Really, Mom?

I love my mom, I really do, but she is probably the only person that can turn my good mood bad just by saying one thing. And that one thing doesn't even have to be negative. She irritates me to no end. She asks stupid questions and is always bugging me. I can feel my blood pressure rise when she starts talking to me. Does that make me a bad daughter?
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4 Responses Jan 14, 2013

Ok so I am not the only one who feels like that, what you said is me and my mom all the time. No, I don't think it makes you a "bad" daughter but it could be just the time in both of your lives. For example, when I tell my mom about my day and struggles, she just starts to boss me around and take the role that she knows everything about it. But I never ask for her "help" I just want to vent to her...I have tried telling her that but she doesn't listen. Sometimes moms (esp. when we grow older) want to feel involved and helpful in our lives. That is the burden of growing up, moms have a hard time figuring out when we need their "help/guidance" and when they just need to step back and leave us alone. Also they tend to just getting bossy with age, but then they will mellow out if you wait long enough. Just remember you are not the only one suffering through this problem. I think the hard part for us is that we always feel like are parents should be reasonable, right, patient and nearly perfect, but they are not all the time and it makes it hard for us to always listen to them 100%. But just bare through will get better...hopefully:).

no it does not make you a bad daughter. However if your mom says something that ****** you off, its probably your fault for taking it so personally or seriously, as well as your mothers fault for saying it. I have a dad who everyone else in the world finds anoying as ****, and he is if you let him be, but he always ALWAYS means well, and even if he didnt i wouldnt let anything he says get me down or frustrate me. Your mother is always going to frustrate you, the solution is not your mom changing into a better mother, that is up to her, the solution is for you to react appropraitly to the situation.

No it doesn't! You said you love her and you aren't mean to her... what else could a mother want? but I have exactly the same problem with my mom, no matter how much I love her, I can't stand being around her for a prolongued period of time. She's one of the only people that can make me go crazy in less that 2 minutes. :S

Are you sure that the problem isn't with you and have nothing to do with what she does?

No, but it does is make you a candidate for counseling and maybe with your Mother. Best of luck