Seriously....

I know! I am so sick and tired of hearing about their so-called " perfect " lives. News flash people, nothing in life is perfect. Doing so, especially on FB is just downright pretentious and it makes you look like a total tool.

I get that on my facebook to it's so annoying it's like "Look at us look at us" aren't we so cool sometimes I so feel the urge to write a comment "WE DON'T BLOODY CARE ENOUGH OF YOUR BULLSHIT"

I agree. Not to mention all the drama and immaturity among grown adults.

And here I thought it was only me.. I got on FB by the people whp do pubisity for writers.. Nearly all my neices and nephews are on this grafitti place. I get mail from people who claim they remember me in high school..

In a way I became facinated by the shear number of people on this site.. but as I read what they have to say.. looked at the pictures I also saw the tragity. This all part of the human condition of those who can not bring themselves beyond their own desires. So many seem to be an advertisment for a need they are not willing to satisfy... so sad...

Most of us are starring in the movie of our own lives, lol. And some of us want everyone else to know about it. I suppose it's part of the cycle of growth, only many get stuck in a certain stage or phase and can't seem to move on. It's kind of fascinating when you think about it (this is why i'm not always so much fun at parties, lol!! :P)

I see Facebook for what it is...a great marketing tool.

I use it for promoting my business.

But I guess others like to use to promote their life!!!

You know, I actually don't have even ONE like-minded friend over there. There are just people I knew and thought were my friends way back when. But I quickly found out, that they couldn't care less about me, AND that we have absolutely zero in common. I wonder why we hung out together before in the first place. Maybe I have just changed and have higher standards for picking my friends now, but it is almost like I have this fake-radar, and can tell when they are being full of crap, either to everyone else or just to me. Just the fact nobody even says hi to me...ever....shows me that they couldn't care less if I even exist. Their loss, of course. As for talking about deeper issues... I just come here, where I am assured of finding people who get it and will not judge me. In fact, it is how I found this place.. Googled "I am Lonely".

I share the stupid account with my H, who has 100 to my 15 "friends"(uses that term loosely). He just adds people he may have met once 25 years ago. *rolls eyes*. To me, that is stupid.

I just check in to see what my friends and a few of our kids are doing. I was thrilled when one of my best friends from childhood found me. We're having lunch this Wed. and I haven't seen her in about 30 years! I do agree, it sure paints a pristine picture most of the time. I don't get why anyone would honestly believe that someone really wants to view over 1,000 pictures of them. Ugh.

My dearest destry, that is exactly why I came here. I love the structure of FB and often wish that EP was structured the same way but I too am sooooooo weary of all the "perfection" that is displayed. How can one take advantage of something like FB to stay connected when all they do is hide in private? How can human connection really take place then? It is bad enough that our technology separates us now and that we all spend more time at the computer than we do in person like villages of old. I think too that there is a "fear" that drives people to keep quiet about their troubles. They fear their employer will catch them being real or negative or something. Or they fear judgment from others. Either that or their lives are really that charmed and they have no clue what thinking deeply is all about. As they say, ignorance is bliss. Here's one thing you may want to look into though: create a secret FB group and add only the people that you think may want to speak up w/out being seen by the rest of the friends on FB. I belong to a secret FB group and it is really nice to talk about deeper issues with like minded friends.

Most likely a lot are unhappy and masking it by lying on FB. To everyone else and maybe themselves.

What I really hate is the partying pics. Come on, when you are 45, should you really be out every weekend partying it up getting drunk and then posting pics of it? It makes them look pathetic to me, and I think... nice example you are setting for your preteen or teenage kids. Bleh.

I agree with all of the above. FB is an amazing way to reach out to long lost friends, but everyone's group is dominated by packs of narcissists screaming for adulation. I just disengaged from our overpopulated family FB site to create my own. I plan to keep the group small, and the posts real. I'll volunteer from the start that I have no money for impressive vacations (or much of anything else), and my life is mostly boring. No one may listen, but it will be a real voice crying out in the wilderness of pretension.

thanks for the comments :)

For me it's either people being braggadocios about their supposedly perfect lives, or being completely dramatic and passive-aggressive in their comments and status messages. Either way it's a kind of overshare that I find annoying and shallow. For some reason I can't bring myself to delete my Facebook, though, as there are enough real friends on mine and it's a nice way to keep in touch when not abused by silly people who are obviously very superficial or so dramatic and immature.

grr i hate FB too! but i need it for now. group invitations and such...



i know its fake and stuff and i do get jealous of my friends who post tons of pix too. like wth? i get depressed when i find out they went somewhere without inviting me



but i fake it too lol i used to do it a lot. posted tons of pix to make me look like i was having such a great life. and i always told my best friend and bf to post a nice comment on my wall LOL

yea very high school. but i go on fb less often now...well maybe because its finals week

but yea I hate FB too. i hate having to compete with ppl to look good u know

:P

I totally agree with you about the "high school" reunion attitude. God. I hate facebook.

The friends that bother to answer my PMs have my email, anyway. I don't know why I bother with anyone else. I hate being ignored when I send one.

I thought it was novel at first and then realized that it was pretty lame. I use it to keep in contact with a few friends and some of the games.

Is she behaving? :D

I do like the Hockey Pool.

That's the only reason I check in there anymore.

(Oh and the check up on my daughter to make sure she is behaving.)

lol! @ scoobs! :P



It is like constantly attending a high school reunion where everyone likes to look like their lives turned out sooooo fabulous. Look at Me! Look at Me! So phony...Bleh. I don't think I can stand it anymore, no matter how bored I get!

I agree. All I see on Facebook is people bragging about their perfect lives and relationships. It drives me crazy. My mother actually lies on there to look like her life is better. She makes me go along with her lies, too. She'll say, "Post a comment under my status that says, 'I hope you have fun!'' When she's really not going anywhere.

So I guess this means you won't be my neighbor on Farmville? :-P