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thats really lovely writing well done i hope u can start living your life again soon

So beautifully written Sam,and i agree with Auspicious give it some time and it will work out one way or the other,either way you can start to live your life again. I hope you are feeling better today, you are in my prayers every night.

Your verse is beautiful.



You need to find a resource without emotional ties to either of you (marriage counselor, pastor, etc.) to help you reestablish and maintain communication. You each need first to become aware of each others needs and second to take action to meet those needs.



My wife certainly deserves most of the credit for keeping us together. Her patience and forbearance were monumental. She was primarily responsible for the church centered activities we share. She made it a point to share my interest in railroads. She helped us through the small obstacles that might have destroyed our marriage. My male ego made it difficult to accept her point of view, especially when I knew in my heart that she was right. She made it a point to be seductive and interesting for me but she frequently required some guidance to learn what was most effective. We made an early decision to do as much as possible as a couple. We always held hands in public. She chose to be a homemaker rather than a career woman. That diminished our income but it meant that there were only demands from one career straining our marriage. It meant that there would be time when we were both free to spend with one another.



The really big and important obstacles to our marriage were never a problem. It was easy for each of us to give 100% of our effort to overcome them. The most strain came from trivial obstacles. These should be the easiest to overcome but in many cases we invest our egos in these foolish positions. You both need to find someone who can help you sort out your important differences from the unimportant ones. Try to rediscover what it was that attracted you to each other in the first place; you may find in them the basis for continuing love and understanding.



I am so thankful that my wife was there for me when I finally was in a position in which I really needed her. It was easy for me to return the favor when those roles were reversed. I love her and I will always be there for her so long as I am physically and mentally able. I wish the same for you.

Does your husband know how you feel?

What a powerful and evocative description of your emotional pain! I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I hope you find peace soon.

Sam, you can win. Just be understanding, and give it some time.