Written on June 28th, 2010
So one of my pet peeves is obvious inauthentic, transparent people. I know that there will be these types of people who come in and out of your life in some way shape or form and that's just life and we just deal with those types of people accordingly..but it still irks me. So my personal experience (without dragging you through the events that took place step by step) is that me & this girl who technically is my cousin but I no longer claim her as that, had a falling out about a little over a year ago. The night the incident happened she was at my house earlier, being chummy and smiling in my face. Later that night she had a domestic dispute with her lover who was a friend of mine; whom she had met at my house on several occasions. So I happened to phone that friend not knowing at all what I was walking into- I didn't even know that they were secret lovers until this very moment. The friend asked me to "please come and get my cousin" and stated the landlord who lived in the building was on the verge of calling the police because of the loud screaming tantrum my "cousin" was throwing. Shocked, but concerned for all involved I got in the car and went to pick up my "cousin" and her daughter to take them home. Things got ugly as soon as I arrived, she took her anger out on me all of a sudden and we exchanged heated words back and forth. That was the END of our "friendship" if you can call it that. I realized then that our friendship never existed.
So I've moved on and life for me has been great. Things are always looking up and I have never been happier to expose and get rid of a toxic person in my life. Since we have mutual family, it was only a matter of time before her name would pop up again. A cousin of mine called me to tell me that she had been reaching out to him on Facebook and they exchanged numbers. She called him and spent an entire conversation trying to bash me, paint me in a bad light and change his mind about me. He was disgusted at her attempt. I would never try to drag mutual family into a messy dispute that had nothing to do with them whatsoever. He stated that she seemed to miss me but doesn't accept any wrongdoing on her part and was very stubborn about the subject. However, she's asking a lot about me. My new boyfriend, how many times I've visited the mutual cousin, how often do I speak to him etc etc. Weird obsession lol.
I noticed she really was never on Facebook and I had deleted my Myspace and moved to a more grown up Facebook. All of a sudden she started using FB more and more and I would notice her popping up on a lot of my friends' friendslists. Here is the part that irks me.
I constantly see her going on people's pages professing her undying love and loyalty to them which is no crime, however, she has NO RELATIONSHIP with these people whatsoever. She only knows "who" they are. She doesn't call and chat with these people. I do. She doesn't hang out with these people. I do. She doesn't know whats going on in these people's lives. I do. She is irrelevant! Perfect example of what I am talking about: She constantly goes on the FB page of a mutual cousin of ours who if it weren't for me when we used to be friends, she would never even know. They've never related on a personal level and she doesn't have a relationship with her except that we're all related, but they've never been buddies like myself and this particualr person. She will leave a comment on her page at least once a week to the tune of "I love you cousin, I've always looked up to you" Huh? You don't even know her. You've been around her like twice, seriously, get a life. "I love you always mama, have a safe weekend." any and everything to just get attention and that what I think it really is. I think she wants to be noticed without looking like she is trying to be noticed. Why else is she on the pages of people she knows I have a close and actual relationship with??!! The part that proves that her fakeness is not only noticable by me is that none of these people she leaves these over-the-top, inauthentic, transparent messages for, NEVER respond. You'd think she's get the idea huh? Nope lol. Everytime I see this I just want to make a comment and call her out on this BS but I have to remind myself that I'm grown, its just FB and her fakeness no longer directly affects me:-) But its just my pet peeve and I wish she would just delete her Fb and save her BS for her myspace friends where maybe she matters a little bit. That's my rant. I hate fake INAUTHENTIC people with a passion….