No, I'm Not Inlove With You And I'm Not Planning On Seducing You!

There's a pretty good reason why I don't make my sexual orientation public knowledge. I've noticed this several times and it's not just happened to me, I've seen it happen to my lesbian friends as well. Just because I'm bi-sexual (though I hate labeling) doesn't mean I'm attracted to every woman I come into contact with! And if I'm not attracted to them it doesn't make them ugly, it just means that we don't have chemistry and I don't feel an attraction! I had a friend who pretty much freaked out when I told her that I'm attracted to women as well. She felt uncomfortable just being normal around me. She went all weird on me if her arm accidentally brushed against mine and hugs were always uncomfortable. She stopped kissing me on the cheek and sleeping next to me on sleepovers. I had a talk with her about it and I realised that she was reacting out of gross misconception of how my sexual preference would affect our friendship. I tried to explain to her that just because I'm attracted to women as well, it doesn't mean that I'm particularly attracted to her. She's like a sister to me, so any interaction with her is familiar rather than sexual. She understood and felt more at ease, but then something else bothered her. She wanted to know why I wasn't attracted to her! She wanted to know what it was about her that I found to be unattractive. Now that was a tough one! Of course I had to explain to her again that she's like a sister to me, so it would be weird for me to look at her as a sexual being. She's more like my gorgeous older sister.

The point is that there are so many misconceptions regarding bi and homosexuality. I hate it when women think that just because I date women too, I'm totally keen and perving over each and every woman that comes my way! Get over it! I'm NOT in love with you!

Dariah Dariah
22-25, F
3 Responses Feb 16, 2010

I am a guy and i feel like this most of the time. It may not be because you are bi, it just may be the way women think, atleast the dumb ones. Sorry for the sexism. Girls tend to think about potential relationships non stop. if they see a ugly dude they may think "omg i would never date him because hes so ugly" while they guy doesnt even know if he wants to know them at all.

Totally understand this. Just because I am in love with A WOMAN, does NOT mean I want to make love to EVERY woman.....

Thanks! Good to know someone else actually gets it! :)