What About Men Being Abused By Their Women

Since l have written the above piece a lot of wonderful things has happened in my life. The main thing was that l met the most wonderful beautiful woman and she truly loves me and respects me and l love and respect her. The fact that l'm in a wheelchair has not made her treat me anything but normal. What makes it more remarkable is we met each other on a dating site. When l first saw her photo l thought "she's to pretty she would never be interested in a guy that does not have a job and sits in a wheelchair. BUT I WAS WRONG It shows never give up on real love because you could miss something that never can be put into words. I am still without a job but saving money somehow to buy her an engagement ring because l want to marry this wonderful angel as soon as possible

The dynamics are just the same-if it's the woman hitting the man or the man hitting the woman...
I'm so glad you got out and found a kind person who really loves you.
Nobody deserves to get beat up, especially in their own home by someone who supposedly "loves" them.

Yes, you are completely right. I volunteer at a womens shelter, and during my crisis training they made it a point to mention that though statistics point to women being abused more often then men, that men are less likely to report the abuse because they do not want to be seen as weak, or because they feel they won't be believed. Though it is just as serious, these men fall through the cracks. I am glad you were able to leave your situation and hope you find happiness in your freedom.

This is garbage. Nobody should have to endure an assault, regardless of gender. Females most definitely are not defenseless. I'll tell two stories. First, when I was a teenager, a family from Virginia came to visit my parents. They had a teenage daughter. I said something she didn't like, so she slapped me. I took her aside and told her that, while that may be an acceptable practice where she was from, it wasn't acceptable here. I added that if she ever slapped me again, I would belt her. Fortunately for both of us, she didn't. Second, my youngest son was attacked by a girl on the way home from school one day. She was beating him with her backpack. His older brother stepped in and stopped it. The girl then accused the brother of hitting her. She showed up at my house with her mother, who was all bent out of shape and wanting me to punish the brother. I referred the mother to the crossing attendant, who had witnessed the whole thing. The mother verified the story and returned to apologize. I certainly hope the girl was punished severely. "Thou shalt not hit girls" is ridiculous. "Thou shalt hit nobody" is the correct standard for both genders. Self-defense knows no gender boundaries. There is absolutely no reason for a double standard.

What l have noticed about my story which is true is that very few women gave feedback

wanted to comment on this story and how sad it is that you felt like you had no where to turn. I like your comment about violence makes things worse.

Thanks to this part of my life that l told about here l have had a lot of support and made lots of new friends Thank you all and may you have a wonderful 2012

I too went thru this, and know the type of things it does to your psyche, I tolerated it for a number of years for the sake of my daughter and still in the end lost everything including who I once was, and a great deal of my sanity, my self-esteem, my ability to trust, my family, its really crazy how bad being strong enough to knock anyone out, if need be, but having your values, and who you are at the core stop you from defending yourself can screw with a man's head, and even though I lost everything, I wake up every morning and thank god that chapter in my life is closed, but the scars left behind can be very vicious ones

The hurt is not always physical. She can cut your heart out with rude remarks, insincerity, impatience, digging up old cows etc etc. .

This was terrible. I'm sad that you had to go through this....but am proud of you for leaving her. Noone should ever have this happen to them. All the best. :-)

I feel what you feel, and l promised myself that l would never get involved in another abusive relationship. I am just glad that l never hit her back because then l would have been just like her. She now lives in another town. She phoned me a couple of weeks to tell me that she still loves me, and that she and her mother wants me to visit them.



Someone told her that l broke up with my then girlfriend and she must try her luck again. Yesterday l got a letter from her. She tells me that she has changed but l find that hard to believe. What does my EP friends think about that?

I do know what you are talking about. It was not a common occurance but it did happen several times. My EX had a very nasty, vicious side to her I never saw until many years into our 22 year marriage. Unfortunately my two sons witnessed it more than once and it would tear at my heart to hear them yelling "Mom, stop, Please stop doing that to dad". When she was obviously loosing a very heated discussion and she had no reasonable response in defense of her point of view she would get so frustrated she would lash out and just start hitting, punching, slapping and sometimes even kicking as she aimed at the most sensitive area. All I could do was back off or sometimes I tried just grabbing her hands until she calmed down. I could never bring myself to fight back or ever hit her even in self defense. That is not me or the way I was raised. She has been gone for 4 years now and the last I heard spending much more time with other women than with men. When she moved out she told me she wanted a change in lifestyle so she left the country and moved to a condo she shared with another woman in a city. Guess she found her change in lifestyle.

I feel EVERY word you have said my friend. Mine lasted twice as long as your's and just ended. It wont happen again. My Best.

Abuse is wrong, no matter who the victim is. And you're right, there are many men who are abused, and more people need to speak out on their behalf as well. But society and upbringing have caused most men to keep quiet and suffer in silence rather than speak out. Often times when a man reports a woman for abusing him, they're viewed as weak or ignorant for allowing a woman to abuse them in the first place. It's a double-standard which doesn't belong in this day and age. My brother was constantly abused by his soon to be ex-wife (wonder why she's becoming his ex?), and after this going ignored for years by the police, she was FINALLY taken in to custody after our sister, myself, and numerous other people witnessed her punching him in the face. It's too bad that so many men who are abused are ignored. That needs to change, and quickly.

try it,rather that than getting bullied

furk that,a backhand would be the only language she knows....

that sucks dude. some women do it b/c there men are too much of a gentleman to hit back.

Since radical feminism is now so "hip," men are not going to get very far. After all, we are just liars. They can now have their cake and eat it too. And their lesbian relationships, which themselves, end up in cat fights.