and only one toilet, which doesn't sound bad except imagine a family of 6 living with only one bathroom...its the same thing, impossible right! I hate the bathroom situation, and the lack of privacy here. Plus i live in the party res (it houses 3,000 people, most of which are booze drinking partiers) and they're still partying and screaming at 3am even with class the next day. It depresses me to be here when i could be livng off campus in the privacy of my own room and bathroom. I don't want to switch universities, i just want to get the hell out of this dorm and live in an actual house! I don't know why I ever thought living with a total stranger would be a good idea but everyone told me its the best thing ever and for some reason i believed them...i'm just so confused and weighing my options, i wish i knew what to do...

Hey, it's me again, sorry for the double post but I really just have to get this out. My room mate situation just got way worse. She is just so inconsiderate and quite frankly - an idiot! It started out with her bringing her boyfriend around and letting him sleep over without asking or telling me but it got way worse. I got home from class a couple days ago and i walked into my room and it stunk of pot. Like, so bad it was obvious they had smoked up in the room. She was in the room with her bf and a couple friends, clearly high, giggling and acting like idiots. The stench was so bad you could smell it out in the hall and all the girls on my floor and on upper floors could smell it. I left the room right away because it was so awful and all the girls were at my door telling me my room smelled of pot and i explained the situation to them and they all feel really bad for me because obviously it is RIDICULOUS that i have to put up with any of this. My family demanded that i report her for all of her violations (she also has alcohol in the room btw), so i did and now they're trying to relocate me to a better place to live. Everyone thinks that she should just be kicked out because not only did she break the rules here but she broke the law. Either way, i just want to get out of here and away from her and hopefully into a better living situation!<br />
If anybody has any advice or suggestions, let me know. Thanks for letting me rant, i feel a bit better.

That sounds horrible! I really hope you do get a different room. Maybe being in a room where you don't have to deal with a ****** roommate all the time will make you enjoy your school a whole lot more! I didn't have as horrible of a roommate as you did, but I would say to spend as much time out of your dorm as possible until you can move. Best of luck to you!

Thank you. Hopefully I will get out of here as soon as possible, I should be hearing back about moving tomorrow. Good luck to everyone else with their situations as well, this kinda stuff can really take a toll on you

I'm a college freshman and it's only been 9 days but I'm beyond miserable. The first thing I found out about myself upon the first day (4 hours after move in) that the dorm life is not for me. I can't tolerate drunken idiots running up and down the halls, hearing every day about who did a walk of shame, and having wannabe frat guys (this small catholic school doesn't have Greek life, I thought that would've kept kids like this out) blasting their Mac Miller on full blast with their doors open to irritate kids like me who don't even have the motivation to walk to their library and study. Don't get me wrong, I'm trying my hardest to study, sit at the front of the class, and do well so I can transfer to the state school down the street from my house. This experience made me yearn to commute. The school was so misleading at every orientation when they'd stress "this isn't that big of a drinking school, and even the drinkers will accept you for who you are.". That was such a lie, I was pressured 8 times last night to go to either drink or go to one of the stupid nightclubs that 95% of the campus was at. The campus looks like a ghost town on Friday and Saturday nights. The gym and library are only open until 8 on Friday and Saturday nights because the school figures that nobody will even be around to do school work and such. Saturday and Sunday afternoons are catered to the hangover crowd (food areas don't open until 1-2 in the afternoon). I just can't rant enough about how decieving this school ended up being and how depressed I am to be here. I bought a train ticket for next week so I can go home and regain some sanity before I have to go back to this place. Might I add, upon arrival, the school gave us a map with blocked out red zones SURROUNDING the campus telling us that it's too dangerous to walk in those areas. A typical student hears about 8 rounds of sirens a day because the crime rate in this city is through the roof. I'm kicking myself for not taking this into serious consideration. Long story short, this school is a major letdown considering the fact that the tuition is ~54,000 a year. I'm working my butt off on my transfer app so I can secure a spot as a commuter next semester. Until then, I feel like a prisoner at this place.

That sounds horrible, i'm sorry you're going through that. I am going through quite the similar thing. I knew just as soon as I got here that dorm life was not for me. There are always people partying, yelling,and drinking around me as well only the difference is that they don't go anywhere to party, they do it in residence so there is no way for me to escape it. I seriously hope this does not continue for either of us. Also, if your tuition costs that much maybe consider dropping out and working for the year then going to a school you enjoy next year? If you haven't paid your tuition yet, that is. Some schools haven't paid yet so it's still possible to get out without costing yourself anything, I hope this is the case for you because that sounds like your best option. Good luck with the situation, i hope it gets figured out soon!

Everyone on here sounds exactly like me. I've been living in residence for two weeks now and I absolutely hate it. My roommate is a nice girl, but she came with her friends from home and she hangs out with them 24/7. I know absolutely no-one, and I'm not good at meeting people on my own- that's why I wanted a roommate- but she doesn't want to meet people, so I wind up hanging out with her and her friends all the time, and they are nice but I'm a fifth wheel! And somehow, pretty much everyone in my building either came with friends or settled into their cliques very quickly. It doesn't help that I'm actually older than everyone else- I'm 20, and grew up in a city, so I've been very independent and mature from a young age- whereas everyone is actually 18, but they are more immature than my 16 year old sister. And I'm not a partier! I like to have drinks occasionally, play a drinking game or have a mini dance rave, but every night? Seriously? I'm actually here to learn! It's sad, because I was so excited to come to this really 'amazing' school, but its getting clearer every day that this wasn't the right school for me at all. :(

Ugh I know same here, everyone has their own friends from high school or their cliques (even though we've only been here for a couple weeks) already and i feel so left out! I literally have no friends. My room mate is nice i guess but we barely speak, i get the idea that she doesn't like me or just sees me as a roomie and not a potential friend. And same with me, i wanted a roomie because i thought it would be like having a build in friend and she would help me meet people - nope! She already has friends so she has no interest in making new ones with me. Honestly your post seems as though you have read my mind - i'm not a huge drinker and im not a partier at all; a few drinks is fine but i'm not interested in getting drunk or drinking/partying every single night! and that seems to be the only way to make friends, at parties, so i theres another reason why i have no friends. I feel like I can't relate to anyone here and i feel so alone all the time. And it's not like I don't try. I try to talk to people when they're not busy which apparently is never so i dont get to do that very often, and i keep my dorm room door open like all the time but nobody comes in, nobody stops by, unless it is to see my room mate. I feel so alone and rejected here so don't worry, i know just how you feel :(

wow after reading this it makes me feel a bit better to know that im not alone. i go to what everyone thinks is a good school and when i first visited i thought it was going to be the place for me. I thought i had fallen in love with it, but after a freshman camp they had i knew i was not gonna like it. I tried to talk to my parents about letting me stay at the local college but they wouldnt hear of it. now im a month and a half in and i still hate it. Everyday i feel miserable, i count down the days until i can go home. I really want to transfer next semester to the local college until i figure out what school is really right for me. Like most of yall im not a partier either and so i really dont fit in here very well. Everyone goes to parties on the weekends and get drunk. Im just not into that, i feel like i would do so much better in a place where i was actually happy. but theres no incentive to do very well when im so unhappy where im at. I just know that this school isnt where i belong. i dont feel like a student here. i really wish i could go back in time and think really hard about where i chose to go to school because this is so hard and frustrating. I feel like im stuck because i have no choice but to be here and my parents wont let me transfer until the end of the spring semester, im so frustrated. i hate that i hate my college :(

Wow, when I read your story I almost died just because it is word for word what I am expiriencing. College is not all it's cracked up to be and I hate it just as much as it sounds like you do. I'm also planning on transferring to a community college near my hometown next semester. All people ever say is 'oh, just tough it out. you'll learn to love it' but idk about you, but I don't see it getting any better no matter how long I 'tough it out'.

Okay. So after reading all these comments, I am so happy that people feel the same way as me! I have been at a small college for about a month, and in the beginning it really wasn't that bad. I am very very close to my family and knew it was going to be a hard transition, but not this hard! I look at my friends and see how much fun they are having and I feel like I am missing out on something. It feels like all anyone does here on the weekends is go out and drink, party and act stupid..I really thought at college people were going to be more mature! I am in a smallish town and I feel trapped on the campus, like there is no other option than to go out and party on the weekends. I am working hard in my classes and have joined a lot of clubs and activities and still I don't feel...right. I have talked to my parents and friends about this and their advice is always, "give it time, it will get better"..but my concern is what if it doesn't? I dread weekends and almost want to go to classes! I'm counting down the days until I get to go home for break. I have some friends on campus here, but I just don't feel comfortable yet. I am considering transferring to a college that is 15 minutes (rather than 3 1/2 hours) away from home, but I am so lost on what to do. I made a pros/con list on what I should do and there are more pros than cons.. I can either stay here for the entire year and hope it gets better, or transfer after one semester..but what if I make the wrong choice!? If I leave now, or stay; I want to make the right decision and I am scared to act on anything. HELP ME! I am so lost and confused on what to do..

it's nice to hear of someone in the same situation. i also made a pro's and con's list of transferring to a college super close to home and i think i've came to the conclusion that i will be transferring at the end of the semester. what you have to do is not focus on the crappy dorm life because anyone can tough that out, you need to decide what it is that makes you happy and if you can better achieve that where you are now or back home. it's a lot to think about but best of luck to you!

I last posted a month ago... I'm wondering if it has gotten any better for anyone?<br />
I'm still just as unhappy, I hate the weekends because I don't have anyone to party with even if I want to, I'm getting to the point where I'm going to the libraries on the weekends because it is too embarrassing to tell my roommate that I spent yet another Saturday night watching old movies on my laptop. So I should be getting great grades right? Wrong! Too depressed to really study- I watch movies in the library instead.<br />
I met a girl that I get along with, finally, and we are becoming friends, but I'm trying hard not to convey that I am friendless and desperate! And it's hard! She asks what I did in the weekend and it's like... oh, you know... nothing terribly exciting,.. what about you? I have met a lot of her friends and they are great, I want to join that circle, but they are in another residence and all pretty good friends already, it makes it hard and I don't know how to insert myself into that group!! :(<br />
I miss home so much... I'm so close to my family and being so far from them is so hard... I'm finally home for the first weekend since I got here, and I don't know if I can make myself go back on Sunday night.<br />
Why is this so horrible? It isn't fair.

All these stories make me feel increasingly better.I hate hearing about stories from all my friends loving their college experience, and me not so much. I feel like im not even the same person anymore. I used to party here and there ,I used to laugh and smile all the time, I feel more stressed out than ever, so smoke a lot more than I ever did . Im changing and I don't like it. The only pro from college so far is I lost 20lbs, because all i do is workout. I cant take it anymore, this college is just a over-grown high-school and im the new kid. So far college isn't "the best years of my life". And joining clubs is over-rated most people don't even take time to get to know you.<br />
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-Lonely Loner

Oh my! I am so glad I found this group... I started college this year, and came in with such high expectations which just fell flat from the get-go. It's not even the 'school' I hate. I love most of my professors but just hate the students. I am an introvert with misanthropic tendencies and just don't enjoy being around people too much because I have never found anyone that understands me or who I am compatible with. I have one best friend but she goes to another school. I entered college with the false hopes that it's easy to meet people like you and all that jazz but it's just not. I hate my roommate a lot for one. I really tried talking with her from the first day, but I just felt like she judged me and she made me feel very uncomfortable. I also tend to go to bed early and it's just like she purposely would come in whenever she does and just make SO MUCH noise doing god knows what and I couldn't sleep. I don't even look at her anymore if I see her let alone talk to her... the people on my dorm floor are snobs and ****** who are so obnoxious and loud too. Most people just care about drinking and partying and talk about the STUPIDEST AND MOST TRIVIAL THINGS EVER. Over the years I've felt, and still feel, that I'm just not an easy person to like. I've been told by many [including my mom lol] that I may seem arrogant to people and very uptight but that's just because I'm really socially awkward and am not good at conversing with people, and just enjoy doing things on my own time. People usually hang out with me only to use me for things... college has been the exact same. No different. I just don't know... it just sucks so much. The exact same as high school, full of cliques and people who just don't get it :/

Yep basically in the same boat as all of u hate my college, except i decided it was a great idea to go to school literally on the other side of the country, so im suck in this little tiny state with no car an crapy public transportation. I don't have any friends here, even though i have tried and put in a lot of effort by join clubs and being much more out going then i normally am. I guess since I wasn't the the most popular person at my high school, i'm too different from everyone else here to make friends.... So now i have to decide if i should transfer to a school twice as expensive with no guarantee anything will actually be better or go go to the state school near home thats half the price but also half the academic quality.... oh or just stay here and be alone and missable for the next 2 years. Any suggestions?

done be miserable!! do what makes you comfortable and happy

Yep basically in the same boat as all of u hate my college, except i decided it was a great idea to go to school literally on the other side of the country, so im suck in this little tiny state with no car an crapy public transportation. I don't have any friends here, even though i have tried and put in a lot of effort by join clubs and being much more out going then i normally am. I guess since I wasn't the the most popular person at my high school, i'm too different from everyone else here to make friends.... So now i have to decide if i should transfer to a school twice as expensive with no guarantee anything will actually be better or go go to the state school near home thats half the price but also half the academic quality.... oh or just stay here and be alone and missable for the next 2 years. Any suggestions?

I'm in the same place right now. For someone who actually went to community college for two years, I thought that I was doing things right. I wasn't sure of what I wanted to study but I decided to go with Vocal Performance and go to a university out-of-state. I felt a little unsettled about it, but I thought moving away and going through this challenging experience would be amazing and a great growth experience. Now, I'm out here a year later, took this semester of school off because I was so miserable last year. I don't get why I was so miserable and why it was so hard to make friends. Yes, my school was a commuter school and hardly anyone stays on-campus but I didn't know that before I moved here. I like the place I moved to but the school made me miserable. I am still deciding whether I should return to this school in the spring but I am still unsure of what I was studying before and I don't know what to do. Feeling very lost. Afraid to go back but afraid to transfer too.

I'm in the same place right now. For someone who actually went to community college for two years, I thought that I was doing things right. I wasn't sure of what I wanted to study but I decided to go with Vocal Performance and go to a university out-of-state. I felt a little unsettled about it, but I thought moving away and going through this challenging experience would be amazing and a great growth experience. Now, I'm out here a year later, took this semester of school off because I was so miserable last year. I don't get why I was so miserable and why it was so hard to make friends. Yes, my school was a commuter school and hardly anyone stays on-campus but I didn't know that before I moved here. I like the place I moved to but the school made me miserable. I am still deciding whether I should return to this school in the spring but I am still unsure of what I was studying before and I don't know what to do. Feeling very lost. Afraid to go back but afraid to transfer too.

I do feel the same way you do. I wasn't very popular in high school and I has few friends in high school. High school was the best time of my life and I did really enjoy it, high school was fun, easy thing I have. College is what I expected to be and it is kind but diffrent from high school. I am going community college take required class in general and I have undeicide major yet. I have been to community college for three year and now I don't like it anymore! I have no passion, desire, learning to go class anymore and I am tired of that. I have realized college is not for me and I have tired really hard. I did thought college was for me but not anymore. I want to do something with my life other than college and I have been thinking about get another job that doesn't required college degrees. I am unhappy, miserable at the community college! This is not what I want with my life doing that.

I´m in the same situation. <br />
I have been here almost seven months. <br />
No one seems to be friends with me and seems <br />
to pick those who they knew from work or high school. <br />
I just want to survive and for this it´s going to be tree tough years ahead. <br />
And everyday will be a battle for me! <br />
<br />
But I´m very much motivated to go college everyday. <br />
But my patience is really being tested!

I´m in the same situation. <br />
I have been here almost seven months. <br />
No one seems to be friends with me and seems <br />
to pick those who they knew from work or high school. <br />
I just want to survive and for this it´s going to be tree tough years ahead. <br />
And everyday will be a battle for me! <br />
<br />
But I´m very much motivated to go college everyday. <br />
But my patience is really being tested!

I'm a freshman guy at my local community college. I HATE it. I honestly didn't have too high hopes for college to begin with. In high school and at college expos, they always hype it up as the "best days of your life" and so on, but as you head closer to it, you realize how serious it actually is. <br />
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I started off my semester pretty much alone and upset about not getting to go to the college I wanted, (it's honestly probably my fault because I procrastinated on the application process and just doubted myself overall), and I thought "Hey, maybe this won't be so bad. Maybe I'll make some friends here and actually enjoy this". Turns out I was wrong. It was even worse than high school. In HS, I at least got to talk to people and come home with a story to tell on a daily basis. <br />
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I'm just still adjusting to the strictly lecture-ba<x>sed style of college. It's just so impersonal and emotionless. I just feel like I'm surrounded in a sea full of zombies (and I'm slowly starting to become one myself). At least half of my college is made up of foreigners who are in their late 30s and 40s, and barely speak English, and then the rest is hoodrats and odd, eccentric characters. I've honestly tried to find friends, but its just basically impossible. And I understand that CC isn't the best place to make friends, but I'm just becoming SO miserable. I hate this and I don't want to do it, but I feel like I owe it to my mom for all the hard work she's done for me, and I really need a college degree to feel like somebody and to have a decent-paying job.<br />
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I almost wish I could just make it big in Hollywood tommorow, become a millionaire and just forget all this crap. It's just not what I desire anymore.<br />
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Growing up these days is just so tough for this generation. I applaud anyone of us that actually makes it to the end of this mess.

I know what yall are talking about! I go to a huge university and my parents are so proud....but I am MISERABLE. I don't party and everyone at my school is obsessed with Greek life and getting drunk. I have made friends but not ones that I want to hang out with all the time. I came home for Christmas break and I never want to leave! ugh! College is definitely NOT the best time of my life. I hate it. I want to just hurry up and finish and have a job that I enjoy!

Wow I feel like I'm the exact opposite of everyone here. I love college life and absolutely dread going back home. I didn't have any friends in high school or growing up really so it was pretty easy to leave my home life and go somewhere I've never been before. My school has a very strong residential population, so most people do live on campus. I just feel like there's always stuff to do and I have made really close friends that I've never had before in my life. IMO I feel like it all depends on what school you go to. Some schools are mostly commuters, so there's less people to hang out with and naturally there's less activities that the school funds for. There's literally always some sort of fun activity going on every day at my school.